Jaded after an affair

[Ronaldo7]

After having to tell my girlfriend of an affair, i've had to deal with a jaded sensation during the subsequent 6 months.

I haven't had the opportunity to strike (well, i've had them but they weren't up to my previous conquests) without my girlfriend knowing, being suspicious or leaving myself completely exposed.

The affair became public and i've had my stock driven up. However, it has also brought forth negative repercussions and a certain bad name for me. Messing with two women in the same gym.

My girlfriend obviously doesn't trust me for a variety of reasons. She knows i'm very good-looking and know how to manipulate people very well. I don't need a second try to score the TD. However, she is a stable woman and i do like keeping her around.

So after providing a bit of background, the question is the following: How does one get away from that jaded experience?

I'd call the other woman from the affair again, but i do not want my girlfriend finding out. So as one can observe, i'm in a very limited position.

 

[Billtx49]

Ask yourself how you would feel if you found your girlfriend doing the same with you and another man, aka triangulation. Would trust be gone? Love does not exist without trust. What else would disappear?
Others that know about it will think as they will, you can't change what they are thinking based on their individual morals and mindset.

 

[Sho-No-Luv]

After having to tell my girlfriend of an affair, i've had to deal with a jaded sensation during the subsequent 6 months.

I haven't had the opportunity to strike (well, i've had them but they weren't up to my previous conquests) without my girlfriend knowing, being suspicious or leaving myself completely exposed.

The affair became public and i've had my stock driven up. However, it has also brought forth negative repercussions and a certain bad name for me. Messing with two women in the same gym.

My girlfriend obviously doesn't trust me for a variety of reasons. She knows i'm very good-looking and know how to manipulate people very well. I don't need a second try to score the TD. However, she is a stable woman and i do like keeping her around.

So after providing a bit of background, the question is the following: How does one get away from that jaded experience?

I'd call the other woman from the affair again, but i do not want my girlfriend finding out. So as one can observe, i'm in a very limited position.

Your real problem hasn't presented itself yet. Do you really think your girlfriend is going to sit idly and not do anything, knowing you had an affair?

 

[Julian]

shes gonna use the info for some free rides on the c0ck carousel my friend believe that. shes only with you because she loves you...but you have hurt her deeply bro.

if you are going to participate in clandestine activities then make sure they never come to light ever unless you want to take the immediate consequences.


your best bet was to admit your wrong doing and then offer to walk away from your gf, showing her your remorse but also psychologically inducing a yearning from her for you. if she loves u the fact that you are willing to walk away (a mans most powerful tool) then automatically it will soften the blow of you having cheated, while at the same time reinforcing the fact you owned up and are now about to give it all away. in a fukt up type of way it will force her to fight for you lol.

 

[BeTheChange]

shes gonna use the info for some free rides on the c0ck carousel my friend believe that. shes only with you because she loves you...but you have hurt her deeply bro.

This. A woman scorned is capable of anything. Her getting a cheating "freebie" is a virtual certainty.

 

[Huffman]

Free sex for everyone! Double nice.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

You fvcked up. Of course she doesn't trust you. Either break up or suck it up.

 

[BeExcellent]

You realized the risk while the duplicity was ongoing. Now you have the consequences. Your SMV is perhaps raised, but your trust and influence vis a vis your girlfriend and her influential (and intelligent) family is diminished.

Be aware that people value integrity. You know this but as a Machiavel you are somewhat dismissive (or have been historically) of how other people perceive you. Now people are seeing past the façade to an unpleasant truth...that you are not to be trusted.

You were made aware of this potential outcome in prior threads even here. Voilà there are wise people who see what you are based upon your actions, and their opinions, based in fact, have adversely affected your reputation.

My grandmother was a stunningly beautiful woman who was widowed in her 40s and then remarried later, both unions were to successful and powerful men. She told me once that one's reputation in life is one's most important concern, second only to one's health. She also believed strongly that a woman's reputation & demeanor could greatly influence her husband's stature, and she conducted herself at all times with grace and discretion, not in the least to be an asset to my grandfather and my step grandfather, both of whom cherished her dearly until death.

If this is the sort of woman you are dating, she is a rare bird in today's world, even in the more conservative culture where you reside. Your indiscretion may be an embarrassment to her family, particularly her father, who may be in a position to thwart your ambitions within influential circles.

Is that risk worthwhile? You are young yet and cannot see the wisdom of an experienced eye, yet an experienced eye can see through you better than you might imagine. These are all things you need to weigh. You have damaged your reputation through lust. This makes you appear weak and exposes a weakness of character that others can observe, even if your gf remains loyal she has learned you are not to be trusted entirely.

You can still succeed in life with a reputation for deceit and betrayal, but your existence will be hollow for the liar of convenience will sting those closest to him and eventually he has few if any loyal friends.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

Break up before the revenge fvck is coming. It won't be long now.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You realized the risk while the duplicity was ongoing. Now you have the consequences. Your SMV is perhaps raised, but your trust and influence vis a vis your girlfriend and her influential (and intelligent) family is diminished.

Be aware that people value integrity. You know this but as a Machiavel you are somewhat dismissive (or have been historically) of how other people perceive you. Now people are seeing past the façade to an unpleasant truth...that you are not to be trusted.

You were made aware of this potential outcome in prior threads even here. Voilà there are wise people who see what you are based upon your actions, and their opinions, based in fact, have adversely affected your reputation.

My grandmother was a stunningly beautiful woman who was widowed in her 40s and then remarried later, both unions were to successful and powerful men. She told me once that one's reputation in life is one's most important concern, second only to one's health. She also believed strongly that a woman's reputation & demeanor could greatly influence her husband's stature, and she conducted herself at all times with grace and discretion, not in the least to be an asset to my grandfather and my step grandfather, both of whom cherished her dearly until death.

If this is the sort of woman you are dating, she is a rare bird in today's world, even in the more conservative culture where you reside. Your indiscretion may be an embarrassment to her family, particularly her father, who may be in a position to thwart your ambitions within influential circles.

Is that risk worthwhile? You are young yet and cannot see the wisdom of an experienced eye, yet an experienced eye can see through you better than you might imagine. These are all things you need to weigh. You have damaged your reputation through lust. This makes you appear weak and exposes a weakness of character that others can observe, even if your gf remains loyal she has learned you are not to be trusted entirely.

You can still succeed in life with a reputation for deceit and betrayal, but your existence will be hollow for the liar of convenience will sting those closest to him and eventually he has few if any loyal friends.

The friends can be a group that does the same thing. A bunch of liars and crooks. They will do the same to each other, but they will get along than with people more trustworthy.

 

[Serenity]

I met resistance and arrogance in your previous threads, you wouldn't listen and seems like you still won't listen since you look for ways to keep cheating.

Well, this happened. I told you so, you deserve every bit of what's coming to you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I met resistance and arrogance in your previous threads, you wouldn't listen and seems like you still won't listen since you look for ways to keep cheating.

Well, this happened. I told you so, you deserve every bit of what's coming to you.

I explained it's about the energy of it, and those who know about it can usually start to justify some more colder and negative behaviors against you even if they support you or do it with you.

 

[Ronaldo7]

You realized the risk while the duplicity was ongoing. Now you have the consequences. Your SMV is perhaps raised, but your trust and influence vis a vis your girlfriend and her influential (and intelligent) family is diminished.

Yes, i did realize the risk. However, i do know opportunities are there for the taking. One can't be condemned for maximizing one's given, gifts, skills & talents, even if one has to suffer the consequences later on. Whether evil or good, there will always be repercussions for one's choice.

Be aware that people value integrity. You know this but as a Machiavel you are somewhat dismissive (or have been historically) of how other people perceive you. Now people are seeing past the façade to an unpleasant truth...that you are not to be trusted.

You were made aware of this potential outcome in prior threads even here. Voilà there are wise people who see what you are based upon your actions, and their opinions, based in fact, have adversely affected your reputation.

I'm not dismissive of how other individuals perceive me. One has to learn how to effectively project one's ambitions & interests in different situations. One can learn much from observing how a chameleon applies this.

This isn't to say i'm an evil person or that i can't be trusted. One can't blame the other player for appearing not to have a good hand. Yes, I was made aware of potential outcomes. However, i understood said outcomes and simply chose a calculated risk which would leave me in a very good position in terms of my market value. Plebs got upset over the fact that i juggled two very good-looking women, ditched one and kept the other. I had my cake and ate it too. Afterwards, those two women were fighting each other over what transcended. Some women will view me in a bad light, some women will give me the benefit of the doubt. But they will all acknowledge one's prowess.

My grandmother was a stunningly beautiful woman who was widowed in her 40s and then remarried later, both unions were to successful and powerful men. She told me once that one's reputation in life is one's most important concern, second only to one's health. She also believed strongly that a woman's reputation & demeanor could greatly influence her husband's stature, and she conducted herself at all times with grace and discretion, not in the least to be an asset to my grandfather and my step grandfather, both of whom cherished her dearly until death.

If this is the sort of woman you are dating, she is a rare bird in today's world, even in the more conservative culture where you reside. Your indiscretion may be an embarrassment to her family, particularly her father, who may be in a position to thwart your ambitions within influential circles.

She is indeed a rare breed. She will make a good mother. She is a very stable person and i do value her for who she is. The father figure is absent (you may be confused with someone else). Her mother loves me and is my biggest supporter, even after the affair went public.

Is that risk worthwhile? You are young yet and cannot see the wisdom of an experienced eye, yet an experienced eye can see through you better than you might imagine. These are all things you need to weigh. You have damaged your reputation through lust. This makes you appear weak and exposes a weakness of character that others can observe, even if your gf remains loyal she has learned you are not to be trusted entirely.

As long as i maintain my sexual performance, and as she told me recently, i'll maintain her obsession towards me.

If i have to lay low for now, i am blessed to possess the virtue of patience. One can use a dormant period to meticulously plan one's next conquest.

You can still succeed in life with a reputation for deceit and betrayal, but your existence will be hollow for the liar of convenience will sting those closest to him and eventually he has few if any loyal friends.

Having said all of this, i'm not infallible (as much as i'd like to be). I am still affected by a mortal's conundrums. Presently, i find myself to be jaded but with the continuous, never-ending ambition to achieve & conquer more.

Since i discovered this site, i've embarked on a self-improving journey. I've developed a solipsistic vision to see the world, while understanding what very few people do - one's own self is the very essence of the universe.

 

[Serenity]

I've developed a solipsistic vision to see the world, while understanding what very few people do - one's own self is the very essence of the universe.

Consider the implications of that. If you have a solipsistic view there is no other people to understand what you understand, because there is only you and we are creations of your mind. Which is odd since you can't control what your minds creations do, as if we had a will of our own.

There's several flaws with solipsism.

 

[Alvafe]

Having said all of this, i'm not infallible (as much as i'd like to be). I am still affected by a mortal's conundrums. Presently, i find myself to be jaded but with the continuous, never-ending ambition to achieve & conquer more.

Since i discovered this site, i've embarked on a self-improving journey. I've developed a solipsistic vision to see the world, while understanding what very few people do - one's own self is the very essence of the universe.

matter of fact peopl can and will condemn you for lack of character, and shut you down for anything, save for things they can use you for they gain.

also there is a problem of mirroring, if you lie its because you think most people lie, so you don't trust anyone, because you know you can't be trusted.

there is this one thing too don't matter what you ask when you receive a answer you dismiss it as someone being inferior to you and they don't know what you are talking about. since I know you will ignore this anyway I will be blunt, the way you choose to live is shallow and you will be a loner, because you are not a trusthworthy person and you will not trust anyone, do any degree, you will play and manipulate people for your gain, but you lack discretion to be sucessfull, so people will know who you really are and when your fake persona does not work anymore you will start to hate everyone and blame others for your shortcommings. so please do this forum and your GF a favor, do not show yourself anymore, just disapear

 

[Julian]

matter of fact peopl can and will condemn you for lack of character, and shut you down for anything, save for things they can use you for they gain.

also there is a problem of mirroring, if you lie its because you think most people lie, so you don't trust anyone, because you know you can't be trusted.

there is this one thing too don't matter what you ask when you receive a answer you dismiss it as someone being inferior to you and they don't know what you are talking about. since I know you will ignore this anyway I will be blunt, the way you choose to live is shallow and you will be a loner, because you are not a trusthworthy person and you will not trust anyone, do any degree, you will play and manipulate people for your gain, but you lack discretion to be sucessfull, so people will know who you really are and when your fake persona does not work anymore you will start to hate everyone and blame others for your shortcommings. so please do this forum and your GF a favor, do not show yourself anymore, just disapear

shots fireeddddddd

 

[Ronaldo7]

matter of fact peopl can and will condemn you for lack of character, and shut you down for anything, save for things they can use you for they gain.

Yes Alvafe, good thing you know how the world works.

also there is a problem of mirroring, if you lie its because you think most people lie, so you don't trust anyone, because you know you can't be trusted.

Wrong. Once again, i don't lie. If one doesn't answer YES or NO, you don't have an answer from the other side regarding your question. If YOU assume the answer to be YES or NO, you can't fault the other person for not complying with YOUR presumptions. Therefore, the other person didn't lie. The closer you look, the less you see.

there is this one thing too don't matter what you ask when you receive a answer you dismiss it as someone being inferior to you and they don't know what you are talking about. since I know you will ignore this anyway I will be blunt, the way you choose to live is shallow and you will be a loner, because you are not a trusthworthy person and you will not trust anyone, do any degree, you will play and manipulate people for your gain, but you lack discretion to be sucessfull, so people will know who you really are and when your fake persona does not work anymore you will start to hate everyone and blame others for your shortcommings. so please do this forum and your GF a favor, do not show yourself anymore, just disapear

I have never dismissed any constructive answer i've been given. My apologies if it appears that way.

Your assessment bears the brunt of an emotional response emanating from your own shortcomings. Once you overcome yourself, you'll see life in a different perspetive.

Being a loner is not a shortcoming. One does more for one's own self being alone than being with others. Would you like to elaborate what being a trustworthy person is?

Trust people? Jeremiah 17:5 - Cursed is the man that trusts in mankind.

There is no fake persona. I gave the example of the chameleon to illustrate how one can project his/her own ambitions & interests in the most opportune moments.

I respect your assessment. Most people don't understand how people & the world work. Most people possess a very short-sighted vision and are quick to pounce to conclusions.... all while lacking the conceptions & factors to properly comprehend their surroundings.

I do have affection & care for my girlfriend. However, life is to be lived to the maximum extent, opportunities are there to be seized and one's own abilities are there to navigate through life accordingly. Some people are blessed with many, others are not.

 

[Alvafe]

I have never dismissed any constructive answer i've been given. My apologies if it appears that way.

Your assessment bears the brunt of an emotional response emanating from your own shortcomings. Once you overcome yourself, you'll see life in a different perspetive.

Being a loner is not a shortcoming. One does more for one's own self being alone than being with others. Would you like to elaborate what being a trustworthy person is?

Trust people? Jeremiah 17:5 - Cursed is the man that trusts in mankind.

There is no fake persona. I gave the example of the chameleon to illustrate how one can project his/her own ambitions & interests in the most opportune moments.

I respect your assessment. Most people don't understand how people & the world work. Most people possess a very short-sighted vision and are quick to pounce to conclusions.... all while lacking the conceptions & factors to properly comprehend their surroundings.

I do have affection & care for my girlfriend. However, life is to be lived to the maximum extent, opportunities are there to be seized and one's own abilities are there to navigate through life accordingly. Some people are blessed with many, others are not.

you miss the point or i was not clear enough, being a loner and liking it is one thing but you will still need people, you are burning your relationships, opportunities are to be taken yes, but don't forget what you have or the result of such opportunity, there is no point to take a opportunity if will cost you more then the opportunity would offer, there is no reason to burn everything you have around you for a new flashy opportunity, you need to undertand you should not lack empaty for people you care.

being trustworthy you keep your word, your word should be your most valueable asset when dealing with people, they have to know then when you give your word you will keep it, with you don't, when you are in a relationship and said are exclusive you gave your word of it

btw i hardly have a emotional response that is what I saw and take note from you, you for the other hand....

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

How does one get away from that jaded experience?

Two simple answers, as is TMK's way.

1) You clearly are seeking something that you're not getting with your GF. Cheating on someone you've agreed to be exclusive with is lame. Cheating on two women from the same gym is just fcking stupid man. You deserved to get caught for being so dumb.

2) Save yourself a lot of hassle by being single. Then no one can say a word about what you do and with whom. I'd be sure that if you went single, your GF would likely still want to see you anyway.

I've been approached by a couple of attached women recently and though I've been tempted, it's far more hassle than it's worth. It's an ego boost, that's all. They just end up flakey and/or disproportionately demanding.

 

[Serenity]

@Ronaldo7 You are going to crash and burn to the ground one day or be filled with regret before you die. I'm not going to bother explaining why, because you're not open to it yet. Come back when you've smashed down hard, learned humility and are ready to learn.

I've seen people who started out like you are now, it inevitably ends in catastrophy. Not only for others, but ultimately most for yourself.

You're already in deep sh!t. There's a chance if you knew what I know, but you don't wanna know so there's no chance.