Jaded

[KingofPuss]

I've gotten to the point in life where I'm jaded. I see the worst in a lot of things: women, education, the government, family, etc. There are only a few people in my life who I know have my back, including my father, a couple of friends, and my lawyer. That's it.

This is an issue and I realize this. I had started smoking copious amounts of weed to help me get out of a negative mindset, and it helped for a while, but then made it worse. So I'd drink, but then that'd make me more bitter. So I stopped all of that a while ago. Now I'm in a terrible position, forced out of school(not because of grades or substance abuse), forced to find a job and figure life out on the fly.

I'm determined to be done with women. I can't stand them anymore. There's always an issue that arises from EVERY SINGLE ONE. Whether that's because it was a one night thing and they wanted more, or you broke up with them, or you simply don't like them. They will lie and spread a forrest fire of bullsh!t. To make them look and feel better, and to get the high of making you look and feel worse. Now I thought college PC liberalism was a little over hyped, but I went to an extremely conservative university and was shocked by how liberal it is. Single handily the worst 4 months of my life. Did I have fun? Hell yes. But there are so many things that went so wrong that the fun I had wouldnt make a wake in the sea of sh!t I'm swimming thru.

I need to learn to cope with this, and right now I'm out of answers. Quite frankly I'm depressed, angry at everything, and upset with how dumb people seem to be. My self improvement is stunted which hurts me more than anything else. How do I get back on track from here?

 

[BlueAlpha1]

I've gotten to the point in life where I'm jaded. I see the worst in a lot of things: women, education, the government, family, etc. There are only a few people in my life who I know have my back, including my father, a couple of friends, and my lawyer. That's it.

This is an issue and I realize this. I had started smoking copious amounts of weed to help me get out of a negative mindset, and it helped for a while, but then made it worse. So I'd drink, but then that'd make me more bitter. So I stopped all of that a while ago. Now I'm in a terrible position, forced out of school(not because of grades or substance abuse), forced to find a job and figure life out on the fly.

I'm determined to be done with women. I can't stand them anymore. There's always an issue that arises from EVERY SINGLE ONE. Whether that's because it was a one night thing and they wanted more, or you broke up with them, or you simply don't like them. They will lie and spread a forrest fire of bullsh!t. To make them look and feel better, and to get the high of making you look and feel worse. Now I thought college PC liberalism was a little over hyped, but I went to an extremely conservative university and was shocked by how liberal it is. Single handily the worst 4 months of my life. Did I have fun? Hell yes. But there are so many things that went so wrong that the fun I had wouldnt make a wake in the sea of sh!t I'm swimming thru.

I need to learn to cope with this, and right now I'm out of answers. Quite frankly I'm depressed, angry at everything, and upset with how dumb people seem to be. My self improvement is stunted which hurts me more than anything else. How do I get back on track from here?

It's normal dawg. My brother is your age and just coming out the other side of this. After our dad died he was smoking weed 7 days a week and working PT at a grocery store, and getting C's in school. Now, his grades are up, he quit smoking, and he's a pharmacy tech (his dream job is to be a pharmacist, this is a big step for him)

The bad news is at 21, I reckon you're going to deal with this for the next 15 years. The good news is it comes and goes.

I went through it at 22 when I ran into a BPD trainwreck, but was absolutely cruising in life from 23-24. Was putting away $1200 a month at my job, and dating 3 girls at once. Then my dad died 2 years ago. It's taken me 2 years to even REALIZE what a hole I dug myself into. Now I'm determined, but not naive enough to think I'll never hit a rough spell again.

You're not half the man you're going to be at 27. At 27 you won't be half the man you'll be at 32. I believe by the time you get to your late 30's though, if you kept it pushing, you'll reach an acceptance to where this won't be a big issue anymore.

As for what could help now, I'm biased because this is my passion in life. But TRAVEL. Do you have a passport? Take 2 weeks off, go to Europe or South America alone. Stay at a hostel and meet foreigners. Learn about their lives. Take in some nature and sunlight and come back a new man. I went to Europe for 30 days 6 months after my dad died. That trip single handedly carried me through the hardest year of my life without becoming an addict.

 

[Trump]

I've gotten to the point in life where I'm jaded. I see the worst in a lot of things: women, education, the government, family, etc. There are only a few people in my life who I know have my back, including my father, a couple of friends, and my lawyer. That's it.

This is an issue and I realize this. I had started smoking copious amounts of weed to help me get out of a negative mindset, and it helped for a while, but then made it worse. So I'd drink, but then that'd make me more bitter. So I stopped all of that a while ago. Now I'm in a terrible position, forced out of school(not because of grades or substance abuse), forced to find a job and figure life out on the fly.

I'm determined to be done with women. I can't stand them anymore. There's always an issue that arises from EVERY SINGLE ONE. Whether that's because it was a one night thing and they wanted more, or you broke up with them, or you simply don't like them. They will lie and spread a forrest fire of bullsh!t. To make them look and feel better, and to get the high of making you look and feel worse. Now I thought college PC liberalism was a little over hyped, but I went to an extremely conservative university and was shocked by how liberal it is. Single handily the worst 4 months of my life. Did I have fun? Hell yes. But there are so many things that went so wrong that the fun I had wouldnt make a wake in the sea of sh!t I'm swimming thru.

I need to learn to cope with this, and right now I'm out of answers. Quite frankly I'm depressed, angry at everything, and upset with how dumb people seem to be. My self improvement is stunted which hurts me more than anything else. How do I get back on track from here?

Wait until you get out in the real world. It's 100x worse.

But come on bro, how are 19 year old college girls, who don't know their left hand from their right hand, making your head spin so fast? If you are that sensitive/mentally weak from college/women, real life will destroy you. Don't worry about all the bs noise he said she said. Get some focus and get back to your education.

 

[fastlife]

Just ride the wave. I know right now all you see is what's in front of you--and it's a low point--but trust that things will get better (because they always do). I went through some hardcore disillusionment right between the ages of 18-21--'jaded' would be the right word--and again at 24.

But you'll get through it--embrace the struggle; it's part of becoming a man--and you'll get through it with more tools, more perspective, more resilience than you had before. Right now, stop looking at the big picture--too big of a problem to solve right now--and start focusing on fixing one thing at a time. At my lowest points, getting out of bed and showering was a Win, but it was better than the alternative.

 

[wifehunter]

Focus on the good things in your life and, try to get your mind off the sh!t. Count your blessings. Then, you'll be in a better place to deal with the sh!t.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

If you are in a bad place then you will perceive everybody as being boring ****s. If you have more than half a brain then quite often they are. Travel somewhere is a good idea, the more exotic the better.

When you can get the lay without too much effort sex with women can be boring.

When I turned 21 I was depressed for months. Nothing left to look forward to I thought.

Life might seem like sh-t but at least you have less responsibilities, no wife, no mortgage, no car repayments, no job contract. Use your freedom and go.

 

[backseatjuan]

Don't know man. In June I had my girl pack her things and leave while I was at work. Earlier I had my father die, nobody told me. Turned out I am adopted. I did get inheritance in the form of apartment and car. Entire summer I locked myself at work and worked my ass off, not giving a flying damn about clients. Then in September I closed my business, I still don't work. I have lost my desire to chase new women, I just don't care about them anymore, I rather jerk off. I have lost my believe in people, I know they all lie, even my family lied. I do not believe anyone. Will it go away? I was told on here that it would go away, but I do not see it going away. Either damage is done, or I was changed so much.

What can I recommend you do? Don't smoke weed and don't drink. Those are depressants, and you supposedly depressed in a way. Switch to anti-depressants, like coke. Just kidding, get off drugs. Be prepared that it won't go away.

Women is such a thing, that we often buy into their fake selves, and before we get to see their true selves, we are hooked on them. Do your own conclusions.

All people lie, you too should lie. Don't ever be honest with anyone, unless you want to compromise yourself. If someone gets close to you, ask yourself who send him.

It will get better man, anytime from tomorrow until a year or two, relax.

 

[blind_one]

@KingofPuss

So I guess that's how the situation with that lying cvnt turned out. Wow ....

I feel bad for you but that that is not gonna help. I know you will spring back from that. All hardships make us stronger. You will be jaded for a while but that will pass. Lets face it you got cuckd by the system, we know it is rigged. Question is what do you do after wards. You know full well, drugs n alcohol damn sure won't fix anything, but knowing me I would do the same for a awhile to blow off some steam and put things into perspective.

Education or career that won't run away from you. Heck I had a break from university for over half a year. I was miserable because I set back. I used that time to work, make connections and explode socially. I was a time well spent and who knows, maybe it was for the better.

If you ever feel like swinging by the eastern bloc, feel free to contact me

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

OP,

Your life seems like a tirade of sh!t at the moment and I sympathise. I've been there myself. I think most guys over the age of 25 will have.

Be safe knowing that it does pass, and you'll be a better person for it. You're already making the right choices, cutting out the chemicals. Carry on down that road. Every decision you make will effect your future. Carry on making the right choices today for tomorrow. It's painstaking to start with, but you soon start to recognise the fruit of your labour and it all starts falling in to place. When you work hard and make things happen for yourself, other things just seem to work in your favour too.

Lastly, don't hate on women. Whatever you think now, whatever your recent experience, you are smart enough to know they are not 'all' like that. Take time out and recover. Try new activities and meet new, different types of people. Don't focus so much on getting laid. Enjoy relationships for what they are as much as just getting your end away.

Chin up, sausage.

 

[RangerMIke]

Stop taking drugs and drinking. That sh!t will fvck you up. Two glasses of wine per day and that is all. Martial arts and Yoga.

Don't hate women for acting like women. It's like getting mad at the Sun when you get a sunburn. You got a sunburn because you didn't respect what the Sun could do to your skin.... didn't wear sunscreen.... stayed in the Sun too long. Women.... especially college girls flutter around like emotional butterflies landing on whatever flower strikes their fancy.... just sit back and enjoy the view and not let it get to you. Do not expect ANYTHING from women PERIOD. They are women, not men, they are different and just let it be what it is.

You really have to get to a point where you just don't give a fvck what they do, you live your life and stay focused on your happiness without worry about what women think or want and you will be happier. I have ALWAYS said that there is only two ways for a man to go through life... as a DJ or MGTOW. Any other path you take you will get used by women because that is what they do.

 

[Konada]

I'd say the biggest thing you need to get fixed is your relationship with your mother. Clearly the biggest thing fvcking you up is her lack of support for her OWN SON. Cut ties with her or fix your relationship with her, whether you care to admit or not this ordeal will continue to burn your future relationships with women.

 

[Bible_Belt]

My cousin got married at 18 and divorced at 22. She left him for one of his best friends. He moped around for a while, and ended up enlisting in the Army. Now he's sitting on a mountain in Afghanistan for Christmas, but his life is still in better shape than it was.

You've probably smoked too much weed already, though. It makes you have less tolerance for all the stupid sh!t that the military will make you do. They don't want people who ask 'why?' Weed makes people question authority, which is a large part of the reason it is illegal.

Moving somewhere is likely your best option. Several states just legalized Pick one.

 

[GoodOne123]

I know how you feel man, I'm going through tough times and I'm feeling the same.

Unfortunately I think it's the result of the illusions and lies we are fed through films, and childhood, being shattered before our eyes. We start to see romance and love isn't like it is in the movies, we find out in life that it's extremely rare for someone to go out of their way to be nice to you, just for the sake of being nice. People always have their agendas for the most part. We also learn that the majority are unintelligent, ignorant.

But despite this, I believe you need to adopt a zero tolerance for bull and negativity. Take the smart route to avoiding painful situations. Prioritise you and your happiness. The world is a tough place, so you need to get as much positivity in your life as possible.

Btw don't trust your lawyer lol. Unless he's close family or long time friend.

 

[KingofPuss]

Wait until you get out in the real world. It's 100x worse.

But come on bro, how are 19 year old college girls, who don't know their left hand from their right hand, making your head spin so fast? If you are that sensitive/mentally weak from college/women, real life will destroy you. Don't worry about all the bs noise he said she said. Get some focus and get back to your education.

The things she said got me expelled and possibly in huge legal trouble. So no I wouldnt say I'm mentally weak

 

[dustmuffin]

The things she said got me expelled and possibly in huge legal trouble. So no I wouldnt say I'm mentally weak

That is a very serious situation. I hope it works out for you. Didn't you say you were attending Texas A&M?

 

[KingofPuss]

That is a very serious situation. I hope it works out for you. Didn't you say you were attending Texas A&M?

I would rather not say which university, just to keep my privacy hidden in case anyone is doing snooping.

Did you ever share what trouble you were in a few months ago?

I'm not sure I'll ever be able to tell, although that is the thing I would like to do. So I can enlighten other men on what NOT to do. If I ever can, I will. I'll give you a hint: it involves crazy women making up lies. I'm sure you can piece the puzzle together

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I would rather not say which university, just to keep my privacy hidden in case anyone is doing snooping.


I'm not sure I'll ever be able to tell, although that is the thing I would like to do. So I can enlighten other men on what NOT to do. If I ever can, I will. I'll give you a hint: it involves crazy women making up lies. I'm sure you can piece the puzzle together

You told us already though. I believe she hit you first and she would not leave your room so you forced her out by grabbing her arms and you said you dragged her out of the room. She screamed that you were hitting her which you weren't, and then she started telling all her friends and no one believed you that you did not hit her (or something like that). So I'm assuming you got the police called on you because the school took it a little too seriously since it is a university where people are liberal as fvck. And because your mother hates you, police contacting her would only make things worse if they did actually contact her. However they most likely wouldn't since you are over the age of 18.

All of this was because you caught her hooking up with some dude because you saw some texts of her and some guy. And she faked the relationship so well to you that you had no clue. She was nice and sweet, everything (or almost everything) you would look for in a girl and she hid all of this from you.

B!tches, man. What can ya do?

Just something you should know though: your lawyer only has your back as long as you are paying him. After that, he really doesn't care.

 

[KingofPuss]

You told us already though. I believe she hit you first and she would not leave your room so you forced her out by grabbing her arms and you said you dragged her out of the room. She screamed that you were hitting her which you weren't, and then she started telling all her friends and no one believed you that you did not hit her (or something like that). So I'm assuming you got the police called on you because the school took it a little too seriously since it is a university where people are liberal as fvck. And because your mother hates you, police contacting her would only make things worse if they did actually contact her. However they most likely wouldn't since you are over the age of 18.

All of this was because you caught her hooking up with some dude because you saw some texts of her and some guy. And she faked the relationship so well to you that you had no clue. She was nice and sweet, everything (or almost everything) you would look for in a girl and she hid all of this from you.

B!tches, man. What can ya do?

Just something you should know though: your lawyer only has your back as long as you are paying him. After that, he really doesn't care.

Actually that was a seperate incident and the girl calmed down. She just got really mad and made allegations, but later went back and told everyone she was over reacting so I wouldnt be as mad at her.

The thing going on now is a much more serious allegation