Just started 10th and need some advice

[eba]

I went to school today thinking I was going to be one smooth mofo getting all new friends and what not, but I guess I must act differently then I do in the mirror. Some (negative) things I noticed about myself:


1.) I overanalyzed everything I was going to say because I wanted to say something no one could make fun of. And then I ended up not saying it at all.

2.) I tried starting conversations with people but its hard holding them. I used free-association to try to keep the convo going but I couldn't.

3.) I was tensed up in classes with people who were my enemies. Again, watching what I said/did in fear of being embarrassed by them.

I was going to just stop trying to start conversations with people since it obviously wasnt working. I tried it on 3 people, which is somewhat a lot for me since I'm just not trying to get out of the shy faze. What I'd do is be like "Hey, do you go here last year? What school? Whyd you come here?" and then it would just go downhill from there.

Plus theres this girl I want to get to know but I dont know what to do. I was thinking about just going up to her and saying "Hey my name's EBA" but in my mind that wouldn't work at all.

Anyways, does anyone have any ideas/advice on how I can just not give a ****, period. Just be able to what I want to do without worrying if someone will say something or whatever. I'm going to try tomorrow to just visualize Im in my house (a comfortable place) and act as I would there. Because at school everything from my voice to my mannerisms are different.

Thanks in advance.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

just KNOW that if you go up and initaite conversation that you're taking control of the situation when others were too afraid to.
It takes to people to have a conversation. Just don't think about the conversation and let it flow, maybe try reading some of the convo tips in the dj bible again if you haven't already?

 

[AC/DC]

The only difference between you at home and you at school is that you are comfortable at home.

At school, you aren't comfortable with other people watching your every move.

You just have to remember that you are surrounded by friends, lots of them.

Remember, no one HATES you. You're thinking when you wake up "I'm not gonna take any crap blah blah I'm the meanest motherf*cker that ever walked."

I would suppose that's good.... but....

It's not ideal. Better is "I'm gonna be nice, and friendly and confident and I have no enemies and everyone that tries to stomp on me will fail."

You just go into the battlefield with the wrong intentions. That's the only thing stopping you. Just be comfortable and it'll go better than you ever imagined.

 

[LikeAPimp]

^ agreed

 

[PEACEDJ]

First of all stop thinking so much! If you want fun, think about fun.

Oh and stop your habit of second guessing, it'll bust your head open during h/s.

 

[Pimpster]

This is alll in the DJ Bible