Recently I read the book Sex at Dawn, recommended to me by some polyamorists that I knew. In my view, it is one of the most important books written since The Selfish Gene. Here are the most important points:
- humans evolved to live in small groups
- women needed to have sex with as many men as possible because then no man would know he was the father of a child and more men would help in the child's upbringing
- as a consequence, sperm competition, rather than social competition, evolved as the main strategy for men to pass on their genes effectively
- in most societies today, it is no longer important that children have many potential fathers, and it is generally presumed that the husband or boyfriend is the father
- however, it is still extremely important for a woman to have sex with as many men as socially possible so that the sperm quality of any offspring is as strong as possible
This report takes place one week after arriving in Colombia.
I had never been in a Spanish speaking country before then. I had spent around five months before the trip learning Spanish from tapes, books and speaking to anyone I could find. I was travelling alone.
Some of the methods used in this report have a potential for personal danger, especially in Colombia. Do not use them until you have read and understood everything in the book.
Ths most important thing that got the lay was the mindset that I gained from the book, which was a complete refusal to compete socially. Remember: If you compete, you lose.
I started with a small group of new friends at my hostel, maybe four guys and one girl. The first step was to make sure that my group was solid. One guy in the group was bragging too much and trying to draw me into competing with him. He succeeded slightly but I recognised it by a drop in attraction from the girl. I withdrew from the group for maybe an hour then came back and used group politics to get all of us on the same level. Specifically, I paid more attention to quieter members of the group and refused to enter discussion with the bragging guy until he had stopped bragging. Success!
We left to go to a big party at another hostel around 10pm. Five minutes after arriving I noticed a Colombian HB7 giving me eyes. I opened immediately, took her to the dance floor, then straight away extracted her back to my hostel. Once we got back I took her to the (now empty) bar area and engaged in some chit chat. Went for the kiss and was denied. Used subtle body language to withdraw slightly then went for the kiss again and succeeded. Now it was time to extract to my bed. However, she threw a sh*t test by dropping something on the ground and telling me to pick it up. I refused. She came out of state and I couldn't recover. No problem, with that kind of stupid act she was probably a gold digger anyway. Back to the party!
I rejoined my group and saw two girls looking at us. I opened immediately and joined the groups together. One of the girls told me that her friend liked one of my friends. I immediately manouvered the group such that they were together. Success!
At around 2am I started feeling really really social and really really needed to dance. I slipped a bouncer some money to get to the dance floor on the roof of the hostel. At this stage I had one guy left from my group and I started showing off by attempting impossible social manouvers. There was a group of guys occupying the centre of the dance floor and I quickly made friends with them. Something about one of them made me mirror him and before I knew it we were both leaning in for a kiss. Oops!!! Jumped back and told him I wasn't gay. Made friends with a mixed group of tourists. They started talking about going to a local plaza so I moved my body language slightly distant and, as expected, one of the girls in the group invited us along.
Now here's where things get interesting. Some police showed up in the plaza and started lining all the tourists up against the wall to search them. I knew what would happen next so I quickly took all the money out of my wallet and stuffed it in my jocks then walked towards the police with a big friendly grin on my face. One of them searched me and pointed to my wallet, which I took out and gave to him. When he opened it he started laughing, then showed it to his mate who started laughing too. I just kept smiling. Haha, yeah totally, stupid gringo with no money
.
My tourist set got annoyed because of the police and left so I joined a Colombian set of three girls plus a guy friend or hanger on. One of them was HB8.5+ (8 face, absolutely smoking 9+ body) and she was also definitely in heat and started to force the interraction by starting an argument with the police. The group tried to make her walk away but she just would not stop. Sh*t was about to get really ugly so I did the only thing I could think of: I put a massive grin on my face and walked straight towards the police with a hearty "Como estan ustedes!?!" (how are you all?). I can only imagine that the shock of seeing a gringo do something so outrageously stupid somehow defused the situation entirely, and I joined the group as we walked away.
As we walked towards a new park the two female friends sounded me out and gave me their seal of approval. Some of them sat down and I sat next to the target and started chatting. Something about the previous interraction struck me. I looked her straight in the eyes and asked "que paso?". She answered "la policia...". Nothing more needed to be said.
I started to manouver the group back to my hostel by suggesting drinks. On the way there the target said that she would understand if I didn't want her to come with me, but I just smiled at her.
By now it was nearly 4am. When we were nearly at my hostel I chatted briefly with two local mafiosa guys in the street briefly before continuing. When we crossed the street nearly at my hostel I noticed that the group was now me, the target, two female friends, and two guys with their girlfriends. One of the guys (the previous hanger on) made a pointed comment about being ex-military, and I recognised the other as being mafiosa. Sh*t. The two female friends bailed in a taxi and I attempted to go with them to do a double back but got denied due to my bad explanation of the tactic in Spanish.
To try to lose the two guys, I started talking about going back to the party. They responded that the party was finished and that we should go to my hostel. I looked at them both and said "estoy muerto" (I'm dead) and they both laughed. The ex-military guy started talking and using the word "confianza" (trust) with the clear meaning of "if you trust me then you should trust my friend". At this point I played the gringo card "no entiendo" (I don't understand) then said that it was time for sleep. I crossed back over the street with the target in the direction of the other hostels, looked back to make sure they weren't following us, then doubled back around a station in the street back to my hostel.
Back in the dorm I escalated quickly. There was no resistance. There were other people in the dorm but I didn't care (too much time spent with polyamorists ) and therefore she didn't care. At one point there was either a last minute sh*t test or misunderstanding where I thought she was going to ask for money. I immediately put my shirt back on and moved to kick her out. She asked why I was doing it and I said "dijiste pagame" to which she responded "no no no". Potential problem averted.
Commence almost 12 hours, on and off, of some of the hottest sex I have ever had in my life.
The aftermath
The bullsh*t started in between sex sessions and I finally gave in after 12 hours and went to lunch with her. She played the "no money" card and I started getting played badly. You might think that western girls are good at playing games but these girls are on another level.
I attempted to turn her into a f*ck buddy but fell for some sh*t tests in the follow-up. It turns out that she had had a fight with her boyfriend, and she returned to him after my mistakes. Ah well, in the great game of natural selection I would definitely have been the winner of this particular competition ;-).
Questions and criticisms welcome!
- humans evolved to live in small groups
- women needed to have sex with as many men as possible because then no man would know he was the father of a child and more men would help in the child's upbringing
- as a consequence, sperm competition, rather than social competition, evolved as the main strategy for men to pass on their genes effectively
- in most societies today, it is no longer important that children have many potential fathers, and it is generally presumed that the husband or boyfriend is the father
- however, it is still extremely important for a woman to have sex with as many men as socially possible so that the sperm quality of any offspring is as strong as possible
This report takes place one week after arriving in Colombia.
I had never been in a Spanish speaking country before then. I had spent around five months before the trip learning Spanish from tapes, books and speaking to anyone I could find. I was travelling alone.
Some of the methods used in this report have a potential for personal danger, especially in Colombia. Do not use them until you have read and understood everything in the book.
Ths most important thing that got the lay was the mindset that I gained from the book, which was a complete refusal to compete socially. Remember: If you compete, you lose.
I started with a small group of new friends at my hostel, maybe four guys and one girl. The first step was to make sure that my group was solid. One guy in the group was bragging too much and trying to draw me into competing with him. He succeeded slightly but I recognised it by a drop in attraction from the girl. I withdrew from the group for maybe an hour then came back and used group politics to get all of us on the same level. Specifically, I paid more attention to quieter members of the group and refused to enter discussion with the bragging guy until he had stopped bragging. Success!
We left to go to a big party at another hostel around 10pm. Five minutes after arriving I noticed a Colombian HB7 giving me eyes. I opened immediately, took her to the dance floor, then straight away extracted her back to my hostel. Once we got back I took her to the (now empty) bar area and engaged in some chit chat. Went for the kiss and was denied. Used subtle body language to withdraw slightly then went for the kiss again and succeeded. Now it was time to extract to my bed. However, she threw a sh*t test by dropping something on the ground and telling me to pick it up. I refused. She came out of state and I couldn't recover. No problem, with that kind of stupid act she was probably a gold digger anyway. Back to the party!
I rejoined my group and saw two girls looking at us. I opened immediately and joined the groups together. One of the girls told me that her friend liked one of my friends. I immediately manouvered the group such that they were together. Success!
At around 2am I started feeling really really social and really really needed to dance. I slipped a bouncer some money to get to the dance floor on the roof of the hostel. At this stage I had one guy left from my group and I started showing off by attempting impossible social manouvers. There was a group of guys occupying the centre of the dance floor and I quickly made friends with them. Something about one of them made me mirror him and before I knew it we were both leaning in for a kiss. Oops!!! Jumped back and told him I wasn't gay. Made friends with a mixed group of tourists. They started talking about going to a local plaza so I moved my body language slightly distant and, as expected, one of the girls in the group invited us along.
Now here's where things get interesting. Some police showed up in the plaza and started lining all the tourists up against the wall to search them. I knew what would happen next so I quickly took all the money out of my wallet and stuffed it in my jocks then walked towards the police with a big friendly grin on my face. One of them searched me and pointed to my wallet, which I took out and gave to him. When he opened it he started laughing, then showed it to his mate who started laughing too. I just kept smiling. Haha, yeah totally, stupid gringo with no money
. My tourist set got annoyed because of the police and left so I joined a Colombian set of three girls plus a guy friend or hanger on. One of them was HB8.5+ (8 face, absolutely smoking 9+ body) and she was also definitely in heat and started to force the interraction by starting an argument with the police. The group tried to make her walk away but she just would not stop. Sh*t was about to get really ugly so I did the only thing I could think of: I put a massive grin on my face and walked straight towards the police with a hearty "Como estan ustedes!?!" (how are you all?). I can only imagine that the shock of seeing a gringo do something so outrageously stupid somehow defused the situation entirely, and I joined the group as we walked away.
As we walked towards a new park the two female friends sounded me out and gave me their seal of approval. Some of them sat down and I sat next to the target and started chatting. Something about the previous interraction struck me. I looked her straight in the eyes and asked "que paso?". She answered "la policia...". Nothing more needed to be said.
I started to manouver the group back to my hostel by suggesting drinks. On the way there the target said that she would understand if I didn't want her to come with me, but I just smiled at her.
By now it was nearly 4am. When we were nearly at my hostel I chatted briefly with two local mafiosa guys in the street briefly before continuing. When we crossed the street nearly at my hostel I noticed that the group was now me, the target, two female friends, and two guys with their girlfriends. One of the guys (the previous hanger on) made a pointed comment about being ex-military, and I recognised the other as being mafiosa. Sh*t. The two female friends bailed in a taxi and I attempted to go with them to do a double back but got denied due to my bad explanation of the tactic in Spanish.
To try to lose the two guys, I started talking about going back to the party. They responded that the party was finished and that we should go to my hostel. I looked at them both and said "estoy muerto" (I'm dead) and they both laughed. The ex-military guy started talking and using the word "confianza" (trust) with the clear meaning of "if you trust me then you should trust my friend". At this point I played the gringo card "no entiendo" (I don't understand) then said that it was time for sleep. I crossed back over the street with the target in the direction of the other hostels, looked back to make sure they weren't following us, then doubled back around a station in the street back to my hostel.
Back in the dorm I escalated quickly. There was no resistance. There were other people in the dorm but I didn't care (too much time spent with polyamorists
) and therefore she didn't care. At one point there was either a last minute sh*t test or misunderstanding where I thought she was going to ask for money. I immediately put my shirt back on and moved to kick her out. She asked why I was doing it and I said "dijiste pagame" to which she responded "no no no". Potential problem averted. Commence almost 12 hours, on and off, of some of the hottest sex I have ever had in my life.
The aftermath
The bullsh*t started in between sex sessions and I finally gave in after 12 hours and went to lunch with her. She played the "no money" card and I started getting played badly. You might think that western girls are good at playing games but these girls are on another level.
I attempted to turn her into a f*ck buddy but fell for some sh*t tests in the follow-up. It turns out that she had had a fight with her boyfriend, and she returned to him after my mistakes. Ah well, in the great game of natural selection I would definitely have been the winner of this particular competition ;-).
Questions and criticisms welcome!