Lack of sex or lack of women is reason for most unhappiness in life...

[mahon83050]

In essense, women HAVE IMMENSE POWER over men.

I can tell you 100% in all honesty, the reason for most of my depression and unhappiness in life has been lack of women or lack of female compansionship. I am 30 and never had a LTR with a woman. It hurts even more, since I am on the attractive side. This is probably true for most other men who don't have a wife, girlfriend or haven't gotten any in awhile.

Who do you think is happier? A millionaire who has all of these material things, but no woman or guy who has an average job, house, but is married to an attractive woman? I think this one is no brainer........

I have also witnessed this with some older guys at work. One guy is 45, lives at home, is overweight, and has never had anybody. He teases and hits on all of the women (18 year olds at well) since he is so DESPERATE for female attention. Although he doesn't seem it, I am SURE he is MISERABLE inside since he does not have a female companion.

If a man is unhappy or depressed, 90% of the time it is due to lack of sex or lack of female companionship.

Look at men in prison. I bet the worst thing about it is lack of access to the opposite sex.

 

[shop until I die!]

It's hard to argue with that.

 

[Interceptor]

This is why it is so important for men to dedicate their lives to seeking out and enjoying their passions in life.
A life filled with purpose makes the hardest times manageable.
Female companionship is a precious commodity, yes. But fulfilling your own dreams and desires is too.
Here's something you must take into consideration...
You are not here just to find a woman, or to just to be with women.
No, you are here to find out what is your passion, and your purpose in life.
Find that, and keep working to achieving that. And it will give you the strength during the lean times.
A life filled with purpose is what you are here for.

The truth is...it is worse to be lonely and unfulfilled while in a relationship, than just to be alone.
ANother truth is, that many, many males simply do not have the will, desire, or the comprehension to understand attraction and seduction. They believe that somehow a magical woman will appear at their doorstep while thet're sitting their playing their XBox.
This is highly unlikely.
You must find what makes you happy first.
You must understand what masculinity IS>
You must understand what attraction/seduction is.
You must do all that you can to maximize your potential in this area.
This is ALL your Responsibility.
You can work on improvingyourself toyourliking, and working on your dreams, or you can turn the other way and focus on loneliness, and misery.

Companionshio is great. The love of a woman is great.
having someone love you and think about you is great.

Buit if you don't love and accept yourself, you focus on your misery and the negative, you don't try to make your dreams a reality in your life...what do you have to offer another?
Why would a woman be attracted to you?
Think about that.

And at the end of the daym, again I say, it is worse to actually BE in a relationship, and STILL fell lonely as all Hell and wish you were free.
Being alone is differnet than being lonely.
Strive to be comfortable in your own skin and feel comfortable with yourSELF.
Learn about your SELF.
Feeling lonely is normal. Dwelling on it is counterproductive and destructive.

If you were to use that energy to feel good about yourself, to trust yourself, to have compassion for yourself and others, and that there will always be people who are not attracted to you at some level, you will find some peace and consolation.


Don't dwell on loneliness.
Dwell on success and your dreams. And the true purpose you are here on the Earth.

 

[bigjohnson]

Who do you think is happier? A millionaire who has all of these material things, but no woman or guy who has an average job, house, but is married to an attractive woman? I think this one is no brainer........

Well, it is, but only because it illustrates the fallacy of this line of thought. The millionaire (or wealthy man, a million isn't what it used to be) will always have tail following him like a pack of lost puppies. That's just how it is, they can't help it, and in fact seldom actually admit it, but women chase security like mosquitoes to carbon dioxide.

 

[speakeasy]

Look at men in prison. I bet the worst thing about it is lack of access to the opposite sex.

That is the one thing that scares me the most about the thought of life in prison. The fact that you will NEVER touch a woman for the rest of your life.

 

[KneghtRyder]

I have to definetly agree with this.
Attractive female is the key. I am one of those those really goes for the looks. I like the blonde milfs or brunnette cindy crasford look to them.
I think that is a large part of our motivation, and that we need to improve ourselves to make it to a happy place. We need to work out, lose weight.
We need to improve our looks. Get that high paying job. Get self-confidence.

I think ultimately it would make you happy..but i would say it would make you happy if everything else was going well as well. like your financial situation was okay and etc.

I am 26 going on 27 now. I definetly am very concerned about self-improvement , and making myself the best I can be , because I know the next 4-5 years where i am dating is going to be the biggest time to explore and meet the perfect partner ..spending the time wisely in sampling for the prefect partner out there is an important step. because if you get married, you want to make sure you are happy. So basically , yes dont waist your time and get yourself together and find happiness in life.

Ive been alone for a large part of my 26 year life so far, and that is because I fccken didn't have the confidence to open my mouth, and didn't have the courage to go out there bald and just wing it. so I know loniliness and for some reason, it doesn't get to me as much as it does some other guys. I think i ve become 'hard' caueous to it. But I m hoping that now that I know , I dont have to suffer so much as i didn't with my tight lips. And that I can actually live life to the fullest in my own way.

Ultimately, its what makes you happy in life that matters and
you need to pursue/ make it happen such that you are happy!

 

[mahon83050]

That is the one thing that scares me the most about the thought of life in prison. The fact that you will NEVER touch a woman for the rest of your life.

Yeah, I would rather be guillotined than live in prison the rest of my life.

I don't feel sorry for those inmates who get the death penalty....they are the LUCKY ones.

 

[Luthor Rex]

The real reason for unhappiness is because people believe they need things to be happy that they don't actually need.

Some things are within our power, many things are not. What is within our power are those things that are directly up to us: our will, our intentions, our opinions and the like. What is not in our power are those things that are not directly up to us: our health, our wealth, our social standing, and the like. While we can we can use our opinions and our intentions to attemt to acheive such things as health and wealth, they remain outside of our power because we cannot guarentee the results.

When we tie our happiness to those things not in our power, we have set ourselves up for failure. Whereas if we tie our happiness to only those things we have power over, then happiness becomes a choice.

For example: if I believe I need the love and the sex from a woman I will have surrendered my happiness to someone else. I will have given over my happiness to the hands of chance and the good-will or ill-will of those around me.

If, however, I choose to see the world as it really is and realize that I don't need sex or love to make me happy then 1.) my happiness has become something I can choose to have and 2.) women lose power over me.

Women will object to this, rather violently I would say. They will object because they will lose power over me and if other men agree with me then women will lose power over those men as well.

Actually, what I have said is a bit off: women only have the power over us that we choose to give them.

Stop surrendering your happiness to others: just say 'no' to hos!

:rock:

 

[Interceptor]

At the end of ther day EVERYONE really wants Love and Companionship.

Hence, just why males who feel they are TOO "shy" or lack self esteem , etc NEED to be working on themselves and be ready to receive that lover and companionship.

There ARE Good WOmen out there.
There are.
But if you aren't ready for a good woman, you will always be grasping at straws. This is the truth.
You will see failure after failure.
You will keep repeating cycles.

This will only send you down into more misery and depression if you let it.

Find your purpose, and build yourSELF off of that.

Prepare yourself.

Be ready to recieve.

The sooner you start the better.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Interceptor,

Don't dwell on loneliness.
Dwell on success and your dreams. And the true purpose you are here on the Earth.

I'm WITH ya' soldier. In TOTAL agreement to your whole post. Not many who read it will recognize it's depth, let alone take it to HEART. And that's a shame.

But SOME of us do, though...

Much RESPECT.

 

[Interceptor]

Thanks, VU.
Life is not "easy".
But we all need to find the ways we can make it 'better" for ourselves.
And focusing on the sadness, loneliness, and despair is the sure road to even more of the same.
I'm conceneed for the younger fellows here, who haven't gone through a lot of the sh*t I 've gone through, and don't have the tools I have and have had to learn.
The thing is we cannot let these thoughts creep into and dig their claws so strongly into our subconscuious. You are letting negative beliefs take hold, and for the longest time you will not remember living with out them. You will feel these negative thoughts are a PART of YOU.
This needs to avoided at all costs.
Or else you will continue to repeat the cycles and only REINFORCE those negative beliefs and they will only take an even deeper grasp into your mind.
Don't give added fuel and ammunition to your negative thoughts and beliefs.

The BEST way is to cut them off from taking hold and never entering your subconsciouis...


How do we do that??


Find your passion and purpose in life.

Do that.

 

[Interceptor]

Gentlemen, as my Band of Dog Brothers, I wish to impart some wisdom to you.
This thread is close to me, and I feel for my Brothers here for these reasons.

I have come to realize that a disconnection to the Spiritual, Higher Self is the main casue for the disconect between yourSELF and others around you.
You make it harder on yourself to establish these connections you want, and many make it harder for themselves because of this.
I'm glad the movie "The Secret" is popular, and many people have awakened and followed its message. This is very important klnowledge, for it will free you to enter the land of dreams you've always wanted.

But the caveat is...you must do the work. And it is daily work, And you must be consistent, and commited. Nothing can stand in your way of Success...
Nothing.

Here are some Proverbs that may help align your thoughts on this..


"With deep Self Realization,
one influences the universe
with subtle vibrations
and remains unaffected
by the ebb and flow of events."

"To attain Self Realization on earth

is to live a dual existence;
one performs worldly duties conscientiously,
but is inwardly immersed in spiritual peace."

"Human life is full of sorrow and conflict
until we know of the Way,
whose course may be confusing to the Ego."

"The wise person embraces the One
and sets an example to all.

Not putting on a show,
he shines;
not justifying himself,
he is distinguished;
not boasting,
he is acknowledged.

He does not quarrel,
so no one quarrels with him."

 

[mahon83050]

Thanks, VU.
Life is not "easy".
But we all need to find the ways we can make it 'better" for ourselves.
And focusing on the sadness, loneliness, and despair is the sure road to even more of the same.
I'm conceneed for the younger fellows here, who haven't gone through a lot of the sh*t I 've gone through, and don't have the tools I have and have had to learn.
The thing is we cannot let these thoughts creep into and dig their claws so strongly into our subconscuious. You are letting negative beliefs take hold, and for the longest time you will not remember living with out them. You will feel these negative thoughts are a PART of YOU.
This needs to avoided at all costs.
Or else you will continue to repeat the cycles and only REINFORCE those negative beliefs and they will only take an even deeper grasp into your mind.
Don't give added fuel and ammunition to your negative thoughts and beliefs.

The BEST way is to cut them off from taking hold and never entering your subconsciouis...


How do we do that??


Find your passion and purpose in life.

Do that.

I agree with alot of what you say.

I always say to myself and I believe this is true. One can be 6'3", ripped and look like Matthew McConaughey, but if you have low self-esteem you're just as screwed as some 5'4" man with an ugly face.

It is an ongoing vicious cycle that has to broken. Man is depressed because he has no women, women notices he has low self-esteem or does not seem happy, women get turned off and the man still ends up lonely and more depressed.

 

[Helter Skelter]

As usual a lot of bullshiit here because people don't have the experience and just ASSUME certain things.

1) I've been miserable with and without a girlfriend.
Look at the millions of divorces every year. A woman is not the key to happiness. Maybe the ideal woman is, but you need to clarify that.

2) Rich guys don't have lots of "quality" girls chasing them.
They might have girls, but nearly all of them are NOT "keepers"

3) Once again a bunch of inexperience chumps giving advice to the inexperienced.

And Mahon, get the hell off this forum and stop thinking so much and you just might find somebody.

 

[mahon83050]

As usual a lot of bullshiit here because people don't have the experience and just ASSUME certain things.

1) I've been miserable with and without a girlfriend.
Look at the millions of divorces every year. A woman is not the key to happiness. Maybe the ideal woman is, but you need to clarify that.

2) Rich guys don't have lots of "quality" girls chasing them.
They might have girls, but nearly all of them are NOT "keepers"

3) Once again a bunch of inexperience chumps giving advice to the inexperienced.

And Mahon, get the hell off this forum and stop thinking so much and you just might find somebody.

I am not going to argue with you there, I DO THINK too much. It is part of my personality and it won't change.

 

[Mandiblard]

So how come childhood is the happiest time of most peoples lives

 

[mahon83050]

So how come childhood is the happiest time of most peoples lives

Usually it is, you are right. You have no worries, everything in life seems so big, great and grand.

Kind of ironic that when you are a kid you are happy because you have no interest in sex yet.

 

[bigjohnson]

As usual a lot of bullshiit here because people don't have the experience and just ASSUME certain things.

I was chasing tail before most of you were an itch in your daddys pants. Fact.

1) I've been miserable with and without a girlfriend.

This I agree with.

2) Rich guys don't have lots of "quality" girls chasing them.
They might have girls, but nearly all of them are NOT "keepers"

Just like everyone else, except multiply all the numbers by about 100. The more I'm worth the more girls of all sorts come and get it, and I'm no Donald Trump. I can't even imagine the tail Ross Perot must have had thrown at him.

3) Once again a bunch of inexperience chumps giving advice to the inexperienced.

This is just gratuitously condescending. Sorry, but it is.

 

[Helter Skelter]

This is just gratuitously condescending. Sorry, but it is.

Was not my intention. But your comment about millionaires
was misleading. First, I am a small time millionaire.(About 2 million)
Most people with money don't advertise it. So unless their looking at your portfolio how are they going to know?
You have a nice house, but once again most women you meet aren't going there. You drive a nice car, but once again, it doesn't mean millionaire.

Sorry, but having money isn't all it's crack up to be. And you'd come across as a real diickhead if you tried advertising it.

 

[Mr.Positive]

The key to happiness is not with women. However, women do have a way of amplifying things. That's part of the excitment of life.

If you are happy, the right woman can make you happier, however, if you are miserable and end up with the wrong woman...she can make your life a living hell.