lack of motivation re women!

[betheman]

Ok, 6 months on from a painful case of oneitis, Ive done a lot of work on myself, my attitudes, my health and fitness, lost weight, look stronger, so much so Im getting a lot of good feedback particularly about my appearance.

the issue I face now is that although Im happy in my own skin, love my work, working a lot and earning more than ever, love the time I have and the space, havent really filled it with much due to work and having to re establish new friends and social network, but....I look around at the women and to be brutally honest, I dont find myself even remotely interested in about 95% of them.
I know a lot of guys on here go on about HB6/7/8/...whatever, that doesnt interest me, never has and doubt it ever will.
It sounds immensly AFC but Im quite selective i.e eyes, arse, humour, charm, good manners, dress sense, and a touch classy. Not many of these girls about it seems these days, if there are, Im not sure where they are, much younger perhaps (and no I wouldnt let that put me off) but I see sooo many women who to be honest, are unbelievably ordinary and it really doesnt do it for me even if they have the bod of and HB9!
Do we have a problem Houston?

 

[FairShake]

If you are comfortable being alone I see no problem being alone. It's not normal and realize it may be from depression but if you've examined that avenue and found it a dead end just don't date.

Now, me personally, I love having a warm woman's body next to me. The hotter the better when it comes to fxcking. The warmer the personality the better when it comes to relationships. While I can certainly be alone and have been I prefer to have something, even if just to bide me time before I find the best.

 

[betheman]

Either you are proactively chasing women or masturbating to pornography. The latter is gross, so be motivated to do the former!

why? women arent the be all and end all, it would be good to have someone in my bed who I found attractive and wanted to be with, Im not chasing skirt for the fcking hell of it, and no, porn is something I stopped doing years ago

 

[Jamo]

You are going through a form of depression. I was (and still am - but slowly coming out of it) in the state you are describing, after my breakup over a year ago. I guess it is a time of self recovery (some people on the other hand go through a major rebound and fvck everything), just go with it and take it with a positive mindset and use as a time to focus on other things.

 

[bluenorther]

In my line of work, most of the clients are women your age and mine. In fifteen years, I've had ONE office romance. It lasted four months (the bed-bouncing part of it). I've only been out with one other client. The rest are mostly married, overweight, not attractive at all.
I just broused my newest matches at POF, and clicked it off.
It's a desert out there.

 

[Zarky]

I gotta say, my desire ebbs and flows. I've been dating for years and years now and sometimes I go through periods (like summer 2008) where I just have this need to go out with as many chicks as I can (banged 6 in about 3 months) and that lasts a while, then I'll get sick of it and not want to get together with any chicks at all for awhile (sexless for months). The cycle repeats. I wouldn't worry about it, the flow of life will take you where it wants you to go.

My flows for 2010 were Feb/March where I dated a few chicks and banged two of them; then a long ebb through the summer where I just stuck with my two MLTRs, then a big flow around November/December where I emailed about 100 POF chicks and banged one then got bored with her and let her dump me; now I'm back in an ebb cycle and I bring up POF, browse a couple of profiles and don't email any of them.