I've lost it

[itishe]

Before I found this site, I was decent with women just too AFC with them. I would never try to offend them/or do anything "rude", while everyone who was snapping their bra, etc. was getting some.

When I found this site, it started to change. I got better with females; I started to feel like I was moving toward success. I was busier than I had been in a long while with constantly going out and hobbies.

Fast forward to about when the forum went down for upgrades and it seems I've lost it and perhaps even fell past the point where I started to climb. I start getting fears like I'll say something stupid, not being good enough to talk to certain people, etc.

It was like I had/have a split personality, one telling me that I'm a man and this is my life I'll live it like I please! The other telling me that I'll screw up, be afraid of women, etc. Unfortuantly the latter was the one that has begun to control my every day living.

I don't want to make this seem like dramatic/*****ing but I honestly don't know what happened to me. Anyone ever have a feelling like this? I started to think maybe it's me trying to use the methods mentioned on this site too hard, too hard to the point where it doesn't make me seem like me.

 

[OfficeSpace]

I think I actually improved since the forum has been down. I took my free time as an opportunity to go out and actually go after the girls on my own and not rely on the people here!

I strongly recommend going out and trying to meet new girls! The more you do it, I guarantee you'll improve so much!

 

[itishe]

When you live in a small community there isn't anyone new to meet. There are no events to meet girls at, and you just know everyone. It's like having to pick between a red or blue car, and your forced to know everything about the car's past (remeber information travels quickly in a small town).

 

[Spookey]

so when the site went down you lost your game?

kinda sad isn't it? you can't rely on this board to be successful, you need to learn to take charge of your own life. if you rely on others to tell you what to do you are going to be stuffed in later life, eh? of course some q's are good but you can't become too dependant....

the negative voice in your head, he is nothing. pay him NO attention whatsoever. he will only hinder your growth as a man

 

[amethyst]

Oy! Stop talking like a loser and do something about it. Come on bro you’re speaking out your arse, your using this site as a crutch rather than a learning tool. I know about split personalities because I have one, and it’s mainly due to (everyone probably knows by now but) my artificial leg. I remember back in the day I would spend days being an absolute tosser wanking over how cool I could of been if I had two legs like everyone else.

Jesus man, your jackal and Hyde crap doesn't wash with me. If you want to acquire a pair of scrotum, just go and start doing ****, get your life together go up to women and don't let the ***** in you win, push yourself a little bit further every day. So what if you ****ing get rejected? So what if she pour a drink on ya? So what if her boyfriend beats the seven shades of **** out of ya?

Just stop thinking your going to revert cause once you have the magic ya always do, you just hide it when its convenient to keep your status quo.

Sorry if I sound a bit pissed, but I am sick of seeing people whine over ****e which can be fixed. Come on I'm not this ****ing cool just cause I was born this way, its because I fought for it for it, I pushed myself to spend hours socialising, reading and learning.

So stop thinking and acting like a tosser and get out there and enjoy life.

Women were not the start and certainly will not be the end of the world... They are just bags of guts like you attached to a brain.

Hope I was of some help me ol' son

Amethyst

 

[itishe]

Keep the **** flowing. I want to hear more!

 

[adit]

I cant say I've lost it (I'm still learning but my confidence is at a high) but I totally agree to the fact that living in a small community sucks.There's not much fun in hitting girls at my school because by the time I'm back home it would've spread to the whole grade and people would start making rumors that this guy's got 'oneitis' for this girl.Damn.

Thats why I keep going across town to different schools for a basketball match,go-kart bet,or any competition.Meeting girls this way is a great thing,especially if you're good at what you're competing at!

 

[rowing_mike]

Problem: you think its the board that has got you the girls, and without it you cannot chat to girls successfully. You started to think you would fail, lost your confidence and did fail. When this board was up, it was you, not the board going out, getting girls, doing well. Go out, get drunk for some confidence, have a fun time. After that, remember it was not us getting the girls for you, it was you.