"Just Be Yourself" she says...

[Johnny Soporno]

"JUST BE YOURSELF!"​

When any normal woman is asked what men should do to be able to hook up with her, she'll answer
"Just be yourself!" -

What the HELL does she mean by that?

She means: PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE! DON'T PRETEND YOU'RE SOMETHING YOU'RE NOT!

You see, most every AFC and aPUA "puts on a show" when he's trying to get into a girl's pants - he postures and puffs himself up, trying to be 'impressive' and present himself in the most attractive ways he can - FROM HIS PERSPECTIVE - by demonstrating that he's just the way HE IMAGINES any girl would want him to be.

But women can TELL when you're blowing smoke up their asses - and they don't appreciate it at all.
Oh, they'll humor you indulgently, out of politeness, (at least 'til the end of the date) and then say 'Let's just be friends!'

OR WORSE YET they might actually BUY what you're selling, and after they realize you're NOT fundamentally the way you portrayed yourself, THEY WILL PUNISH YOU - if not through publicly outting you as the liar you are, then through ceaseless passive-aggressive manipulation, throughout an agonizing long-term relationship...

So at the end of your multi-year relationship, when she tells you "You're not the man I fell in love with!" and you reply with "How can you say that after you've spent our entire relationship trying to change me!" - that's when you'll have to face the fact that you were NEVER the man she fell in love with - and it's ALL YOUR FAULT.

The trouble is, for most guys, 'just being themselves' leaves them as weak, low-self-esteem/low-self-confidence schlubbs with very little chance of success. Most guys don't love themselves, and they aren't happy in their OWN company - why would any woman select to hook up with them?

Question: How can you BOTH "Just be yourself" AND be attractive to women?!

Answer: YOU MUST RECRAFT YOURSELF AS AN ATTRACTIVE PERSON!



Sounds like a huge challenge, right? It isn't.

SO the answer is very simple, and "the Community" is just waking up to this notion, after years of hypnotricks and false-disqualifications, bullsh!t DHVs and basically lying to get laid...

It's practically the easiest thing in the world, but it requires recognizing and accepting that THE PROBLEM IS ALWAYS YOU!


So concentrating on your Inner Game is absolutely VITAL to becoming an attractive, compelling, and worthwhile person - the sort whom women AND men will opt to invest their time and energies on... someone people are PROUD is their friend, someone they can rely upon...

Someone who will DESERVE their appreciation and respect, and therefore won't need to misrepresent themselves at all, nor have to work at keeping their interest!

You see, being WORTHY of their appreciation, respect, friendship, and admiration doesn't require much at all - You need merely to ACTUALLY BE A GOOD GUY, continually self-improving, appreciating and valuing others, and by demonstrating LOYALTY TO YOURSELF FIRST - so that others will see that you have integrity!

Being WORTHY means you never have to worry that you're getting more than you deserve - and therefore never having to worry that YOUR LUCK WILL RUN OUT!

If you happen to 'GET LUCKY' with some uberhottie who's ideal for you in every way, and YOU KNOW she's with you for the wrong reasons, you'll also KNOW that she won't be around long. That'd suck!

As you develop yourself into an interesting, amusing, entertaining, and enlightened man, you'll find value and interest in most every person of quality - and that will make you VERY ATTRACTIVE to them...

Mark my words: Being truly interested in someone MAKES YOU COMPELLINGLY ATTRACTIVE TO THEM! Male OR female - in 'pick up' and in every part of life.

Please take a look at my Inner Game Definition, and read it over a couple of times, until every aspect of it makes sense to you;
I am confident that you'll live much better, and enjoy life much more, once it all resonates and harmonizes within you.

Johnny Soporno
Lifestyle Guru

 

[comic_relief]

I LOVE YOUR POST!!!

I came to this website years ago, and I almost did go down another road until a DJ stopped me and made me read the DJ bible. I have never looked back since.

This is one of the most enlightening posts on the subject of "Just be yourself" posts. I believe that this belongs in the tip section for all to read.

comic_relief

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What's with the onslaught of other PU sites marketing here all of a sudden?

 

[comic_relief]

What's with the onslaught of other PU sites marketing here all of a sudden?

Francisco,

although, I do not like other sites invading like they are, I do enjoy the posts plus this guy seems to know what he is talking about.

This is one of the rare posts that I actually enjoyed reading. Not too long ago, I could barely find a post a week that was very thought provoking.

I choose to just enjoy and if he continues to bring out good posts, I will love him for it.

comic_relief

 

[Johnny Soporno]

Fixed the problem!

What's with the onslaught of other PU sites marketing here all of a sudden?

My apologies Francisco - it was an 'order of operations' error on my part, as I had not yet posted my "Inner Game Definition and Development Strategy" article here on when I was ready to submit this thread.

I have remedied the problem - The links are now internally-referential.

I have no formal affiliations to any forum, nor any interest in migrating people from their favored posting-grounds - that is why I try to post my articles independently on them all

Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy

P.S. I never buy my copper from anyone else!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Francisco,

although, I do not like other sites invading like they are, I do enjoy the posts plus this guy seems to know what he is talking about.

This is one of the rare posts that I actually enjoyed reading. Not too long ago, I could barely find a post a week that was very thought provoking.

I choose to just enjoy and if he continues to bring out good posts, I will love him for it.

comic_relief

I have nothing against the guy, but has anyone been noticing how many guys have come through promoting "other" sites while contributing only snippets at best to this one mostly for marketing purposes? Does anyone know whether other sites get as many external marketers as this one?

I'm just thinking out loud.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...
P.S. I never buy my copper from anyone else!

Alright, you have a clean slate with me...

 

[DJVladdy]

Ok Mods, please make this guy's posts sticky. That's it.
Brilliant.
And you Francisco, idk why u havent noticed how sad and meaningless this site has become (like 90% of it)... We need people like him. Well perhaps not NEED, but writings similar to his helped me clear up my mind and put my life in the right direction.
Respek

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Ok Mods, please make this guy's posts sticky. That's it.
Brilliant.
And you Francisco, idk why u havent noticed how sad and meaningless this site has become (like 90% of it)... We need people like him. Well perhaps not NEED, but writings similar to his helped me clear up my mind and put my life in the right direction.
Respek

Oh I've definitely noticed, that's why I was concerned about so many guys joining the forum primarily to say that SoSuave members should hang out in their forums. Don't get me wrong, there's more than enough room for other sites with other methodologies, it's just a bit "back door" joining another site to convert members. Plus I'm a bit tired of the "SoSuave Sucks" mentality that seems to be floating around out there.

It's all good with Johnny S. even though it had nothing to do with the content of his post. He's made his adjustments to his post and now its a real contribution to this forum. Besides, he knows where to buy his copper.

 

[DJVladdy]

On the other hand (as good and true as your post is)...
We have been conditioned by society and by the system.
You know you're right that honesty to self and others is perhaps the most important and attractive trait of a man, but American society doesnt teach us to be honest. It subliminally drills our minds with:
Paris Hilton
Lindsey Lohan
Brad Pitt
Abercrombie
Being slaves to consumerism
Being slaves to corporate world

...I dont see much honesty in any of this. That's why so many USA men are messed up and AFC. And no wonder we think we have to jump through hoops to get with girls

 

[Johnny Soporno]

On the other hand (as good and true as your post is)...
We have been conditioned by society and by the system.

In that case, it behooves us all to break-free of the negative conditioning, and establish ourselves as Men.

You know you're right that honesty to self and others is perhaps the most important and attractive trait of a man, but American society doesnt teach us to be honest. It subliminally drills our minds with:
Paris Hilton
Lindsey Lohan
Brad Pitt
Abercrombie
Being slaves to consumerism
Being slaves to corporate world

...I dont see much honesty in any of this. That's why so many USA men are messed up and AFC. And no wonder we think we have to jump through hoops to get with girls

Men crave APPROVAL, just as women crave security; until a man can overcome this craving, he can never truly be free - he will always bend under social-pressure.


Johnny Soporno
Lifestyle Guru

 

[Johnny Soporno]

Francisco,

although, I do not like other sites invading like they are, I do enjoy the posts plus this guy seems to know what he is talking about.

This is one of the rare posts that I actually enjoyed reading. Not too long ago, I could barely find a post a week that was very thought provoking.

I choose to just enjoy and if he continues to bring out good posts, I will love him for it.

comic_relief

Thanks C_R, how am I doing so far?

Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy

 

[Playboy]

"JUST BE YOURSELF!"​

When any normal woman is asked what men should do to be able to hook up with her, she'll answer
"Just be yourself!" -

What the HELL does she mean by that?

She means: PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE! DON'T PRETEND YOU'RE SOMETHING YOU'RE NOT!

You see, most every AFC and aPUA "puts on a show" when he's trying to get into a girl's pants - he postures and puffs himself up, trying to be 'impressive' and present himself in the most attractive ways he can - FROM HIS PERSPECTIVE - by demonstrating that he's just the way HE IMAGINES any girl would want him to be.

But women can TELL when you're blowing smoke up their asses - and they don't appreciate it at all.
Oh, they'll humor you indulgently, out of politeness, (at least 'til the end of the date) and then say 'Let's just be friends!'

OR WORSE YET they might actually BUY what you're selling, and after they realize you're NOT fundamentally the way you portrayed yourself, THEY WILL PUNISH YOU - if not through publicly outting you as the liar you are, then through ceaseless passive-aggressive manipulation, throughout an agonizing long-term relationship...

So at the end of your multi-year relationship, when she tells you "You're not the man I fell in love with!" and you reply with "How can you say that after you've spent our entire relationship trying to change me!" - that's when you'll have to face the fact that you were NEVER the man she fell in love with - and it's ALL YOUR FAULT.

The trouble is, for most guys, 'just being themselves' leaves them as weak, low-self-esteem/low-self-confidence schlubbs with very little chance of success. Most guys don't love themselves, and they aren't happy in their OWN company - why would any woman select to hook up with them?

Question: How can you BOTH "Just be yourself" AND be attractive to women?!

Answer: YOU MUST RECRAFT YOURSELF AS AN ATTRACTIVE PERSON!



Sounds like a huge challenge, right? It isn't.

SO the answer is very simple, and "the Community" is just waking up to this notion, after years of hypnotricks and false-disqualifications, bullsh!t DHVs and basically lying to get laid...

It's practically the easiest thing in the world, but it requires recognizing and accepting that THE PROBLEM IS ALWAYS YOU!


So concentrating on your Inner Game is absolutely VITAL to becoming an attractive, compelling, and worthwhile person - the sort whom women AND men will opt to invest their time and energies on... someone people are PROUD is their friend, someone they can rely upon...

Someone who will DESERVE their appreciation and respect, and therefore won't need to misrepresent themselves at all, nor have to work at keeping their interest!

You see, being WORTHY of their appreciation, respect, friendship, and admiration doesn't require much at all - You need merely to ACTUALLY BE A GOOD GUY, continually self-improving, appreciating and valuing others, and by demonstrating LOYALTY TO YOURSELF FIRST - so that others will see that you have integrity!

Being WORTHY means you never have to worry that you're getting more than you deserve - and therefore never having to worry that YOUR LUCK WILL RUN OUT!

If you happen to 'GET LUCKY' with some uberhottie who's ideal for you in every way, and YOU KNOW she's with you for the wrong reasons, you'll also KNOW that she won't be around long. That'd suck!

As you develop yourself into an interesting, amusing, entertaining, and enlightened man, you'll find value and interest in most every person of quality - and that will make you VERY ATTRACTIVE to them...

Mark my words: Being truly interested in someone MAKES YOU COMPELLINGLY ATTRACTIVE TO THEM! Male OR female - in 'pick up' and in every part of life.

Please take a look at my Inner Game Definition, and read it over a couple of times, until every aspect of it makes sense to you;
I am confident that you'll live much better, and enjoy life much more, once it all resonates and harmonizes within you.

Johnny Soporno
Lifestyle Guru

Inspiring article Johnny but you know I use to feel that way too, and often would get LJBF. I was confident in the fact that I was an open, honest, funny, good guy. I felt like any girl who couldnt see that was an idiot. Like seriously .. I just thought she was stupid or something. I would often get LJBF though. So Johnny why dont you enlighten us on how those of us who are "good" guys who dont just want to run around getting our ****s wet ... how we get laid? I mean it's not the be all end all for us, but if being myself is someone that everyone likes but no one picks to screw .. at least not over the dude next to him with bigger muscles, a more mysterious attitude, and tatoo's ... what does that guy do? hmmm?

See the direction the community is moving in is admirable but honestly we all thought we were good guys, it was the community that told us we sucked. That's why we are here. I mean seriously. We are here because we went through a rough patch, found this place, and it told us we sucked and needed them to get better. Now just around the time everyone gets sick of being spoonfed a bunch of bS ... now suddenly there are guru's popping up telling us to be our best selves? Sickening.

 

[Johnny Soporno]

Inspiring article Johnny but you know I use to feel that way too, and often would get LJBF.

Ah, that's always a possibility Fortunately, there's a VERY good way to deal with such contingencies which I explain in detail HERE in another thread in this forum.

I was confident in the fact that I was an open, honest, funny, good guy. I felt like any girl who couldn't see that was an idiot. Like seriously.. I just thought she was stupid or something.

I trust you've gotten past that now, and you realize that her not appreciating you as a potential boyfriend for who you were was related to her ATTRACTION to you, and not her evaluating you?

So Johnny why don't you enlighten us on how those of us who are "good" guys who don't just want to run around getting our ****s wet ... how we get laid?

I mean it's not the be all end all for us, but if being myself is someone that everyone likes but no one picks to screw .. at least not over the dude next to him with bigger muscles, a more mysterious attitude, and tattoo's ... what does that guy do? hmmm?

First thing I'd recommend, go download and check out the free videos of my Introduction to Seductive Reasoning seminar from HERE

I'm a flabby, furry, balding old guy, and I'm considered incredibly sexy by women of all ages. Not to look-at, mind you; at least, not in photos. My enormous self-satisfaction and certainly that I CAN DELIVER THE GOODS is fabulously erotogenic to onlookers, and the fact that I truly love myself, and consider myself holistically worthwhile comes-across loud and clear to everyone who meets me.

This makes me MUCH more compelling and attractive than some 'outlaw biker-type' or some 'body-builder' or 'pretty-boy'... women are overwhelmingly more attracted to what a man IS than how he looks.

See the direction the community is moving in is admirable but honestly we all thought we were good guys, it was the community that told us we sucked.

Frankly, most all of you sucked. Most of you were 'Nice Guys', which meant you bent like reeds to suit the whims of the girls you desired.

That has a ZERO probability of generating attraction in any woman.

That's why we are here. I mean seriously. We are here because we went through a rough patch, found this place, and it told us we sucked and needed them to get better. Now just around the time everyone gets sick of being spoon-fed a bunch of BS ... now suddenly there are guru's popping up telling us to be our best selves? Sickening.

Being your best self is somehow undesirable to you?

I don't understand that concept. Sorry.

Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy

 

[Playboy]

seeeeee below

 

[Playboy]

Being your best self is somehow undesirable to you?

I don't understand that concept. Sorry.

I will take a look at what you have here Johnny.

What I was getting at here is that it seems the community is shifting for it's audience in a convenient way.

A lot of the audience that was drawn in by the game is beginning to get skeptical and jaded by all the fake it till you make it, the neg advice, the allusions of being a bad ass or a jerk, and the idea you have to have fancy lines or that lines even work at all for more than getting a good laugh, often by the end of the night at your own expence.

Anyways its nice to know alternatives are starting to pop up, but the idea for most men of going back to their core brings up those old feelings of the rejection of the nice guy. You see Johnny I was a nice guy because I was a nice guy. It was never to get into their pants, in fact I didn't know it at the time but girls would be begging in their own subtle ways, to take it further but I just wasnt a guy who embraced his sexuality, it felt shameful for me, much like Style use to feel. The idea that being a guy of character and integrity like you could work to enchant women is highly interesting and exciting for me but I don't want to get my hopes up because I feel I lived that reality at one time, and I felt that the insensitive, detached, frat boy type dude was the one that seemed to be getting the girls into bed, not me. I may have had a lot of girls that were friends, even secret admirers who gave me chances to take it further ... I mean I had my moments, but I never felt like a player or a guy that girls fingered themselves to. I always felt second best to someone.

I will check out what you have for material there johnny but I would really appreciate a reply from you regarding this as it is very important to me to hear from someone coming from your frame and position. I think a lot of us are so sick of feeling abused by the next guru coming from a different angel and turning out like some of the others just out for money. I'm not saying thats what you are and you seem like a good guy, otherwise I wouldnt take the time to even get into this with you.

Anyways its out to the bars for me, where I will make sure I approach girls with non-needy and takeaway bodylanguage, try to work on my nonverbals, and fall back on canned lines only to maybe have a short chance to bring home the bacon before they see my act for what it is. lol.

 

[crossboss]

A lot of girls didn't think I was

fake...the problem was I wasn't developing myself in an attractive way...Good Post...

 

[Johnny Soporno]

the problem was I wasn't developing myself in an attractive way...Good Post...

Thanks Cross, DJVladdy, Playboy, Elor, Wolf, etc -

I'm just here to ensure the message gets out:

BE WORTHY and everything you deserve will be yours, naturally - and you needen't fear losing it/her/them!

Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy

 

[Johnny Soporno]

Bump

I figured the message here was just TOO important to let fade away....

JS

 

[DonGorgon]

women tell you than when they can smell your lack of self confidence...lol.. They are tuned off.