keeping the dj mindset

[toast]

Sometimes I have a hard time keeping perspective on things. I had some major self-esteem issues in the past but I believe I have worked through most of these. I also had kinda a dysfunctional family life growing up. Even after I grew up, I feel very awkward around my parents or any family member actually.

I know I am able to get women if I try, but lately I just do not feel like trying. I have recently graduated from college and got a decent job that has a lot of potential for my future and I am proud of what I have accomplished.

When I am “on” everything feels right and goes smoothly, I am able to talk up any one and become everybody’s buddy, I realize my full potential if you will. But lately I have had a hard time developing relationships with people. I feel rigid and awkward. My brain feels stuck, I can not get out what I want to say, I am unable present myself the way I want. I do not really feel sad but just kinda ‘whatever’ nothing exciting, nothing depressing. I want to get back on ‘track’ and I know you just gotta get out there and do it, I have, but then I fall back into one of these. I know what I can do, but I do not have the mindset to do it and when I do, I eventually let it slip because I guess I just get lazy and do not care anymore.

I think some past issues may be hindering me here, but I have a hard time trying to get the right ‘mindset’ again.

 

[scordate]

hi toast

we all have our ups and downs

its just natural

what your job is to make sure that a down is just that, a down; which is followed by an up, right ?

try to look back and see if you can spot the ups and downs in your past

then you know that its just a down, nothing serious

do not fret or panick or try harder; it wont work anyway

just cool it, concentrate on the small things that works for you

sometimes its just wise to set some goals that can be met with no problem and then set higher goals along the way

and finally; even if you feel down and not comfortable you MUST have an active life; going out etc

from my own experience; nothing is worse than saying 'no' to parties etc just because you feel bad

so you are just the quiet guy that evening; so what, who cares ? so you have a dental app. next day, should anyone ask !

i'm currently involved with a GF who is the most sensual creature i've ever met; i mean 1 touch at a nipple and she's off !

how did I meet her ? at a party that I almost didnt attend, because I had been out 3 evenings in a row + work, so I said; hey just go to the party and sit and enjoy the food and wine, not trying to pick up a girl, go early and get some sleep. !

lesson learned; one never knows, does one ?

/ scordate

 

[Junior Sanz]

remember that change is inevitable. we all flucuate in moods, the way we live, look, etc.

dont fight change. embrace it....