justanotherguy
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I'm writing this post because I just found out my friends uses this site. He constantly *****es about not getting any girls, and it's really starting to freaking annoy me, because he's a freaking wuss and despite telling him that, he keeps freaking waiting forever to ask someone out thinking about whether she likes him or not. So Rob (this is a pseudonym), this is for you; if anyone else agrees great, if not, whatever.
Now you're not an ugly guy and it doesn't seem like you have Asberger Syndrome, it's just that you're a freaking wuss. Wanna know why I get "so many girls?" Because I f*cking ask them out. You should try it some time: grab a pair of goddamned balls and just ask a woman out if you like her. I'm not promising that you're going to be successful all the time, in fact I promise you that you won't. I know you don't like rejection, but it happens to all of us; anyone who says that they always bat 1000 is a liar and probably a virgin on top of that. After you ask her, she either says yes or she says no. If she says yes, great; if she says no, at least you know that you can move on and won't get freaking hung up on her wondering whether she likes you or not, putting you in even more despair. Trust me, I've been there and it sucks ass. I know you get there a lot and that's why you suck when it comes to getting laid. Consider rejection as a favor from her to you. The sooner you ask, the better. The longer you wait to ask, you're screwed because you'll be thinking way too much and you'll look like a jackass when you finally do get around to doing it because you'll be WAY more nervous.
Before I move on lemme just say this: stop making goddamned excuses. So what if she works with you? Just use a little more discretion. If you get rejected, just act like nothing happened after all is said and done; you should act like nothing happened even if you do end up hooking up with her. So what if she still spreads the gossip around? At least none of the other women who heard are going to think you're gay. Plus, women are competitive amongst each other so at least one of them will be wondering why you asked that woman out instead of her even if none of them are attracted to you. It's better for a woman not to be attracted to you and not think you're a homo or a prude than not attracted to you and think you're homo or a prude because there's always the possibility that she might introduce you to one of her friends.
So now you can't think of any more whiny excuses, here's what I do that helps my swagger. Just know that she's human, so talk to her as if you're talking to another one of you're platonic female friends. [NOTE: I have a lot of them because they're my close friends (don't get that part confused my friend) but it doesn't hurt because they help your game in several different ways: when other girls see you hanging out with them, the immediately know that I'm not a creep is some other girl is hanging out with me; they are incredible wingmen; and tell you what works and what doesn't work when it comes to clothes, etc.] If they're hot and you think that they're out of your league, something that you shouldn't do, just approach them as if she already likes you. I don't mean act like a jackass, I simply mean that you should act as if you're on the same level as her, because at the end of the day she's just another human being, just like you. In your case think about it like this: you just met her so she has no freaking idea that you don't get girls or that you go to a website to learn to have game... none of that sh*t your self conscious about... hell for all you know she could be in the same boat as you and trust me, there are a million women out there who have terrible game, good looking or not.
The whole time you're talking to her don't think negatively. Don't wonder whether you're worthy, just convince yourself that you are. Other than unsolicited perversions, don't tell yourself that you can't talk about something because it's embarrassing, instead think of ways pull off talking about whatever it is, if the conversation calls for it. Just tell yourself, "how can I pull this off?" Hell, it's good to talk about personal things you do, however nerdy or lame you might think it is -- you'll often times be surprised. Plus if she's interested, she'll show interest in at least one of the things that you do, which will perfectly lead into telling her that she should give you her phone number (or email or facebook if you're still a wuss) so she can join you some time...
If the conversation leads to an uncomfortable silence there are several things you can do. If you think you can pull it off, just say, "wow, this is an uncomfortable silence... how do we get rid of it?" Or just find a way to politely go off and do other things, if she's still interested she'll find a way to bump into you later at the party, bar, whatever.
Life's too short dude, stop thinking about crap and just do it. In this world you either go after what you want or you sit and whine and mope about how you're not getting what you want. This doesn't just pertain to women, it applies to EVERYTHING.
That's all that I can think of. Hope it helps. And if you ever c*ck-block me again while I'm about to close a deal, I'll kick your ass. I'm giving you this advice so you don't do it again...
...and no, don't correct my typos, jerk... I didn't proofread.
Now you're not an ugly guy and it doesn't seem like you have Asberger Syndrome, it's just that you're a freaking wuss. Wanna know why I get "so many girls?" Because I f*cking ask them out. You should try it some time: grab a pair of goddamned balls and just ask a woman out if you like her. I'm not promising that you're going to be successful all the time, in fact I promise you that you won't. I know you don't like rejection, but it happens to all of us; anyone who says that they always bat 1000 is a liar and probably a virgin on top of that. After you ask her, she either says yes or she says no. If she says yes, great; if she says no, at least you know that you can move on and won't get freaking hung up on her wondering whether she likes you or not, putting you in even more despair. Trust me, I've been there and it sucks ass. I know you get there a lot and that's why you suck when it comes to getting laid. Consider rejection as a favor from her to you. The sooner you ask, the better. The longer you wait to ask, you're screwed because you'll be thinking way too much and you'll look like a jackass when you finally do get around to doing it because you'll be WAY more nervous.
Before I move on lemme just say this: stop making goddamned excuses. So what if she works with you? Just use a little more discretion. If you get rejected, just act like nothing happened after all is said and done; you should act like nothing happened even if you do end up hooking up with her. So what if she still spreads the gossip around? At least none of the other women who heard are going to think you're gay. Plus, women are competitive amongst each other so at least one of them will be wondering why you asked that woman out instead of her even if none of them are attracted to you. It's better for a woman not to be attracted to you and not think you're a homo or a prude than not attracted to you and think you're homo or a prude because there's always the possibility that she might introduce you to one of her friends.
So now you can't think of any more whiny excuses, here's what I do that helps my swagger. Just know that she's human, so talk to her as if you're talking to another one of you're platonic female friends. [NOTE: I have a lot of them because they're my close friends (don't get that part confused my friend) but it doesn't hurt because they help your game in several different ways: when other girls see you hanging out with them, the immediately know that I'm not a creep is some other girl is hanging out with me; they are incredible wingmen; and tell you what works and what doesn't work when it comes to clothes, etc.] If they're hot and you think that they're out of your league, something that you shouldn't do, just approach them as if she already likes you. I don't mean act like a jackass, I simply mean that you should act as if you're on the same level as her, because at the end of the day she's just another human being, just like you. In your case think about it like this: you just met her so she has no freaking idea that you don't get girls or that you go to a website to learn to have game... none of that sh*t your self conscious about... hell for all you know she could be in the same boat as you and trust me, there are a million women out there who have terrible game, good looking or not.
The whole time you're talking to her don't think negatively. Don't wonder whether you're worthy, just convince yourself that you are. Other than unsolicited perversions, don't tell yourself that you can't talk about something because it's embarrassing, instead think of ways pull off talking about whatever it is, if the conversation calls for it. Just tell yourself, "how can I pull this off?" Hell, it's good to talk about personal things you do, however nerdy or lame you might think it is -- you'll often times be surprised. Plus if she's interested, she'll show interest in at least one of the things that you do, which will perfectly lead into telling her that she should give you her phone number (or email or facebook if you're still a wuss) so she can join you some time...
If the conversation leads to an uncomfortable silence there are several things you can do. If you think you can pull it off, just say, "wow, this is an uncomfortable silence... how do we get rid of it?" Or just find a way to politely go off and do other things, if she's still interested she'll find a way to bump into you later at the party, bar, whatever.
Life's too short dude, stop thinking about crap and just do it. In this world you either go after what you want or you sit and whine and mope about how you're not getting what you want. This doesn't just pertain to women, it applies to EVERYTHING.
That's all that I can think of. Hope it helps. And if you ever c*ck-block me again while I'm about to close a deal, I'll kick your ass. I'm giving you this advice so you don't do it again...
...and no, don't correct my typos, jerk... I didn't proofread.
