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rainier2000

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I've been on a three dates with this really hot tomboy and have played it cool up until now. Yesterday she e-mails me, telling me she is busy this weekend but would still like to see me nonetheless. I have a severe lapse in judgement and send the following e-mail:

Sounds like you're really booked this weekend. If you want, we can wait until next weekend to go out.

But if you want to do something outside on Sunday, I have lots of ideas. Take your pick:

Close to Home
Call up a few friends for a game of backyard volleyball
Test out that Rope Swing I told you about
Swimming and diving in the stripper pits
Teach you to mountain bike

In the City
The Zoo. In addition to all the animals, they have both paddleboats & bumperboats, too.
Mini-Golf & Go-Karts
Picnic on the lakefront--that is if you're daring enough to eat my Pasta Couscous Salad

If you want to dine inside, my friend is the house magician at TGIFriday's so he can entertain us with card tricks. I also like the Tokoyo Inn. The Japanese chefs there twirl their knives in the air and prepare everything on a hot skillet right in front of you.

As for ice-skating, the rink is open to the public from 1pm to 3pm on Sundays. So we could skate then hang out outside at the Park afterwards. I'll bring a frisbee and you could bring your soccer ball and actually teach me how to play.

Try to have some fun this weekend

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My intention was to present myself as an adventureous chap who can think outside the restrictive "dinner & a movie" view of dating. I wanted to come across as a fun guy who's up for anything but the more I read this e-mail the more I think I look like a submissive, groveling *****-whipped loser with my constant "if you want" entreaties and barrage of date ideas.

Did I overdo it or am I just being paranoid? Is there any hope for recovery or has she already forever delegated me to her nice guy outbox?


-rainier

p.s. what does afc mean?
 

Jariel

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You did overdo it in my opinion as it looks like you are trying too hard to win her over, or win her back after she said she couldn't make this weekend. Maybe 1 or 2 options would have made you seem more casual.

That said, you certainly know how to plan interesting dates and I'm thinking you sound like a really cool, confident and fun guy to hang out with! I'm definitely taking some tips from you! So your mail did work to that effect, it may just seem a bit too full on for her.

Don't despair though. Just try to play it a bit cooler in future.

Ps. AFC = average frustrated chump
 

NewMan

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Just pick one thing and invite her. Don't give her options.

You don't want to give her a list of things to do - because now she knows more about you - less is more early on. Keep things (date ideas as well) to yourself. Reveal it slowly. Let her get to know you slowly.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Originally posted by syncmaster
... way too many options. Tell her what you're gonna do. Don't ask.

"I'm going out on Sunday w/ a few friends. You're more than welcome to come along."
Good idea if you are actually going with friends

but how do you do that if you want a single date with her?

"im going to a resturant and cinema on my own, your more than welcome to come along"

just isnt gonna work is it?
 

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Fastest way from point A to point B is a straight line

Originally posted by syncmaster
... way too many options. Tell her what you're gonna do. Don't ask.

"I'm going out on Sunday w/ a few friends. You're more than welcome to come along."
I am truly shock every time I see someone give advice to be striaght forward and to the point. Im impressed

NO GUTS NO GLORY!!!!!!
 

duttylove

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that e-mail is wack and i hope your joking. all youve done in that email is qualify yourself to her and ask her to walk you around on a lesh to which ever destination shell use you for.

good luck
 

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errr.....? :confused:


Laterz...
 
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