Jinxing Yourself

[Paid Laid & Made]

Everytime, I set up a date or activity with a girl and tell one of my close friends about it, they end up cancelling or something comes up to ruin my plans. I hope, I am not the only DJ who has this problem. None of these girls even know or talk with my friends. Its always different girls. But its starting to become a reoccuring thing and its scaring me.

My Plan:

- Not telling my friends about Girl related projects I am working on.

 

[Big Pappy]

Ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy?

What you describe is your own sub-concious trying to destroy what you've built.

Imagine this: You wake up in the morning and have eggs. Do you call your friends and tell them this, like it is something special? I think not.

So, you wake up and you have a date with a beautiful woman. Why would you tell your friends? Are you trying to show them that you are a player and that they are not? Are you trying to impress them?

Try to make it a policy to never tell your friends who you're dating or when you're dating. I promise you, this can pay off dividends in the long run. When word gets around about how tight lipped you are, you will increase your chance of having a nice lay, as women seem to find it distasteful fo a guy to kiss and tell.

Alternatively, your friends could be a bit pissed at you playing show and tell with them, using these hot chicks as a trophy.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

No I dont go and brag about strange chicks. These are girls we know and sometimes they hook me up with and everything seems to go fine. Like, one friend hooked me up with a nice girl, he told me her IL was high ... it was through the roof, as I experienced myself. But 2 hours after I talked with him about her, she got weird and called me every 30 minutes about unimportant things such as her being tired and destroyed our relationship.

That's why I am doing testing on this. I never talk about girls, I have sex with. I even change subjects when asked about it.

 

[StudMeister]

Was having the exact problem, not discussing anything and normally keeping to yourself has worked for me

 

[Seeph]

SSDD.. I dont know what it is... but when a close friend would ask me about a girl I would tell him sometimes.. before we did anything.. and things would just end up going wrong.. I dont know what it is, but I think it might be sub-consciencous like pappy said.. When I think back to these instances it seems that I acted over confident.. like I knew I was gonna get some, my sub consciencous was coming out and giving off the vibe of "i've already convinced myself I've got you".. and girls are turned off when they think a guy has control over them or thinks they are already in their pants without their 'say-so'.

. . . Thoughts?

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

seeph - yes this attitude of over-confidence or pretentiousness may influence you wrongly and destroy your game, because the words you chose and the way you say those words usually show how and what you are thinking and this is where the girl can see right through your unwarranted glorified status and be turned off by your arrogance.

Don't show them that you know that they like you before they show you that they like you - because you really don't have a basis for it since you haven't gone out yet - this is premature celebration and pride -- and pride cometh before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall!

 

[xblitz44x]

I really think it's just a coincidence, but we'd need more info. to know for sure. Perhaps you only tell your friends about certain girls, like the one's you really like, and since you like them so much you are doing things to destroy it without realizing. And when you look back all you see is "Hmmm, when I tell my friends, they cancel dates...I should stop telling my friends!"

 

[StudMeister]

Yeah, but I think we mean it in a more, basic way. Like you talk with the girl on monday for a date on wednesday, talk with your friends on tuesday about her and your date and then out of the blue BAM!!! She cancels tuesday / wednesday night. Like god is messing with your DJ'ing or something

 

[Golden Arms]

I am gald to see I am not the only one with this same problem. Well, what am I supposed to say when my friends ask me what I'm doing tonight ?
I guess I'll have to lie from now on
Weird

 

[StudMeister]

I just don't say anything till after. The first date is my killer.