Many times I find myself in situations where I know what to do, or at least I know what I would tell someone else to do in the same situation. But as we all know, taking your own advice is difficult. This is especially true to those of us still climbing the road to being a natural DJ. Those chattering internal voices of self-doubt and insecurity try to sabotage our every move.
Obsession -- My Inner Dialog:
I recently discovered myself obsessing over this woman. Although I have options, they weren’t helping me. This one captured my attention. My doubting inner voice grew loud. It deluged me with unanswerable questions. It said “Does she like you?” “Why hasn’t she called yet?” “Did you screw something up?” “Does she like someone else now?” I was about ready to explode from anticipation, worry, and doubt. My inner AFC was screaming at me to pick up the phone and start calling her incessantly until I got an answer. Any answer would do if it served to quiet my brain.
Then my calm voice chimed in and said “Don’t worry about it. What she is thinking isn’t really important. She’s either interested or she’s not. You simply do not know what is going on in that pretty little head of hers, and your psychic abilities aren’t strong enough to divine the truth. One thing you do know, however, is that calling her is only going to scare her away. No one wants that, do they?”
I reluctantly admitted the wisdom of my calm voice. My worry and doubt subsided, but I still couldn’t shake it completely. Some time in the kitchen put matters into perspective for me.
Lose Your Focus (Or How I Learned a Lesson While Making Breakfast)
I woke up this morning. I had some coffee, checked my email, and took care of some business. I didn’t get around to making breakfast until I was damn near starving. I was standing in front of the stove staring at the eggs, convinced that glaring at them would make them cook faster. The demands from my stomach grew louder by the second as I watched the eggs. I rapidly grew impatient and frustrated. Then I realized I could make my breakfast better by making a sandwich instead of just some eggs. I went back to the fridge, grabbed some cheese, onion, and hot sauce. I made toast. And before I knew it, the eggs were done cooking. I threw it all together and ate. It was delicious.
Remember the old saying “A watched pot never boils”? Better words of wisdom have rarely been spoken. Whether I’m waiting on this woman or waiting on my eggs, by focusing on the issue when there is nothing I can or should do at the time only drives me crazy. I served myself well this morning by spending my time making a better breakfast while the eggs cooked. I’ll serve myself well over the few days by spending my time making myself better while waiting to make the next move. I have plenty of options to keep myself busy: I can work, I can clean, I can read a good book, or I can meet new people. All of these productive things will help “pass the time”. It will make my relationship, with this woman or any other, all the more delicious.
"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt." --William Shakespeare
Obsession -- My Inner Dialog:
I recently discovered myself obsessing over this woman. Although I have options, they weren’t helping me. This one captured my attention. My doubting inner voice grew loud. It deluged me with unanswerable questions. It said “Does she like you?” “Why hasn’t she called yet?” “Did you screw something up?” “Does she like someone else now?” I was about ready to explode from anticipation, worry, and doubt. My inner AFC was screaming at me to pick up the phone and start calling her incessantly until I got an answer. Any answer would do if it served to quiet my brain.
Then my calm voice chimed in and said “Don’t worry about it. What she is thinking isn’t really important. She’s either interested or she’s not. You simply do not know what is going on in that pretty little head of hers, and your psychic abilities aren’t strong enough to divine the truth. One thing you do know, however, is that calling her is only going to scare her away. No one wants that, do they?”
I reluctantly admitted the wisdom of my calm voice. My worry and doubt subsided, but I still couldn’t shake it completely. Some time in the kitchen put matters into perspective for me.
Lose Your Focus (Or How I Learned a Lesson While Making Breakfast)
I woke up this morning. I had some coffee, checked my email, and took care of some business. I didn’t get around to making breakfast until I was damn near starving. I was standing in front of the stove staring at the eggs, convinced that glaring at them would make them cook faster. The demands from my stomach grew louder by the second as I watched the eggs. I rapidly grew impatient and frustrated. Then I realized I could make my breakfast better by making a sandwich instead of just some eggs. I went back to the fridge, grabbed some cheese, onion, and hot sauce. I made toast. And before I knew it, the eggs were done cooking. I threw it all together and ate. It was delicious.
Remember the old saying “A watched pot never boils”? Better words of wisdom have rarely been spoken. Whether I’m waiting on this woman or waiting on my eggs, by focusing on the issue when there is nothing I can or should do at the time only drives me crazy. I served myself well this morning by spending my time making a better breakfast while the eggs cooked. I’ll serve myself well over the few days by spending my time making myself better while waiting to make the next move. I have plenty of options to keep myself busy: I can work, I can clean, I can read a good book, or I can meet new people. All of these productive things will help “pass the time”. It will make my relationship, with this woman or any other, all the more delicious.
"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt." --William Shakespeare
But truthfully, don't get hung-up on any one girl I don't care how awesome you think they are. Interested is OK, anxious is a NO NO.