Lady reaches out from the blue

[RickTheToad]

Back in January, I was chatting with a lady on Bumble. TBH, I have a vague memory on what she looked like, but we texted, then talked. She had a cold, and it sounded like she did on the phone. She wanted to meetup for drinks, and I agreed. She said let me reach out to you when the cold clears up. I hadn't heard from her, so I just started to entertain other ladies.

She just texted me a few minutes ago. I didn't recognize the number, but I checked my log and it was her. She said I do not know why we never talked, but I just wanted to reach out and say hey. We did talk and I was awaiting her to hear back from her, never did, so I just moved on.

Ideas? It's kinda surprising she reaches out exactly two months after we last talked; which she doesn't even recall talking. She must "talk" to a lot of guys. Lol.

 

[Glassguy]

She talks to a lot of guys. Probably fvcks a lot of guys too.....dont let her fool you.

Its easy what Glassguy would do and hopefully you've been around here long enough that I dont have to explain why:

"Im free Thursday night around 8. Why dont you come over and we can have a few drinks and catch up".

Thats all she would get from me for obvious reasons. She will accept and show up or I dont care if she texted me every day, I would never respond back.

If she counters with "can we meet at such and such place on Friday for drinks?" I would simply say "Nah, not free then. If my place on Thursday doesnt work, no problem. Maybe some other time".

Thats it.

Some of the dudes on here let ex gf's come back after they vanish for weeks. I can understand to a degree because you dated them for a while.

But for some chick that vanished and I invested nothing in? Nah. Come over to pound town or GTFO.

And I will be fine either way.

 

[backseatjuan]

Just champ baiting you, on one hand she doesn't remember, on the other hand she wants to talk. Msg her, bet your flue messed up your memory, you never got in touch, I thought you died.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She talks to a lot of guys. Probably fvcks a lot of guys too.....dont let her fool you.

Its easy what Glassguy would do and hopefully you've been around here long enough that I dont have to explain why:

"Im free Thursday night around 8. Why dont you come over and we can have a few drinks and catch up".

Thats all she would get from me for obvious reasons. She will accept and show up or I dont care if she texted me every day, I would never respond back.

If she counters with "can we meet at such and such place on Friday for drinks?" I would simply say "Nah, not free then. If my place on Thursday doesnt work, no problem. Maybe some other time".

Thats it.

Some of the dudes on here let ex gf's come back after they vanish for weeks. I can understand to a degree because you dated them for a while.

But for some chick that vanished and I invested nothing in? Nah. Come over to pound town or GTFO.

And I will be fine either way.

Can she not talk to alot of guys but get more pleasure stringing guys along and getting freebies? Ie no one or almost no one is hitting?

 

[Glassguy]

I don't know one attractive woman that isn't fvcking someone. Relationship or behind the scene with a FB.....they have needs too.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I don't know one attractive woman that isn't fvcking someone. Relationship or behind the scene with a FB.....they have needs too.

I didnt say shes not fvcking one guy. But 99.9% are strung along. Most arent getting a shot.

Some of them act like they are on a celebate period waiting for the right guy. This is a front? Theres a fwb behind there somewhere?

 

[Robert28]

I know the type of girl you’re talking about. You’re in her rotation. You’ll go out and she will talk about all the bad dates she’s been on and how there are no good men left, then you’ll get the “I had s nice time but don’t feel a spark, let’s be friends” text and back to the end of the rotation you go until she texts you again for “friend things” (aka everything but sex). Seen this type a million times. She’s a serial online dater.

 

[glass half full]

Just champ baiting you, on one hand she doesn't remember, on the other hand she wants to talk. Msg her, bet your flue messed up your memory, you never got in touch, I thought you died.

That would be a quick conversation wouldn't it? Funny though..

 

[Glassguy]

I didnt say shes not fvcking one guy. But 99.9% are strung along. Most arent getting a shot.

Some of them act like they are on a celebate period waiting for the right guy. This is a front? Theres a fwb behind there somewhere?

Total front. Do you expect her to say "I'm current fvcking and sucking 4 c0vks"? No. They are coy.

Just like when a woman asks me "are you sleeping with anyone right now?". No. I'm not.
I'm just playing their game on them.

True most guys are getting strung along without getting a shot. Orbiters. Those guys are getting the low interest signs but cant see them. So they continue to chase and spin their wheels.

I don't know one single attractive chick that is not screwing someone. It may be a guy who is a FB that is on limited time until she meets someone who is a strong LTR possibility....but isnt that the reason for a FB?

 

[RickTheToad]

She lives in the city, so I doubt she's jumping on a train to come to see me since we've not talked since January; let alone even seen me in person yet. I'll just ask when you're free and see if the date she suggests works into my schedule when I am actually in the city to grab a drink. It's one of the biggest issues dealing with city ladies.

 

[Glassguy]

She lives in the city, so I doubt she's jumping on a train to come to see me since we've not talked since January; let alone even seen me in person yet. I'll just ask when you're free and see if the date she suggests works into my schedule when I am actually in the city to grab a drink. It's one of the biggest issues dealing with city ladies.

You're missing the whole point of why I wouldn't do it this way.
I dont care if she moved 2 hrs away. I would handle it exactly like I told you.

 

[Toddz]

Meh she's just looking for validation.

She told you she'd reach out when the cold cleared up and never did. Enough said.

 

[Glassguy]

I would treat this the same as I would a flake that reaches back out.

Allow me to put myself in Rick's shoes for a moment and explain it to you guys:

1.) I give zero fvcks if she comes over or not. There is probably a 25% chance that she will (and thats with ME doing the communicating......and I am GOOD at this). Its a freebie. If she comes over, great. If not, great. But she will understand that she has a whooooollllleeeeeee lotta ground to make up with Glassguy if she does.

2.) She had a drinks date, fully paid on my dime, until she just vanished. Now that is out the window. Now its my place only. Take it or leave it.

3.) There is a reason that I would simply invite her over on an evening that I had no plans. Thats her worth to me after she showed me her flaky personality. I would not invest anything more than walking to my front door to let her in. Period.

4.) You are showing INCREDIBLE low worth if you allow some woman to fall off the face of the earth, reappear, and take her for drinks. Like WTF is wrong with you? Get your dating mind right. You should be worth more than these low standards.

Now let me tell you where the problem lies:

You're too fvcking nice. Let me repeat that. Youre too fvcking nice.

Women want a challenge. Thats probably why she vanished the first time......you werent a challenge. I know you're going to say some shyte like "but I followed this rule and that rule.....blah blah". Its not necessarily what you say with women, its how you say it. These chicks are SMART. They can tell the difference of a guy who can bang 8 girls tonight and a guy with no options. How do they know that? Because the guy banging 8 chicks will still have a fun, laid back and mysterious personality, but he wont put up with a drop of shyte from these chicks. They LOVE that. They WANT to work for a man.

I will promise you this- I have gotten far more women by just being blunt and making them come into my frame than I have negotiating in the beginning. FAR more. I will do a drinks date but if something falls through, now they have to come to ME.

Let me say it again for the people in the back......YOURE TOO FVCKING NICE.

When they vanish or flake and come back, then its all about me baby. I could care less about how they take that. More times than not they fall right into my frame because they know I have a take it or leave it attitude.

That doesnt mean that I cuss them out, be mean, act p!ssy, throw a fit.......noooooooo. I just walk the fvck away.

How do they know that I will? The same way they know that when they come back after weeks or months and tell you to jump, they know youll only say "how high?". These chicks can see right through your bullshyte.

Act like a player all you want. Its an ACT. Make one mistake on her shyte test and she will reconfirm to herself that you're no player...nah you're a beta.

Meet this chick for a drink and see what happens. It wont be good.
And thats if she shows up. Once you fail this shyte test youll realize you probably had a better chance to come to your place.

I dont care if she lives 4 hours away. Chick you messaged ME. You will come to ME or I will just block your damned number.

 

[backseatjuan]

You already at disadvantage with her a) you’re on OLD and b) she is 2 hours away or whatever some distance away. It speaks volumes to her, this guy doesn’t have it at abundance.

 

[RickTheToad]

I backed away. She started to act weird of text. Waiting hours to respond with one or two words. Glassguy was right. NEXT

 

[backseatjuan]

Waiting hours to respond with one or two words.

See the raw btch in action. It's a process. First she throws champ bait at you after you alpha baited her and she clearly spoken to you from the abundant cck carousel of hers. So she reaches out, as if aww poor puppy what happen to you, are you sick, why are you not giving attention to me. You went for that sht, and looked with your puppy eyes on that btch. Now she's waving at you while she takes a ride on her cck carousel and scks dcks one or two at a time.

I'm sick brother is a code word for I don't find you attractive enough I need extra attention and comport if I'm to spend my ho ass time with you, online only.

These btches are ridiculous man. Out in the wild the only type of btch that you see not in her phone are really old btches, grand mas.

I'm telling you this. You are at a disadvantage on OLD, they all are judging your ass from the beginning, even before you wrote to her your first message. For her, if you are online that means you don't have sht going in your real life, that already means beta for her, so she treats your ass as beta. Even if you're ripped like Antone, I bet you know Antone by now, he is also Lazar Agelov, lul. Even Antone is beta in their eyes because he is online. Why the fck would Antone be online with such a killer body? That's one thing man. In your situation there is another thing, your distance from them. They don't care about the logistics, if you are far away and you speaking to them you already a beta with no other options. That's the way it is man.

This is why I nailed my OLD game if you can call it like that to two simple sentences, first one is an intro, second one is give me your number. There is no other way a btch from OLD can meet me. She has no tricks in her arsenal to keep me there.


P.S. my suggestion to you besides modifying your approach like above would be to not write far away btches by indicating you live in the city, lie to them.

 

[RickTheToad]

Yes, she was responding pretty quickly, and then all of a sudden, four to five hour lapse and texts me at 10:30pm when our last text was around 5pm. Fvck that. Later.

 

[Fzatf]

Yes, she was responding pretty quickly, and then all of a sudden, four to five hour lapse and texts me at 10:30pm when our last text was around 5pm. Fvck that. Later.

I don't know. If she just got busy one time it wouldn't be a big deal to me. People have lives.

 

[RickTheToad]

I don't know. If she just got busy one time it wouldn't be a big deal to me. People have lives.

Perhaps, but I am not even on Bumble right now and deleted my profile. We've never met, and I vaguley recall what she looks like. Unless she screenshotted me, how the fvck does she know what I look like? Then to reach out two months later? Seems really weird and strange.