Keeping your options open.

MountainSlide

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Dating a girl that I like. Things are progressing forward and I will likely soon be in a relationship with her. We haven’t had a conversation about exclusivity yet but we spend quite a bit of time together and there are definitely feelings there. Now I’ve still been making dates with other women, and I have one tonight with another girl that I’ve had sex with a few times and was fun. Would this be considered appropriate conduct in a pre-exclusive relationship or is it better to just leave the other girls alone and stick with the one I’ll be
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In2theGame

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Dating a girl that I like. Things are progressing forward and I will likely soon be in a relationship with her. We haven’t had a conversation about exclusivity yet but we spend quite a bit of time together and there are definitely feelings there. Now I’ve still been making dates with other women, and I have one tonight with another girl that I’ve had sex with a few times and was fun. Would this be considered appropriate conduct in a pre-exclusive relationship or is it better to just leave the other girls alone and stick with the one I’ll be
Moving forward with?
I learned the hard way in my early to mid 20's to keep my options wide open. I know what it's like to feel in love and have that special connection but that's a risk you will be taking for the future. You do what you feel you really want to do but just be aware that if she leaves abruptly in the future, it will for sure f*ck you up mentally and emotionally.

Knowing how us guys are, you will most likely get into a LTR with her and thats fine but keep this in mind, Stay in shape, If you ever feel like something feels "off" about her or her actions, don't hesitate to call her out on it and always be prepared to leave if she gets out of line.
 

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Dating a girl that I like. Things are progressing forward and I will likely soon be in a relationship with her. We haven’t had a conversation about exclusivity yet but we spend quite a bit of time together and there are definitely feelings there. Now I’ve still been making dates with other women, and I have one tonight with another girl that I’ve had sex with a few times and was fun. Would this be considered appropriate conduct in a pre-exclusive relationship or is it better to just leave the other girls alone and stick with the one I’ll be
Moving forward with?
Keep your options open until you have the exclusive talk which, in my opinion, she should bring up. Remember, you want her chasing you for the relationship, not you chasing her.
 
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