I got dumped by a girl because I was too overattached.
In the end, I summarized many of my previous behaviours (even before meeting her) to find out if I did something wrong.
So, These are some interesting points I found out:
I relied on her to be in peace. Even further, my emotional stability depended of her. When I was with her everything was peace, but a little after I felt alone again.
When I was without her, I was desperate of finding someone. The desperation was in my face even when I tried to hide it.
I was always escaping myself with social networks.
When I'm with my friends, I was too concerned of what they think of me. Meanwhile some other friends do what they want and are accepted like that.
I have my friends, dads, a psychologist, a job, a career and enough money to buy things I like. But none of that ever made me feel in peace and secure about myself.
I had hope for a relationship to make me feel secure, and now even that fell down.
Yes, sure another woman will make me feel better. But not complete, I lost hope of feeling complete with a woman.
Now I'm using the breakup to find myself and get used to be alone. I think that will even make me deal with relationships way better like I do now.
We all say "You can't love someone if you don't love yourself" and "You need how to be alone to be with someone", but do we ever learn that? What about being really alone? Without even knowing if you will get chances with another woman. In the long run, yes, of course. But nobody guarantees you that next week or even next month you'll be with someone.
In the end, I summarized many of my previous behaviours (even before meeting her) to find out if I did something wrong.
So, These are some interesting points I found out:
I relied on her to be in peace. Even further, my emotional stability depended of her. When I was with her everything was peace, but a little after I felt alone again.
When I was without her, I was desperate of finding someone. The desperation was in my face even when I tried to hide it.
I was always escaping myself with social networks.
When I'm with my friends, I was too concerned of what they think of me. Meanwhile some other friends do what they want and are accepted like that.
I have my friends, dads, a psychologist, a job, a career and enough money to buy things I like. But none of that ever made me feel in peace and secure about myself.
I had hope for a relationship to make me feel secure, and now even that fell down.
Yes, sure another woman will make me feel better. But not complete, I lost hope of feeling complete with a woman.
Now I'm using the breakup to find myself and get used to be alone. I think that will even make me deal with relationships way better like I do now.
We all say "You can't love someone if you don't love yourself" and "You need how to be alone to be with someone", but do we ever learn that? What about being really alone? Without even knowing if you will get chances with another woman. In the long run, yes, of course. But nobody guarantees you that next week or even next month you'll be with someone.