jesus, I am like the 40yr old virgin

[moneyisking]

well, no I am not 40, but I am 21, going to be junior in university, and still no girlfriend or sex.

when I watched the movie 40 yr old virgin few yrs ago, i laughed and thought "there really are guys like this? wow, what a chump!"

ironically, i guess i am following the same path. I heard that university campus is the "easiest place on earth to get laid" and my dumb a$$ hasn't boned a single girl on campus; or in my life...

I won't even say it's the outer game or inner game bs anymore. I read, practiced and asked out girls, carried out routines, and still no result.

i don't really even care about results anymore. at the end of the day, I am still depressed, sad, and lonely. of course a lot of you will come up with cliche advices like "you'll get girls when you learn to be happy alone" or "just be yourself" or etc.

but like i said, this is not really about girls directly, but with something else. you know when you know something is up or there, but you can't really explain what or why you're fvcking sh!t up... i am in that situation.

it has to do with something deep, but i have no damn clue about it either. i want to talk to girls and be that happy, funny guy, but i look back to myself and i am always sad or grumpy even when i talk to girls. so i can tell this is not about girls anymore.

i don't know guys, it feels like something is fvcked up inside my head or something. game and girls are out of questions. i try to cheer me up and be bright, but something is keep pulling me down. sh!t, help me if you're a psychologist or psychiatrist or something. thank you.

 

[Warrior74]

Go out. Meet a girl. Invite her over, try to fvck. Repeat until done. No dates. No walking around holding hands. Cut all the BS and just go for the lay. In fact don't even think about anything but going for the lay. When I finally decided to lose my V card at 19 thats all I did. I turned my brain off and just went for it. Thinking just gets you in trouble. Forget about everything you learned here for a while....just look for a chic who wants to bang. See a chic you like? get some eye contact, say "whats up", chitchat for a minute or two, ask her what shes doing later, get her number invite her over, put on a movie, try to fvck her until she either stops you or gives it up. If she flakes out or says no, on to the next. Dammit just get it done. It's not that hard or complicated as most people make it.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1681637#post1681637

 

[Mister T]

Go out. Meet a girl. Invite her over, try to fvck. Repeat until done. No dates. No walking around holding hands. Cut all the BS and just go for the lay. In fact don't even think about anything but going for the lay. When I finally decided to lose my V card at 19 thats all
I did. I turned my brain off and just went for it. Thinking just gets you in trouble. Forget about everything you learned here for a while....just look for a chic who wants to bang. See a chic you like? get some eye contact, say "whats up", chitchat for a minute or two, ask her what shes doing later, get her number invite her over, put on a movie, try to fvck her until she either stops you or gives it up. If she flakes out or says no, on to the next. Dammit just get it done. It's not that hard or complicated as most people make it.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1681637#post1681637

Agreed, also some other things that you might want to check before getting your game on.

A) Do you work out? Are you physically fit? If not, try P90X or Starting Strength. I'd recommend P90X first as Starting Strength is more for strength than looks alone, but if fast noticeable "beach muscle" results is what you want, you're gonna want to do P90X. Let's face it --- being good looking/in shape is far more important than being fat is and deserves a lot more credit than people around here seem to say. To ignore your body is lost opportunity when you can drastically improve the way you look and appear significantly more attractive to strangers eyes even before you've even met them!

B) Do you dress **sharp** or like everyone else? You don't need to afford $1000 suits with $400 designer shoes or anything, but finding combos of 1) nice clothes 2) good cologne 3) nice shoes (girls love this ****) will marginally to significantly increase your social standing.

C) Do you "warmup" before going to the bars/clubs? Too little theory, and you'll end up confused and like every other guy at the bar who is standing int he corners with a beer held up to their chest. Too much theory, and you'll be hindered too. So warm up with just the right amount of theory, get some drills out, remember proper body language, and basically prime your "alpha male" mode. It means getting in the zone/mentally focusing on being ****ier, more confident, puffing your chest out, etc.

D) Do you go by yourself or with other guys? You need other guy friends to motivate you to just talk to random girls when you're just standing there. In fact, I attribute a good buddy of mine last night who said that I was just standing there, and need to stop being a ***** etc etc. The idea of being below my fellow friends created a desire to prove that I'm worthy too ---- and created a challenge. In other words, what I am saying is that friends are like "catalysts" that reduce the hill that you have to overcome when it comes to talking to strangers. They remind you important things like so what if they ditch you, **** them they're a complete stranger etc. It also helps to know that American girls are just intrinsically *****ier than European/Asian girls (who are smarter, more classy, and not as *****y IMO).

E) Do you think too much? Turn off the thinking by doing a few things.

1) Get off the computer and sell it only use it at the library like I am doing right now.

2) Drink 3-5 beers/drinks and get tipsy. Now your fear is off. You can blame civilization and living in modern society inhibiting your natural sex drive.

3) Once you've learned how its done while on alcohol (the training wheels), you can learn to take them off and do what you did before especially since doing something when your'e sober is a lot easier to do than when drunk.

 

[Warrior74]

Agreed, also some other things that you might want to check before getting your game on.

A) Do you work out? Are you physically fit? If not, try P90X or Starting Strength. I'd recommend P90X first as Starting Strength is more for strength than looks alone, but if fast noticeable "beach muscle" results is what you want, you're gonna want to do P90X. Let's face it --- being good looking/in shape is far more important than being fat is and deserves a lot more credit than people around here seem to say. To ignore your body is lost opportunity when you can drastically improve the way you look and appear significantly more attractive to strangers eyes even before you've even met them!

B) Do you dress **sharp** or like everyone else? You don't need to afford $1000 suits with $400 designer shoes or anything, but finding combos of 1) nice clothes 2) good cologne 3) nice shoes (girls love this ****) will marginally to significantly increase your social standing.

C) Do you "warmup" before going to the bars/clubs? Too little theory, and you'll end up confused and like every other guy at the bar who is standing int he corners with a beer held up to their chest. Too much theory, and you'll be hindered too. So warm up with just the right amount of theory, get some drills out, remember proper body language, and basically prime your "alpha male" mode. It means getting in the zone/mentally focusing on being ****ier, more confident, puffing your chest out, etc.

D) Do you go by yourself or with other guys? You need other guy friends to motivate you to just talk to random girls when you're just standing there. In fact, I attribute a good buddy of mine last night who said that I was just standing there, and need to stop being a ***** etc etc. The idea of being below my fellow friends created a desire to prove that I'm worthy too ---- and created a challenge. In other words, what I am saying is that friends are like "catalysts" that reduce the hill that you have to overcome when it comes to talking to strangers. They remind you important things like so what if they ditch you, **** them they're a complete stranger etc. It also helps to know that American girls are just intrinsically *****ier than European/Asian girls (who are smarter, more classy, and not as *****y IMO).

E) Do you think too much? Turn off the thinking by doing a few things.

1) Get off the computer and sell it only use it at the library like I am doing right now.

2) Drink 3-5 beers/drinks and get tipsy. Now your fear is off. You can blame civilization and living in modern society inhibiting your natural sex drive.

3) Once you've learned how its done while on alcohol (the training wheels), you can learn to take them off and do what you did before especially since doing something when your'e sober is a lot easier to do than when drunk.

dude. Fvck ALLL that! You'll spend another three months worrying about all that crap. Just do what I said. Don't even think about that crap. It goes with out saying...dress decent, smell good, meet women. It ain't that hard. I was a hardcore computer programming nerd and got laid in college. You just have to get out there and try. Go out there today and met someone walking around campus. Or after class tomorrow. Start now, don't stop, don't think, don't even reply to this thread. Just go and get it done.

 

[Mister T]

dude. Fvck ALLL that! You'll spend another three months worrying about all that crap. Just do what I said. Don't even think about that crap. It goes with out saying...dress decent, smell good, meet women. It ain't that hard. I was a hardcore computer programming nerd and got laid in college. You just have to get out there and try. Go out there today and met someone walking around campus. Or after class tomorrow. Start now, don't stop, don't think, don't even reply to this thread. Just go and get it done.

who said that all of that takes 3 months?

All the things I said above are worthy and practical. They are all things that any guy with decent gaming skills will do.

 

[Warrior74]

Yah I know. It's good advice, but guys like this will take all of that and just ponder it for ever. They just have to drop every fvcking limiting belief and negative thought and just get it done. The more they have to think about,the less likely they are to take action. And three months later you'll see em posting some crap about giving up or being suicidal. Relentless action is the only way forward, you can pick up the rest and fine tune your game as you play you know?

 

[moneyisking]

Go out. Meet a girl. Invite her over, try to fvck. Repeat until done. No dates. No walking around holding hands. Cut all the BS and just go for the lay. In fact don't even think about anything but going for the lay. When I finally decided to lose my V card at 19 thats all I did. I turned my brain off and just went for it. Thinking just gets you in trouble. Forget about everything you learned here for a while....just look for a chic who wants to bang. See a chic you like? get some eye contact, say "whats up", chitchat for a minute or two, ask her what shes doing later, get her number invite her over, put on a movie, try to fvck her until she either stops you or gives it up. If she flakes out or says no, on to the next. Dammit just get it done. It's not that hard or complicated as most people make it.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1681637#post1681637

that is probably the best advice, and therefore of course i have tried this in the past. unfortunately, they never showed up... and are going out with my friends now days; tearing me up man...

i think it's probably b/c i lack some sort of thing that get girls.

 

[Mister T]

that is probably the best advice, and therefore of course i have tried this in the past. unfortunately, they never showed up... and are going out with my friends now days; tearing me up man...

i think it's probably b/c i lack some sort of thing that get girls.

probably a penis and balls.

 

[Warrior74]

that is probably the best advice, and therefore of course i have tried this in the past. unfortunately, they never showed up... and are going out with my friends now days; tearing me up man...

i think it's probably b/c i lack some sort of thing that get girls.

Keep fvcking trying. Lower your standards to get a win and then raise them later. Sometimes you have to get a starter chic. Everyone doesnt start out the majors...some work their way up from the minor leagues. Just get it done, its two kinds of people, those who think about doing things, and those who have done them. The first can't really understand the latter. The latter can advise the first, but usually they don't listen.

 

[hansol]

Keep fvcking trying. Lower your standards to get a win and then raise them later. Sometimes you have to get a starter chic. Everyone doesnt start out the majors...some work their way up from the minor leagues. Just get it done, its two kinds of people, those who think about doing things, and those who have done them. The first can't really understand the latter. The latter can advise the first, but usually they don't listen.

It's true. I literally have no idea what the name of the chick who I lost my virginity to. I talked to her online on Nexopia (back in the day). We flirted a bit, went for coffee, and it was horrible! She was so boring. So I cut it short early and said I was taking her home.

Later, sitting at home by myself, I said "f u ck it" and texted her saying "you know, I totally would have shagged you tonight". She countered with "Well why didn't you say so? I thought you were pretty cute".

Long story short, we met up AGAIN that night, shagged in my truck, I kicked her out after and went home with a big grin on my face.

Do whatever you have to do man. Go caveman and just hit on anything with breasts. You'll lose your inhibitions quickly and most likely it'll pan out. Like Warrior says, you have to start somewhere.

 

[Zarky]

Forget it. College was NOT an easy place for me to get laid. Young women are NOT easy to get into the sack, because 1) their sex drive is only just starting to ramp up and 2) they have a ton of options and 3) they're beginning the search for their MRS degree.

30-somethings and early 40-somethings are much, much hornier and easier. If I were in college right now, I'd be going after older women not wasting time with 18-22 year olds. They're still kids and still have all the insecurities that kids have.

When I was in my senior year I was at a very big state college in California and very well-known on campus and getting chicks was still very challenging.

IMHO you don't start pulling real puss until you're in your 30s.

 

[JCballin88]

Forget it. College was NOT an easy place for me to get laid. Young women are NOT easy to get into the sack, because 1) their sex drive is only just starting to ramp up and 2) they have a ton of options and 3) they're beginning the search for their MRS degree.

I'm in a tough spot at college too. Not only do I NOT go to a big party school, but it's a small conservative college with largely sheltered, homely, unattractive girls all looking to get engaged by junior year.

There's a couple of more open, free-spirited chicks who are hot, but each one has at least 10-15 orbiters around at all times - trying to break through all that seems like a waste of time and energy.

 

[Mike32ct]

Forget it. College was NOT an easy place for me to get laid. Young women are NOT easy to get into the sack, because 1) their sex drive is only just starting to ramp up and 2) they have a ton of options and 3) they're beginning the search for their MRS degree.

30-somethings and early 40-somethings are much, much hornier and easier. If I were in college right now, I'd be going after older women not wasting time with 18-22 year olds. They're still kids and still have all the insecurities that kids have.

When I was in my senior year I was at a very big state college in California and very well-known on campus and getting chicks was still very challenging.

IMHO you don't start pulling real puss until you're in your 30s.

I agree with you about the young women. However, I've found many of the 30 and 40 somethings challenging too. These mature women tend to be more hung up on finding an LTR or husband. Granted, there are some just looking to fawk. Where do you usually meet them?

 

[moneyisking]

man.. what a f ucking life haha, i guess keeping on is the only option

 

[Deicide]

I'm in the same situation, except I'm not depressed like that. I'm a 21 year old college senior who has never kissed a girl, had a girlfriend, or gotten laid. It's not that I'm not sociable, I clearly am, I have to be and I like it. I'm a Broadcasting major that does radio on-air work. I lift weights and play guitar on a regular basis. I have the life and hobbies down. But I can never figure how to be with women either. I still enjoy talking to them though. I just seem to be naturally too nice and needy.

 

[actionjaxson]

post a pic so we can help improve your look.

 

[Rescue Mission]

lower standards the first few times - you'll gain sexual confidence no matter who you fvck at first..........so after a few HB4's, you will have much better confidence when it comes to sex, AND you will be saying to yourself "I got me some 4's but DAMN I WANT MORE, I WANT A HOTTIE" and it will inspire you to get better looking chicks even further

 

[Maxtro]

How low do I go? Lower than I've ever gone in my lifetime?

There is a girl in my Japanese class who is a 1 and I'm sure I could fuck her. That is unless I don't vomit after seeing her naked.

Are fat/ugly girls really my only choice? I'm not sure that I'd even be able to get hard unless I take the blue pill.

 

[Warrior74]

How low do I go? Lower than I've ever gone in my lifetime?

There is a girl in my Japanese class who is a 1 and I'm sure I could fuck her. That is unless I don't vomit after seeing her naked.

Are fat/ugly girls really my only choice? I'm not sure that I'd even be able to get hard unless I take the blue pill.

Go as low as you can go and still do what you want to do. I can't bring myself to **** some morbidly obese or butt ugly chic. But I could, back in the day go for one that I personally considered a 4 or 5. You know the type, the kind you wouldn't walk through the mall with but you'll bang on the low low.

 

[It's-Me]

well, no I am not 40, but I am 21, going to be junior in university, and still no girlfriend or sex.

when I watched the movie 40 yr old virgin few yrs ago, i laughed and thought "there really are guys like this? wow, what a chump!"

ironically, i guess i am following the same path. I heard that university campus is the "easiest place on earth to get laid" and my dumb a$$ hasn't boned a single girl on campus; or in my life...

I won't even say it's the outer game or inner game bs anymore. I read, practiced and asked out girls, carried out routines, and still no result.

i don't really even care about results anymore. at the end of the day, I am still depressed, sad, and lonely. of course a lot of you will come up with cliche advices like "you'll get girls when you learn to be happy alone" or "just be yourself" or etc.

but like i said, this is not really about girls directly, but with something else. you know when you know something is up or there, but you can't really explain what or why you're fvcking sh!t up... i am in that situation.

it has to do with something deep, but i have no damn clue about it either. i want to talk to girls and be that happy, funny guy, but i look back to myself and i am always sad or grumpy even when i talk to girls. so i can tell this is not about girls anymore.

i don't know guys, it feels like something is fvcked up inside my head or something. game and girls are out of questions. i try to cheer me up and be bright, but something is keep pulling me down. sh!t, help me if you're a psychologist or psychiatrist or something. thank you.

Your thinking too much when you talk to these girls... You can't be thinking all the time, you just have to go with the flow. That means showing them your sexuality... Stop thinking so much and have a positive attitude! That will help you immensely.