just dropped my GF like a bad habit

[AmIAFC]

Earlier this morning, my GF texted me asking, of all things, if it was okay to see her EX and it would be up to me to decide the make-up of the meeting. Basically, it wasn't as bad as her asking me if I could grab his tool and gently navigate it to her quip, but figuratively, it was the same request.

I responded by asking if she was high or as dumb as I always thought she was. She gets all huffy and accuses me of being authoritative, and points out that she at least asked and could've gone without telling me.

Anyway, long story short: I told her I was moving on and didn't need this nonsense. She starts to yap but I hung up the phone.

Some might think I was rash, but I've never been so much at peace with myself since being with her, and now I'm moving on.

 

[yuppaz]

You are NOT an AFC, her sh*t was disrespectful

 

[Bluntmaster]

Good job.

 

[ecko280]

NICE!! keep us updated on what she does..

 

[Bluntmaster]

A while ago, I was with a girl. She said "I'm trying not to contact my ex"

I wish I would have told her "go ahead and contact him, because I'm trying not to contact a sea of women yearning for my d!ck"

And walked out.

 

[drak_ool]

Earlier this morning, my GF texted me asking, of all things, if it was okay to see her EX

Red flag #1

I responded by asking if she was high or as dumb as I always thought she was.

Red flag #2. Never date a dumb girl, no matter how hot she is.

I've never been so much at peace with myself since being with her

Red flag #3. A girl friend should add to your life and make you happy, not create more stress than you already have.


From the little info you provided, sounds like it was a bad choice for a gf to begin with. Red flag #1 might just be a sh.it test on her part, but even if it is, it just proves how dumb she is, which you mention yourself later on.

seems like your feelings for her are pretty much gone, at this point you could still keep her around for sex until you get tired of dealing with the dumb b.itch.

plenty more hot and dumb girls out there, just don't get too attached to one next time.

good luck

 

[mrRuckus]

It sucks you even have to do this sort of thing since hordes of afcs have let them get away with crap for so long that they have no trouble assuming you'll let them too. They haven't been trained yet.

I often have trouble trying to explain things to women because it's often fairly obvious they don't understand the context because they're so used to other guys. I recently had a girl try to stop dating me, and when i was saying okay so long she actually thought i was trying to get her to stay. God that's aggravating. I don't try to convince women to stay! That's just embarrassing. I guess it's what she's used to, though, so she twisted my words. Next time I'll remember to use less words like the OP here and cut out all confusion!

 

[SexyMofo]

This is what happens when you have a "girlfriend"

A player doesn't have this problem.

 

[jophil28]

... and points out that she at least asked and could've gone without telling me.

So she thought that she was doing you a favor by asking ? Fukking amazing how some women think . Did she expect you to thank her for being "open and honest."
Her self-righteousness here would have been enough for me to eject.

Prepare yourself well for her return - she will probably try all the usual shaming gibberish . You will be accused of being selfish, immature, insecure, controlling , possessive. domineering .....blah blah ( have I left anything out from the popular LOveshack vocabulary. )

 

[jophil28]

Earlier this morning, my GF texted me asking, of all things, if it was okay to see her EX ....

This situation cannot come about unless your G/f and her Ex had been in contact, and talking behind your back.

The only justification for a G/f to meet with her ex is to discuss their kids schooling or health . Oh, what's that, they have no kids together ?

How about their property settlement which remains unresolved ? Hmm, no problems there either.

I have run out of possibly explanations....unless she is still attracted to him, or he to her, and they want to take another shot for old time's sake.
Nah ! What am I thinking ?

 

[jonwon]

So she thought that she was doing you a favor by asking ? Fukking amazing how some women think . Did she expect you to thank her for being "open and honest."
Her self-righteousness here would have been enough for me to eject.

Prepare yourself well for her return - she will probably try all the usual shaming gibberish . You will be accused of being selfish, immature, insecure, controlling , possessive. domineering .....blah blah ( have I left anything out from the popular LOveshack vocabulary. )

This reminds of a girl I dated many years ago, she told me she cheated on me with a guy in a club - fuc*ed some dude over the back of a bin - this was when I was about 21 years old.

She told me she felt guilty about it and she took advice from one of her friends who told her; that she should tell me, and in that I could probably forgive her and we could move on with our lives 'together'.

She actually appeared shocked when I dumped her on the spot and from what I understood afterwards, she blamed her friend who adviced her to tell me.

Yep some woman are fuc*ing bat shi* insane when it comes to acountability and responsibility -

 

[cavedweller]

AmIAFC,

She has already been in contact with her ex..

 

[spider_007]

lol.....blind leading the blind.

if you ware going to go see your EX g/f and fvck her, would you call your curent g/f and ask her if it was ok for you to go see her???? That would be like calling the cops and telling them your going to the store, and then go and rob the place.

The fact that she even asked you that means one of two things: 1) she respects you enough, &/or 2) Your a insecure control freak, and check averything she does.

 

[jonwon]

lol.....blind leading the blind.

if you ware going to go see your EX g/f and fvck her, would you call your curent g/f and ask her if it was ok for you to go see her???? That would be like calling the cops and telling them your going to the store, and then go and rob the place.

The fact that she even asked you that means one of two things: 1) she respects you enough, &/or 2) Your a insecure control freak, and check averything she does.

I have to agree with spider in a way here, too little information about the context of seeing the EX - i.e was she seeing the Ex to sort out some financial stuff they had together, i.e they had a flat in joint names and they needed to sort out the formalities, or was she wanting to see the ex to catch up for old times sake.

The first I agree with Spider, the latter; you did the right thing.

It would be interesting to know.

 

[AmIAFC]

She wanted to see her ex-boyfriend, with whom she shares no financial or official ties, strictly for social purposes. He's invited her to dinner on a few occasions according to her and I made it very clear then that I didn't find their steady flow of communication with each other appropriate or the least bit pleasing. I assumed that was the end of that, but then she presents me with this stuff just after I gave her a small, inexpensive gift a week before as an early birthday surprise.

The fact that she told me ahead of time means nothing aside from the notion that she subconsciously desires a steady network with her ex-boyfriend and is seeking my approval strictly for procedural purposes.

The manner in which she asked - eager, childlike - indicated to me that had I simply forbidden it, she would have seen him anyway without my knowledge and a slippery slope would have ensued from there.

Even if some of you disagree with what I did, I just don't need the headache or drama associated with this whole mess in my life right now. I'm going after my CPA and the last thing I need is a belligerent trick on my side.

 

[Oxide]

I think it was the right move, she is going to go screw him then crawl back trying to be all nice imo

 

[jophil28]

She wanted to see her ex-boyfriend, with whom she shares no financial or official ties, strictly for social purposes. He's invited her to dinner on a few occasions according to her and I made it very clear then that I didn't find their steady flow of communication with each other appropriate or the least bit pleasing. I assumed that was the end of that, but then she presents me with this stuff just after I gave her a small, inexpensive gift a week before as an early birthday surprise.

The fact that she told me ahead of time means nothing aside from the notion that she subconsciously desires a steady network with her ex-boyfriend and is seeking my approval strictly for procedural purposes.

The manner in which she asked - eager, childlike - indicated to me that had I simply forbidden it, she would have seen him anyway without my knowledge and a slippery slope would have ensued from there.

Even if some of you disagree with what I did, I just don't need the headache or drama associated with this whole mess in my life right now. I'm going after my CPA and the last thing I need is a belligerent trick on my side.

Had you agreed to her request, you would have been setting a dangerous precedent. If I know women, she would have interpreted your permission as free license to see him whenever he wants, or she wanted , in the future.
This woman is a woman driven by personal convenience and gratification rather than comittment and loyalty .

I like your attitude, and admire your courage in being willing to enforce your principles.
Well done.

 

[drak_ool]

I just don't need the headache or drama associated with this whole mess in my life right now.

and that sir is the bottom line! If a girlfriend brings more negatives (drama/stress/mind games/etc.) into your life than positives (love/affection/good sex/etc.), then it's best to move on.

Well done!