No.Danny
Master Don Juan
Knowing how this site works not many will read this as most of you seem to be worried about how many times to send a text and what to say. You know the important thing . But those that do read this, enjoy!
For a long time there has been a misconception going around that jerks get ALL the girls. Jerks this, jerks that..... Hush. I've heard enough!!
Let's begin, an article states:
Women want some chase, some drama, some intrigue. If it's too easy to get the guy, then she might think, "Wait, he just fell into my lap. This is fishy. Maybe he thinks that I'm too good for him. Cool. I'm too good for him. Wait, if I'm too good for him, then that means I could do better. Next!"
I hate to say this, but this thought has crossed my mind (and I'm sure others' as well) more than once. The allure of the emotionally unavailable guy is that he doesn't think the girl is worth committing to, not yet anyway, which can be construed as, "you're not good enough for me," which automatically makes the girl want to be "good enough," so this is when she starts chasing the guy, when she damn well knows that she shouldn't be.
Now why do we believe this to be true?
The reason why it’s become accepted that women like *******s is due to a logical fallacy known as the defective induction.You see women with *******s repeatedly and you assume that this is universally true… no matter how many women you see or know personally who’re dating perfectly decent individuals.
Now spread that out amongst frustrated men who’re angry about the fact that the women they like are dating jerks. As they carp and moan and commiserate about how unfair life is, they’ll all agree that it seems as though women prefer to date *******s instead of nice guys like them, which provides seeming confirmation. After all, if their friends are noticing this too, surely this means that there’s something to it, right?
Well, there’s a reason why the plural of “anecdote” isn’t “data”. And don’t call me Shirley.
Humans are complex beasties, sexually. There’s a hell of a lot going on under the hood that we’re not even vaguely aware of or even able to control on a conscious level, and these are all things that lead up to answer the question of “Will I **** this person or not?”
For example: women have a natural attraction to high levels of testosterone in men. Outward indicators of high levels of testosterone: wide jawline, body hair, even behavior such as competitiveness and risk-taking will trigger a response in women. If a woman is ovulating, her reaction to high testosterone is even more pronounced. However, this reaction isn’t binary or constant; a women who are at the waning phase of their menstrual cycle tend to prefer less masculine men; that is, men with lower levels of testosterone.
Men who are less “alpha”, as it were.
And all of this is before we get into the psychological aspects that help define who and what we’re attracted to.
But “Hey, we’re all really ****ing complex machines” doesn’t sell a lot of books. And then frustrated nerds and Nice Guys give up and start trying to act like ****s without understanding just what it is that women do find out about *******s. As far as they know, as long as they emulate the traits of an *******, they should be getting tail too. And so, like a Pacific Islander cargo cult that thinks that building an ersatz air strip will lead to goodies raining from the skies, frustrated nerds, pick up artists and Nice Guys start acting like ****s in hopes of getting laid more often.
So you ask what do women like?
Women like a man, guy who has his life together. Doesn't care what others think, a guy who creates a challenge. Makes her hamster wheel spin. Not an arrogant prick, or even worse a wannabe who they'll instantly see right through.
For a long time there has been a misconception going around that jerks get ALL the girls. Jerks this, jerks that..... Hush. I've heard enough!!
Let's begin, an article states:
Women want some chase, some drama, some intrigue. If it's too easy to get the guy, then she might think, "Wait, he just fell into my lap. This is fishy. Maybe he thinks that I'm too good for him. Cool. I'm too good for him. Wait, if I'm too good for him, then that means I could do better. Next!"
I hate to say this, but this thought has crossed my mind (and I'm sure others' as well) more than once. The allure of the emotionally unavailable guy is that he doesn't think the girl is worth committing to, not yet anyway, which can be construed as, "you're not good enough for me," which automatically makes the girl want to be "good enough," so this is when she starts chasing the guy, when she damn well knows that she shouldn't be.
Now why do we believe this to be true?
The reason why it’s become accepted that women like *******s is due to a logical fallacy known as the defective induction.You see women with *******s repeatedly and you assume that this is universally true… no matter how many women you see or know personally who’re dating perfectly decent individuals.
Now spread that out amongst frustrated men who’re angry about the fact that the women they like are dating jerks. As they carp and moan and commiserate about how unfair life is, they’ll all agree that it seems as though women prefer to date *******s instead of nice guys like them, which provides seeming confirmation. After all, if their friends are noticing this too, surely this means that there’s something to it, right?
Well, there’s a reason why the plural of “anecdote” isn’t “data”. And don’t call me Shirley.
Humans are complex beasties, sexually. There’s a hell of a lot going on under the hood that we’re not even vaguely aware of or even able to control on a conscious level, and these are all things that lead up to answer the question of “Will I **** this person or not?”
For example: women have a natural attraction to high levels of testosterone in men. Outward indicators of high levels of testosterone: wide jawline, body hair, even behavior such as competitiveness and risk-taking will trigger a response in women. If a woman is ovulating, her reaction to high testosterone is even more pronounced. However, this reaction isn’t binary or constant; a women who are at the waning phase of their menstrual cycle tend to prefer less masculine men; that is, men with lower levels of testosterone.
Men who are less “alpha”, as it were.
And all of this is before we get into the psychological aspects that help define who and what we’re attracted to.
But “Hey, we’re all really ****ing complex machines” doesn’t sell a lot of books. And then frustrated nerds and Nice Guys give up and start trying to act like ****s without understanding just what it is that women do find out about *******s. As far as they know, as long as they emulate the traits of an *******, they should be getting tail too. And so, like a Pacific Islander cargo cult that thinks that building an ersatz air strip will lead to goodies raining from the skies, frustrated nerds, pick up artists and Nice Guys start acting like ****s in hopes of getting laid more often.
So you ask what do women like?
Women like a man, guy who has his life together. Doesn't care what others think, a guy who creates a challenge. Makes her hamster wheel spin. Not an arrogant prick, or even worse a wannabe who they'll instantly see right through.
