Kissing a statue.. emotionally unavailable women.

[MillionBillionaire]

Well I feel like crap.. she is in a good mood.. obviously not because of me.. she blew me off too.. and gave me a bs excuse when I asked her out... she prolly got back with the guy she was crying over.. god I feel like crap.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Nothing worse than a chick who talks about her ex, Nothing turns me of faster. I've learned that a chick who you haven't banged talking about her EX is a red flag. I recently cut a chick off for that

^^This^^ Same here, I've dropped 2 in the last couple weeks for the same reason.
Like om1 said, emotional intelligence...aka screening process.

Don't be some b*tches tampon rebound, not even worth a pump & dump IMO. This is what whiteknights & afc's are for.

 

[Jaylan]

If a girl talks about her ex a bunch, you bail right there.

Shes not over the situation, so why pursue such a woman a spend a whole day with her? Thats desperate in my book and shows you lack options.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

If a girl talks about her ex a bunch, you bail right there.

Shes not over the situation, so why pursue such a woman a spend a whole day with her? Thats desperate in my book and shows you lack options.

Agreed.. but in all fairness.. all signals pointed to it was on.. and I sincerely digged this chick hb8 from Germany..

This girl is all jolly flirting with some other guy on her phone like I was the worlds best therapist... figures

I called up a female orbiter of mine this morning.. one that I have flaked on for her birthday.. she has been soo good to me.. I think I am going to upgrade her to f buddy this weekend..

I am going to solidify my plans with the new f buddy at work.. so I feel better... and show her I have orbiters too and I'm not phased by her sudden coldness.

 

[om1xr]

And emotional intelligence is what I prude myself on.. if a girl is not saying no.. but not reciprocating affection.. then wtf are you supposed to do? Keep going.. witch was at this point until she was naked... and be a man... untill sh1t gets wierd because she is just laying there like I'm a rapist... not showing any affection.

I don't think you understand the meaning being emotionally intelligent. It's the process of interpreting (screening) her emotions, body language and words.
To know when to push and when to pull.
To know when to give her attention and when to go ghost.
To know when to escalate sexually and when to let that intense sexual energy to grow until she jump your bones.

And don't expect from a woman to say no. When she is not reciprocating kino, kisses, making out, sexual comments ...etc then she is saying no. I think we should have a thread about woman language lol because I can tell you from my experience even if I'm still in my early 20s that they speak a different language.

And it seems like you have an ego investment/neediness and your happiness is based on the reactions of others. That's a fvcked up way to live day by day man.

Being miserable or feeling like sh!t because the actions of one person! That sounds dump to me.

Personally I don't give a fvck if I stayed alone months or if I never get a text/call from women or anyone for months.

Ego is one hell of a life destroyer. Learn it tricks and you will become happy man.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I don't think you understand the meaning being emotionally intelligent. It's the process of interpreting (screening) her emotions, body language and words.
To know when to push and when to pull.
To know when to give her attention and when to go ghost.
To know when to escalate sexually and when to let that intense sexual energy to grow until she jump your bones.

And don't expect from a woman to say no. When she is not reciprocating kino, kisses, making out, sexual comments ...etc then she is saying no. I think we should have a thread about woman language lol because I can tell you from my experience even if I'm still in my early 20s that they speak a different language.

And it seems like you have an ego investment/neediness and your happiness is based on the reactions of others. That's a fvcked up way to live day by day man.

Being miserable or feeling like sh!t because the actions of one person! That sounds dump to me.

Personally I don't give a fvck if I stayed alone months or if I never get a text/call from women or anyone for months.

Ego is one hell of a life destroyer. Learn it tricks and you will become happy man.

You are right on emotional intelligence. ALL I do all day long at home and bored at work I read up on self improvement.. Game.. red pill.. dating coaches.. ALL THAT.

I guess listening to some PUA speaker just lecture me on "Going for it and assume sex be a man" got me out of tune with what was going on.

we would of had an awesome time at the club...

I failed.. I accept that I failed.. too bad.. Ill move on easy.

 

[nismo-4]

A woman hung up on her ex just wants you as an orbiter. She has no interest in you sexually.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

A woman hung up on her ex just wants you as an orbiter. She has no interest in you sexually.

Bingo.. this is how I felt about the f buddy I am about to promote when I was hung up on my ex.. now that I remember.

I am glad I went for it all with the hb8 at work.. so now I know there was no tingles.. and I wont have to flirt with her and date her for weeks to find out later.

 

[dasein]

1. More than 2-3 hours on an early date? Never again. Long "productions" of dates early before you get the lay of the land as to whether she is a waste of time? Never again. Flirty buildup before early dates that make you think you are in? Never again. YOU are getting heated up. SHE is sopping up the FREE ATTENTION that she doesn't have to reciprocate other than throwing you a few "jiggling ass" crumbs, formulating all kinds of hamster wheel as to why she shouldn't sleep with a guy she works with and formulating a shield... in this case ex talk. Do all your flirting and seduction on the 2-3 hour date. Silence is the best anticipation on early dates.
2. Sitting, smoking, drinking and talking on early dates... especially across a table? Never again. Get them moving, doing something active. Anything, walking near a lake, window shopping, bowling, anything other than sitting. During break times when you sit, make sure they are sitting next to you at a bar, preferably a moderately full but not too loud bar where people are having a good time around you, never a silent place with a couple of sad sacks hanging around.
3. If you go into a bedroom with a woman, you will be having sex with her within 15-20 minutes max or you will be politely leaving, withdrawing attention, showing no negative vibe or pouting whatsoever. Never again place yourself in a position to get stuck in this way. Initiate, initiate, initiate, until it's plain it isn't happen and then withdraw, making it clear the tease game isn't going to get her more attention. This will very often result in a pullback and give-in once it becomes apparent you aren't going to play tampon.
4. Allowing the conversation to go into ex talk? Never again. You always have something better to talk about that you can sell to her as being better to talk about. Every second of ex talk, or any talk you are letting her run with allows her to associate you emotionally with feelings you have no control over, could be sexy or good, could be regret or remorse, don't flip that coin.

Enough for now, but I suspect you learned all this stuff through this experience. See there, it wasn't a loss after all, you are improving, and will continue to improve until early dates do not resemble what you had with this one (from WORK... which almost makes it a good thing more didn't happen) in any way. Good luck.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

So we are back to flirting again.. but this time I know there is nothing there so I will keep myself in check. I made fun of her dirty shirt.. stuck my toung out at her.. we were dancing in the isle.. I'm just glad shyts not awkward or worse.. have her file harassment on me like she did to her last guy.

And my orbiter that Im upgrading to f buddy.. could not have been happier to hear from me even tho last time I flaked on her birthday...

She made sure I still knew where she lived.. all smiley emotes and very high on the dtf meter..

Im going to reward my orbiter that has been so nice to invite me out and let me flake on her .etc with the best d she has ever had.

She said she is good at giving head and likes to give it... so Ill see how she is.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

I'm just glad shyts not awkward or worse.. have her file harassment on me like she did to her last guy

That right there should be enough for you, from this point onward, to do your very best to perceive her as a petulant male colleague you only speak to when work demands it. The best way to deal with women with bloodtype batsh1t is to simply stay the fvck away.

 

[old married dude]

Im going to reward my orbiter that has been so nice to invite me out and let me flake on her .etc with the best d she has ever had.

I just find it amusing that you have "orbiters" since we like to bust on chicks here for having them lol. Are they like beta females or what? Nothing wrong with that or anything if that's the way you roll. I'm just different, I don't really want girls following me around or whatever unless we're hooking up or are just truly platonic friends.

 

[Poonani Maker]

As Terrence Popp would say, "Hit it, quit it, park-stop it, neutral-slam it, run it through all the gears, and leave it on the lot where you found it" in section-8 housing.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I just find it amusing that you have "orbiters" since we like to bust on chicks here for having them lol. Are they like beta females or what? Nothing wrong with that or anything if that's the way you roll. I'm just different, I don't really want girls following me around or whatever unless we're hooking up or are just truly platonic friends.

She is just a cool gal I went out on a date with a while ago.. we have not smashed yet for one reason or another but I have been alone with her watching tv in her room plenty of times... she texts me and invites me out.. the best thing about her is she is really respectful twords me...

And I am sooo burnt out on being let down on dates lately.. I just want a lay.. and she has been good to me...

And I need to be getting layed while this hb8 co worker goes around flirting with me like nothing happened..

I need to take my mind off getting what I feel like I deserve and settle for a bit.. take some pressure off getting laid.

I just wish I was more attracted to her.