jesus christ, i am ****ing tired of this

[tarotale]

let me tell you this... i have read A LOT of shyt, and for 2 yrs of searching
the dating advices, i think i came out worse than before.

ya sure, i know some techniques and all, but i am more like imprisoned in
the concepts and routines rather than enjoying the whole dating things
while being myself.

i hope others will really be aware of this... now i don't feel happy anymore.
i was tired and afraid of not being able to attract any women i want,
and now i am tired and afraid that i am locked into this dating shyt.

if you are successful, congratulations. but i am not, and i am pissed off at
the whole situation... so i guess it be best to cut back a little.

i thought of giving up and be a loser for the rest of my life, but fvck no
i can't do that. i have probably 60-70 more yrs to live and i am going to
get this shyt straight.

wish me a lot of luck guys, i need some rest and prostitute lol
dam... game is really fvcking hard, but i guess thats why it feels so good
when you're good at it. if you had experience like me but overcame it and
is achieving your dreams, please give me some insight and words. thank you

 

[protienpowder]

good lcuk

 

[suavesuave]

only the best survive.

 

[WCF]

I said it once in another thread, I'll say it again.

I believe this site is good for learning some things: mentality, confidence, philosophy, etc. However, specific techniques, such as what to say and how to act, should ALWAYS be taken with a grain of salt.

Take it from someone who's been there before, do NOT try and apply techniques that do not fit with your personality. Don't try and act like a jerk if you're not a jerk. Don't try and be sexual if you know your going to botch the hell out of it. Don't pretend to be someone your not. What works for others will not work for everyone. You will just come off as fake and the enjoyment will be gone. To be honest, I think you lose touch of reality when you try too hard to apply other's techniques. No matter what other people here say, only you know your situation. They don't know what's going on. They don't know you or the girl your after. They only read a brief description of what you post and then give you heaps of advice based on assumptions and generalizations. These people can help, but by no means is anything they're saying truth or the bottom line. Nothing is ever black or white; there's always shades of gray.

Your here to learn. This isn't some sort of acting class or precise military operation. You learn the mindset, you learn the confidence, you learn "the game." But once your actually out there, it's up to you to take it from there. Apply what you can, but don't force it. You do have a mind and personality of your own, don't you?

 

[Warrior74]

It's time for you to put the game in action. No more sitting on the sidelines. Knowing and doing are two different things.

You need to make a journal on here and start posting on that. No more reading. Just go out and try and report back.

Just go up to the next cute girl you meet and say hi. Start a convo and come back and post about it. Success builds success. Start small and move forward. But if you don't take any action, then all you can do is complain and whine about it and have no one to blame but yourself.

Good luck.

 

[aman]

A man takes responsibility for what he wants and gets it. Nothing gets in his way. You need to believe your game is a TEN. I don't care if your game is a zero, irrelevant. Give YOURSELF the permission to be a TEN.

 

[tarotale]

keep it coming brothers, i am liking what yal telling me

 

[Nutz]

let me tell you this... i have read A LOT of shyt, and for 2 yrs of searching
the dating advices, i think i came out worse than before.

ya sure, i know some techniques and all, but i am more like imprisoned in
the concepts and routines rather than enjoying the whole dating things
while being myself.

i hope others will really be aware of this... now i don't feel happy anymore.
i was tired and afraid of not being able to attract any women i want,
and now i am tired and afraid that i am locked into this dating shyt.

if you are successful, congratulations. but i am not, and i am pissed off at
the whole situation... so i guess it be best to cut back a little.

Read this:

http://www.fastseduction.com/whatsnew/featured/2009/06/2009-06-23a.shtml

 

[IKO69]

I can help you out because I've been there. The problem is you have engrossed yourself in pua so much you're no longer yourself. You think you can't be yourself around women and have to be a spitting image of a guy like Mystery....you are also outcome dependent which makes it worse. You put unnecessary pressure on yourself that way. Know how when you lose something like a remote you think about it so hard but yet you can't find it? Then you stop caring and forget about it and suddenly it shows up? You need the same approach. What you have to do is literally no longer care even though I know that's hard. Tell yourself if you won't find someone ever you will be content and forgive yourself of whatever happened in the past, the rejections, the insults, etc.. This works twofold because it takes the pressure off you and it will allow you to work on yourself and your life. This is what attracts women anyway, seeing a man move forward with his life and doing what he wants to do. You'll have more confidence from your achivements and when you finally come across a girl it will be smooth and natural, because you are being your genuine self.

When you walk around thinking poorly of yourself because of your situation it only harms you and sadly, torturing yourself doens't bring you any step closer to getting somone. I'm sure you're a good guy and everything and try real hard and are deserving but you gotta realize this. Don't do it. When I look back I regret all the energy and effort I wasted doing it.

 

[DonJuan11]

wish me a lot of luck guys, i need some rest and prostitute lol
dam... game is really fvcking hard, but i guess thats why it feels so good
when you're good at it. if you had experience like me but overcame it and
is achieving your dreams, please give me some insight and words. thank you

It's only hard because you are making it hard. There is no magic bullet, it takes time to get good at girls. Just like it takes time to get rich, to learn guitar, to be a professional athlete, to become a doctor.

You want a quick fix to have the girls fall in love with and have sex with on the first or second date. Unless you are a natural or find some girl at a bar, it won't happen that way. For some people it takes 2 weeks, for some people it takes 10 years. Just keep at it, it will eventually get better and you'll get more girls than you'll ever know soon enough.

Again, there is no quick fix.

 

[PRMoon]

get a part time that involves social interaction. Preferably something in marketing or sales. Then apply some of these techniques there. You'd be surprised how much they have in common. This way you get away from thinking of gaming girls and social interaction as something you do and more of a way of life.

 

[mikeyb]

The advice on this site is like vodka. If you have too much of it too soon and don't wash it down with plenty of water you'll wake up with your face in someone else's crapper.

Take some time to think about what you've read with a critical mind. It'll save you a lot of trouble as some guys here really take things to extremes and adopt all sorts of personas to look like a "DJ". But the point has always been the same - you need to learn to abstract yourself from this need for women or sex to be successful at both.

 

[slaog]

Tarotale, it sounds like you're learning off techniques without understanding how they work and why they make women feel the way they do. I recommend that when you're learning techniques learn the reason why the techniques work. Once you begin to understand how they work it'll be a real eye opener and you'll begin to see results.


You're also concentrating on outer game while you should be concentrating on inner game mostly. If you have good inner game the outer game will naturally follow.


For now I'd recommend taking a break and starting afresh again. Go out have fun and then learn from what you done right and wrong. Don't overthink things either.

 

[Jean Valjean]

Do what I did 20 years ago make up your mind to have a LTR with a nice girl ..


approach a bunch - don't worry about sex or any DJ stuff .. put her on a pedestal and viola .. nice girl that she is she will love you back exclusively for many many years. Some really nice girls hate DJs, guidos etc. and just want a guy who treats them well to love. Does exist!