"Just didn't feel a connection"

[Bigdavis]

What the hell does that even mean? Is it a woman's bull**** excuse for "I just don't think you're attractive enough to date" or is there some kind of mystical force that makes some women feel a connection for a guy and other women not feel it?

Example. I met a chick online, I was ****y funny in the chat\texting\talking game for a long time. I could tell this chick was into me big time. Even all my friends could tell by how much she texted and stuff. I have plenty of photo's on my facebook\myspace so I know she knew exactly what i looked like. No curve ball there. Besides I'm not a bad looking guy, I'm an 8.5 on hot or not and girls always say I'm better looking in person that pictures.

So anyway this chick finally got tired of waiting for me to ask her out so she asked me to meet her for lunch one day. We met, she actually looks a little better in person than in pictures and seems cool, I can see some potential here. We had lunch, some good convo and she left. She emailed me later and said "I'm sorry I just didn't feel a connection so I don't think there should be a second date" and poof haven't heard a single thing from her since...

This is a girl that would text\chat me all day every day, I wasn't rude on our little lunch date, we didn't have an argument or anything, I was anything but too eager or nervous... she just disappeared.

wtf?

 

[DonGorgon]

Its funny how women can turn their attraction on and off like that...LOL.... but yeh there is some mystical attraction energy called chemistry that can make or break a potential relationship....

I have found that when you meet women online or in a dark night club they are not able to truly gage their attraction to you for some reason so when you meat them you have to act like they are a stranger and and pretend you are trying to make a great first impression..

So basically when you meet her in person the first time dress your best and go all out.. dont act like you know her already...

 

[true romance]

you talk and txt too much "Everyday"..she build a castle in her head and when she meet you and somehow she didn't get connected...keep some mystery..

Happened to many of my friends meeting chicks online, email, text, phone..they build a castle and then when meet in person is just fall...

Next....

 

[hondo928]

I don't think it's bull at all, me and my ex broke up for this reason, and we both agreed we just didn't "feel a connection" if it's not there it's not there. I just hung out with her again last weekend, and things were amazing, so it might not have anything to do with you just timing. Don't sweat it, find someone else, even when I was hanging out with the ex, and she started talking to some AFC who got mad because she was only spending time with me...so I number closed some other girl, then went back to the ex later. But you CANNOT fret over one girl, if she doesn't want you then that's her problem. And you did say she got sick of waiting for you to ask her out, which shows fear, something you never want, if you're trying to exude confidence.

 

[Freeman]

Its like true romance said: you talk and txt too much "Everyday"..she build a castle in her head and when she meet you and somehow she didn't get connected...keep some mystery..

Happened to many of my friends meeting chicks online, email, text, phone..they build a castle and then when meet in person is just fall...



Man, one of the worst things a guy can do with a girl that he is just getting to know is to give away too much info. to soon. Its tempting- I know- I've been there- I met a girl a while on the net too, so trust me I know. One thing I learned is that there's a clear difference between online chemistry and in person chemistry. You two can text all night but when it comes to face to face there's nothing...WHY YOU ASK? You gave info away that you would give away to her on a 1st-5th date in person so there was no mystery about you when you met her finally. Thats one of the fundamental problems with online dating.

Bottom Line: You gave away too much information too soon to her-Give out information on a need to know basis. You treated her like she was already your girlfriend of three years or something. Have self-control over your emotions. Live and Learn man in this crazy world.