Learning the hard way SUCKS, yet again I find out..

[mb121]

It had to happen sooner or later. I really liked this girl for like half the year. She is extremely attractive and I cannot see why she didn't have a date to the 9th grade Prom. There was a time when i went up to her and starting talking about the prom and I asked if she had anyone escorting her. She said extremely shyly "ohhh...im going with..my freinds"...and I was SUCH AN AFC that I just SAT THERE ON MY LAZY ASS AND DIDN'T ASK HER OR ANYTHING.

NOW, as i write this, the prom is starting in about half an hour. I COULD be going with her, but no, now im stuck here yet again on this forum board trying to figure out what Im doing wrong when I know damn well what it is to begin with. I have to change, somehow, and Im deppressed that it is the end of the year with like 10 school days left where I live. I don't have much of a social life, kind of, but nothing much. So there is no way i can socially improve myself over the summer. I have no idea what to do, but maybe I guess get stronger and "more muscular" or something of that sort. Maybe this is a good learning experience? I don't know, all I know is that I feel sick in the stomach i have wasted 3 years of Junior high being a pansy and the only thing i've gotten is writing this rant on a forum board that is probably pissing people off as they read it.

I guess a proper question now is: What do I do over the summer to improve myself into the DonJuan lifestyle? Besides work out a little, what else?

 

[mike14]

you should also go out every chance that you get....and practice.

 

[mb121]

Heh, where? To the mall? Alone? =/

 

[Ronny_Neumonic II]

lol dude, chill.


Ok 10 school days. Thats plenty of time. The next time you see that chick, ask her out on a date. Just suck it up and if she says no - so the fúck what? Who cares? You might, at first, but give it a day or two and you'll laugh at it. As you get used to the "game" things like rejection wont affect you at all.


As for the summer - try joining a club or something of the sort. Maybe a sport...or if you're not very "sporty" try joining some sort of computer related group, or anime porn group or whatever the fook you are into.

Go out with your friends also during the summer, cause it's not helping anyone if you're going to be anti-social to your own friends.


And lastly - see that link at the top right of the page? Click it. Read it. USE IT.

 

[mb121]

Ask her out on a date? Where?, I can't even drive. Also I think this rejection thing is what I really need to work on. I cannot imagine the pain and emberassment I would feel if rejected by this girl because I have nown her so long. Of course it is these feelings inside of me that are the cause of my own destruction. This ... fear. Fear of rejection above all. I wish there were fake excercises to help me rid of this, but the only way is excercise in the real world...

Oh btw I've read the DJ Bible, the only problem I have is applying its concepts to real life. I HAVE to start doing this.

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

DUDE, obviously if you have been visiting this forum for sometime, you haven't learned anything....you say you have but haven't applied it to your life? well, you have 10 ****ing days of school...make the most of it please, don't kick yourself, for wasting your WHOLE two or three years in jr.high including these next 10 days........like that Pantera song YESTERDAY DON'T MEAN ****..........and its true, think about that next day and the present, what has happened has happened and you can't change the past! make the best of these last days......and then on you'll be to high school with another 3 years of improvement...................if you're attentive and mature a little more and keep coming to this forum, you're bound to get chicks, but first you have to believe in yourself and not care if the chick rejects you, "oh well, its her loss." is what you should put in mind when it comes to rejection.......you're going to be a great master of women that day she is on the date with you*if you ask, and she says yes*therefore resulting in her having a marvelous time or something........and if she refuses, then just says to yourself "oh well, its her loss" on the contrary you have nothing to lose, so therefore you're going to act like a real MAN and not a ***** and walk away confidently if she does reject.......cherish these moments man, make the best out of them..don't procrastinate, and when you have your target on lock...ATTACK!! and attempt to get what you are seeking and wanting like a true or striving DJ would do!!! good night

 

[Eternal]

So what if you can't drive? You know those adults that own you? They are called PARENTS. They can give you and your date a ride. Now that you know that, you shouldn't have an excuse for not talking to her and asking her out. There's just one thing...why aren't you at the prom?

One last thing not directed to you...Ded_Skin: Your posts are hard to read. Please stop typing in a long series of ".............." If you insist on using them, atleast go "..." It's a lot easier on the eyes. Thanks.

 

[stonedtokki]

You're a f*ckin freshman?! You should be glad you got it this early, I'm in 11th grade, most guys @ fs.com are 20's or 30's, even 40's. And I recall reading a post somewhere (not sure if it was @ fs.com or here) but it said that if you're just starting out and are overwhelmed with the wealth of info, just work on one thing at a time. Get a general idea of what your major goal is, and then instead of working towards that, think "ok, this week I'll work on eye contact ONLY. Next week I'll work on kino. " etc. Chill the fsck out dude, you got plenty of time to change, and be glad summer is coming, it gives you time to turn 180 degrees around and people might notice a little but everyone changes during the summer.

 

[Enigmatic]

You've got nothing to worry about man. In my final year of junior high I was one of the biggest AFCs you could ever meet, heartbroken that my girlfriend of three months broke up with me. I'm in grade 11 now, and things have changed completely.

High school is a whole new opportunity man. Chicks are going to be everywhere! Good looking ones!

You have ten days of school left. Take a chance. Ask this chick out on a date. It's already been stated, but if she says no, who cares? You had the balls to ask, which is more than most guys your age can say.

As far as improving yourself over the summer? Of course it could help. How couldn't it help to try improving yourself?

Start working out, getting in shape. Go out with your friends a lot and party. Take up a sport, it doesn't have to be a league team or anything. Just play basketball a few times a week with your buddies or something. Keep busy, and have a life focused on improving yourself and having fun with your friends.

And PRACTISE! The summer is a perfect chance to start applying your DJ skills! Beaches, malls, parks, downtown, everywhere! Women! Get out there and talk to them!

By the time school rolls around, you should be more than prepared.

 

[mb121]

Man you guys are really good at increasing my confidence, I do need to ask her out on a date. Something..a movie..i don't know. All I know is that I am extremely timid naturally and this will be the hardest thing of my entire Jr. High Career. I'm nervous right now thinking about it (seriously) and need to stop this behavior...

I am extremely timid, i have NEVER "gone out" with anyone, taken dates, and rarely even dance at dances. I have made myself an outcast when lots have told me I'd be good at "being good socially".

What have I done to myself?

 

[CrzyBadBoyDJ]

Just quit doubting yourself. Just walk up to her and start a conversation and get that phone number. Just say "What is your phone number" call her a few days later and setup a date! It's very easy and it will cure that regret feeling that you've been having.

This reminds me. There's this chick that I need to get a phone number from. I'm going to be doing the same ****. I don't really care about rejection because I'm a senior and these last few days of school are all I got left and after that I'm moving about 1000 miles away so I really don't care what girls don't want to date me. It's only there loss yo!

 

[aznbreakerjrey]

You remind me a lot of myself bro. I remember when I had noooo self-confidence in my macking skills and I didn't believe I could ever attract a hot chica... well that's change. You have to work on changing your negative thoughts into positive ones... I can even see it in your posts:

"All I know is that I am extremely timid naturally and this will be the hardest thing of my entire Jr. High Career. I'm nervous right now thinking about it"

Oh come on, I know it's tough but I think you're exaggerating just a touch here. lolz And see what I mean about the negative thinking? Look at that "I am timid" shiet-- change that into "arrite I'm feeling confident today."

Make it happen bro.

 

[Oxide]

TAKE THAT **** LOSER ATTITUDE AND STOP COMING HERE !! IF you do not believe you can succeed, nothing will make you.