Keeping Guys Off You

[NorPacWolf]

I've noticed an interesting and unexpected phenomenon in recent weeks. Actually I've been dealing with this ever since I started gaming. Guys are becoming sexually interested in me also. I *believe* these guys are straight. Here are some examples.

1. Last weekend, my wing says of me: "isn't he beautiful?" to a couple of girls he is trying to pickup, literally into our awaiting cab. He tells me later "you're a good looking guy," discouraging me from proceeding with a pickup of two average looking women. He tells me at least three times that night that I'm good looking.

2. This past Friday, I was at a house party, talking to some guy about hip hop after he finished rapping freestyle. I tell everybody I'm about to leave and he suddenly announces: "he's the sexiest mother****ah in the room!" loudly for everyone to hear.

3. Actually, earlier that night, I said hi to a guy and shook his hand. He was the first person I saw in the house, so I thought I'd be cool and social with everyone. This guy later walks up to me while I'm talking to a girl and guy, and he simply walks up to my side, and puts his arm around me, resting his hand on my lower back, just above my ass without saying anything.

Now that I think about it, when I first talk to him, his jaw drops and he seems a bit nervous, and he starts stuttering. He approaches later and puts his arm around my waist, just above my ass. I'm so shocked I don't react. This guy reacts just like the horny girls grabbing my ass at the dance club last weekend.

4. Saturday night, one guy begins rubbing my nipples, then the other guy does the same thing, then one of these two guys grabs my necklace and begins fondling it. I am very drunk and my reflexes are really slow, and I can't quite react in time to stop them. Plus, I'm in a little bit of shock. They're behaving exactly like the ff two set who approached me a couple weekends ago.

5. Then there's the doorman at the club last weekend. He offers me and my wing free entrance, saving us 20 bucks. I just listened to him sympathetically while he talks about someone who attacked him the previous weekend.

How do you guys deal with this? Should I punch them in the jaw? Warn them sternly to keep their hands off me? Kino them back to make them feel as uncomfortable as I do? I don't mind guys complimenting me, but I don't want to be fondled by them.

Lesson learned: be careful how much you drink; you want to be able to fend off unwanted advances from men and women alike. You also want to be able to capitalize on advances from attractive women without becoming confused, dizzy or simply unable to act. When you throw attraction switches in women, you can apparently do the same thing to men also. Be careful.


Wolf

 

[Hitman10000]

Yeah, stop going to gay parties and you won't get problems like this.

 

[Vulpine]

Ditch your homophobia.

Guys touch guys. Some guys get drunk too, and they don't realize that they are crossing boundaries or going overboard with the touchy-feely. You may very well have had some run-ins with some drunk gay guys, but does your azz hurt? No? Then don't sweat it. The hand on the lower back thing... that guy was probably gay. The nipple thing? Who cares? Your butt isn't sore, so there is no problem. Sure they got in your space and molested you... you have to keep your cool about it.

You never can tell what is going on. A guy I used to go out with and myself used to grab each other's azz to amp up the kino with the women. We'd be like, check out this guy's azz! *grab* and the girls would come up and start with the grabbin' also... then we'd, of course, have to grab them back. Ulitmately, it would turn into a fun grab-fest. Yeah, we'd get some goofy looks from guys watching who thought it was hella-gay, but the ladies sure got into it. On occasion, women that happened to be checking out our azzes would take the opportunity to cop a feel also... oops, our 4 set just turned into a 6. People would get wrapped up in the festivities and leave their sets for our fun set. And yes, there would sometimes be the unavoidable gay guy that would get a handful too. "Yeah, nice, huh?" "Oh fur shure!" "Sorry about the tease." "You sure you aren't gay?" "Positive." "Awww..." "Hey, are those your girlfriends over there?"

Basically, you never know what frame you break into when you interact with new people when you are out. Gay guys happen. Don't let it rattle you because they will actually do you more good than harm: gay guys have the hottest girl friends. Plus, once your relaxed vibe is broken with the nervous vibe, you're sunk until you recover.

As for the "he's so beautiful" stuff... haven't you seen Swingers? Compliments are ok, and operators will use terms they wouldn't normally in order to appeal to a woman's vocabulary. Beautiful, sweet, sexy, gorgeous... these are words you don't hear coming out of a guy's mouth, unless women are listening. Your wing dude isn't "attracted" to you, he's playing the game.

 

[Latinoman]

I don't think #1 or #2 are gays. I know black guys tend to talk like that without being gay. Latino guys? Hmmmmm...probably.

#3 might be a little gay. If touching make you uncomfortable...then do something about it (no need to be agressive).

#4 is certainly out of place. And if anything, the one acting gay was you for allowing that to happen.

#5 has happened to me in the past. And it is not gay. It is more of knowing how to get a free pass (no cover charge) from time to time.

 

[niceguydying]

Your story reminds me of a ex-coworker/ friend that I used to have. I have seen crazy a$$ guys go behind one another and start dry humping one another just joking around. But this guy took it one step further and it raised my eyebrows about him. He was a good looking fellow and I saw him turn many a fine women down. He was quite possibly bisexual at least, but I never found out if he was. Last I heard he had gotten married. Anyways, he would come up behind me and start groping me and touched my groin area. Of course, I am the farthest thing from gay, but it didn't feel right. Did I kick ass or curse him out because of it? NO! I am quite comfortable in my own sexuality that I am not homophobic. What it did do was question his sexuality at most. If gay guys are attracted to me, I am flattered, but I am not going to bash one because of it. On the same token, I am not going to play along with it either. Be comfortable in yourself!!!!!!!!!!

 

[disciple]

This post is funny.

Damn!!!!

All I can say is don't go to jail for ANY reason.

If you think you have problems keeping guys off you now, that sh*t would be a 1000 times worse and you can't get those guys off you as easily as some drunk gay guy at a party.

What the hell is up with letting two homo thugs feel your nipples like a cheap *****, man watch that liquor before you wake up on a sidewalk one night with a huge bump on your head, a really bad headache, and a really sore a$$.

#1 is probably not gay but anything's possible. If he ever tells you that you have a really nice a$$ or something like that, well.......................

#2 is a 50/50. He could have meant your a really mack daddy motherf*cka or he could have been priming you up for some late night action.

#3 was definitely a member of the A$$ POLICE. Watch yourself.

#4 was just plain fruity: it sounds like the opening scene for some gay porno flick

#5 you were just overreacting due to #3 and #4.

 

[drZaius09]

I nominate this for GTOTY... Gayest Thread of The Year :rock:

But seriously, there are some good points in here. Don't be a homophobe-- it reeks of insecurity and uncertainty about your own sexuality. If you're a homophobe, chances are you're a little gay...

Gay guys that I know can detect right away if another man is totally straight and will usually respect their space, unless it's in a joking or teasing manner that both parties are comfortable with. My guess is you're giving off a gay vibe somehow. Take it easy. If you feel attracted to men, there's nothing wrong with that-- do what makes you happy. If it's really not your thing, shrug it off and go about your business. If someone makes you uncomfortable, politely ask them to keep their hands off and forget it ever happened.

 

[WestCoaster]

I think NorPac lives in a NW town I'm familiar with, one of the gayest, feminized, man-hating towns on the planet. I know, I lived there for three years, it's torture. Most women have hairy armpits and the I.Q. of a sack of apples.

Enormous gay population there and the many women's centers will back that up ... and almost as many gay men as women. Despite the UO's very good football team, it's a pretty feminized campus.

 

[realsmoothie]

"Oh, NO! The gays are coming! The gays are coming!"

WTF, grow up, people. Gay men ONLY hit on men they think are gay. They're like women... they know far more about your intentions than you do.

So if you're really being hit on by a real gay man, I'm sorry, but you've probably given him some subconscious sign of interest. That doesn't mean you're necessarily gay, but you're definitely screwing something up.

I know this, I've been hanging around gay men my entire life. I've NEVER been hit on by a guy, because they know that I'm straight. But watching two gay guys meet is amazing... it's almost like they have this secret code or something (a lot like lesbians, actually, now that I think about it). They see each other, look each other up and down, a smile, and it's on.

We straight guys could learn from this.

 

[WestCoaster]

I'm not homophobic, just calling it as I see it. In the said Northwest town, I swear, if you rejected a gay person there would be 100 militants down your throat ready to sue you for "harrassment."

This town makes Berekely look conservative ... and I'm a liberal.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

I'm not homophobic, just calling it as I see it. In the said Northwest town, I swear, if you rejected a gay person there would be 100 militants down your throat ready to sue you for "harrassment."

This town makes Berekely look conservative ... and I'm a liberal.

gay people are the new protective class of people... More ppl would be outraged if you called someone a f**, than if you used the N-word.

Welcome to the beginning of the end.

we have idiots on this forum that are as soft as baby shyt