Large gap between first and second dates?

[scudge]

I met this girl about a month ago. Kind of shy. We got together a week later
(not much escalation/didnt get a chance to kiss her yet - mid day in crowded place)
In the past 3 weeks I've hit her up twice to come out again.
Each time she has been supposedly busy (with school/finals), but apolegetic about it.
Last time I texted her was eleven days ago.
Any thoughts on if she is playing games or not and how to spin the situation?

Oh yeah
If it makes any difference, I've hooked up with two other girls in the time inbetween.

 

[LP700-4]

I don't think she's playing mind games.

I have a situation similar to yours. She's a law student. It being finals period for the past two weeks, she's had to postpone two of our days. When she calls she does sound very sorry about it. We were supposed to meet last week Wednesday but she called on that day and said she's very busy with school work so she can't make it. I told her no worries. We can reschedule. I didn't get any response after that.

I waited exactly a week and called her again and asked if she's open to meeting next well Monday. She said yes. After Friday, her finals are over so she definitely wants to meet up.

My advice is call her today and schedule for next week. Most finals are ending this week or next so she should probably accept if she had no other commitments like travel over the break or something.

 

[Yewki]

Sounds like she's either not interested (move on), or is very shy/inexperienced/weird (waste of time?). More than likely just not interested. She would have tried to reschedule or at least initiate some texts otherwise.

 

[nismo-4]

Sounds like she's either not interested (move on), or is very shy/inexperienced/weird (waste of time?). More than likely just not interested. She would have tried to reschedule or at least initiate some texts otherwise.

LMAO! Shy/inexperienced/weird my ass! They all mean low interest!

OP, a woman who wants to see you will find a way. She said she was busy as a way to blow you off. Use the celebrity maxim i.e. Would she be too busy if Channing Tatum asked her out 3 weeks after a first date? F**k no! Unless a better offer came along.

When women flake, see if they counteroffer. If not, just drop her.

Case closed.

 

[PlayHer Man]

LMAO! Shy/inexperienced/weird my ass! They all mean low interest!

OP, a woman who wants to see you will find a way. She said she was busy as a way to blow you off. Use the celebrity maxim i.e. Would she be too busy if Channing Tatum asked her out 3 weeks after a first date? F**k no! Unless a better offer came along.

When women flake, see if they counteroffer. If not, just drop her.

Case closed.

This 100% true.

Most women would rather chop off their foot than be straight-forward and honest with a man. :crackup:

This is why its been said for years in the PUA community that you should ignore what women say and focus on what they do. This advice is given because wise men know women are compulsive liars.

 

[pdx1138]

seconded. This is female attraction 101.

Even if they are too busy, then you go ghost and make no effort....if they are truly interested,
you can bet you'll be hearing from them within a week or two. In the meantime consider
it a lost cause.

 

[Yewki]

LMAO! Shy/inexperienced/weird my ass! They all mean low interest!

I was trying to account for the possibility she has aspergers or is some type of shut in, probably shouldn't have even went there though.

I once had a girl who was extremely weird like that pursue me, but at the same time I couldn't get her to do anything or go anywhere. Wtf right? Lived by herself and was mostly a shut in. I was only mildly interested at best, but when we ran into each other she would make moves... very awkwardly. At first I thought she was trying to play some strange game, took a while to connect the dots. She was too inexperienced/weird and just couldn't handle it.