I had this as a reply for another post, but since i thought it was pretty good i decided to put it in tips.
I have to admit a lot of times it's the atmosphere that breeds socialization. But regardless you should make an effort. In a sense you have to breed a kind of arrogance+confidence to yourself, it allows you to talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere. The topic? it can be anything you wish. So long as they're willing to respond to your quirky questions or topics and reciprocate.
At the same time you build connections and rapport with people, they'll ask for a favor...and ill do it. If i ever need anythign in the future, ill ask too.
I was always independent and relied on myself for things, i'd rather find out/get things myself than ask a friend. I hated users myself that i would avoid becoming one. But it's good to use people, it's good to ask ppl for help it makes them feel good. It's the way of life.
I cant stress this enough, but smile wherever and whenever. smiling makes you seem easy to approach to talk to, it makes you appear friendly. Even if you're not talking to anyone, you should make an effort to smile slightly. One of my friends wonders why women give him a glare or put up their ***** shield when he tries to be friendly with them. The problem is he appears uptight and they can tell his smile is forced (faked). Smiling will become natural if you do it enough.
This deserved a paragraph of it's own, Arrogance + confidence.
BUTConfidence breeds arrogance, NEVER the other way around.
So together, you can talk to anyone about anything w/o having a 2nd thought (or being self conscious) about the topic, your responses, and allows you to naturally startup convos with strangers. that's the only part that should be arrogant. When socializing it's always a good idea to stay open minded, which shows you're considerate of the other person's thoughts.
Dont expect too much from someone (like becoming a friend) from socializing. The key is to expect nothing out of it, but as a form of human function it serves a purpose. If you're doing it to make friends or getting a gf, you're asking for too much too soon. Talk with someone every now and then and still have your own things to do to keep you busy. Slowly your social circle will start building and something called "social proof" comes along. People (guys and girls alike) will greet you here and there and people will notice it, especially the ladies. Social proof is a form of popularity, it gives you the illusion of being important. hey who doesnt want to be around popular people right?
In the above I've mentioned the key points to keep in mind.
Just get out there and do it, it will become 2nd nature.
Remember you have other priorities in life, socializing is a side dish.
I have to admit a lot of times it's the atmosphere that breeds socialization. But regardless you should make an effort. In a sense you have to breed a kind of arrogance+confidence to yourself, it allows you to talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere. The topic? it can be anything you wish. So long as they're willing to respond to your quirky questions or topics and reciprocate.
At the same time you build connections and rapport with people, they'll ask for a favor...and ill do it. If i ever need anythign in the future, ill ask too.
I was always independent and relied on myself for things, i'd rather find out/get things myself than ask a friend. I hated users myself that i would avoid becoming one. But it's good to use people, it's good to ask ppl for help it makes them feel good. It's the way of life.
I cant stress this enough, but smile wherever and whenever. smiling makes you seem easy to approach to talk to, it makes you appear friendly. Even if you're not talking to anyone, you should make an effort to smile slightly. One of my friends wonders why women give him a glare or put up their ***** shield when he tries to be friendly with them. The problem is he appears uptight and they can tell his smile is forced (faked). Smiling will become natural if you do it enough.
This deserved a paragraph of it's own, Arrogance + confidence.
BUTConfidence breeds arrogance, NEVER the other way around.
So together, you can talk to anyone about anything w/o having a 2nd thought (or being self conscious) about the topic, your responses, and allows you to naturally startup convos with strangers. that's the only part that should be arrogant. When socializing it's always a good idea to stay open minded, which shows you're considerate of the other person's thoughts.
Dont expect too much from someone (like becoming a friend) from socializing. The key is to expect nothing out of it, but as a form of human function it serves a purpose. If you're doing it to make friends or getting a gf, you're asking for too much too soon. Talk with someone every now and then and still have your own things to do to keep you busy. Slowly your social circle will start building and something called "social proof" comes along. People (guys and girls alike) will greet you here and there and people will notice it, especially the ladies. Social proof is a form of popularity, it gives you the illusion of being important. hey who doesnt want to be around popular people right?
In the above I've mentioned the key points to keep in mind.
Just get out there and do it, it will become 2nd nature.
Remember you have other priorities in life, socializing is a side dish.
