I've lost it

[MacdaddyJr]

I just recently broke up with my girl-friend who I had been seeing for 5 1/2 months. I was a junior, she was senior. She was a definite 9. We got really serious. But at the end of august she had to leave for college in boston, MA. I'm in Morristown, NJ and thats about 5 hours from here. We broke up because she wanted to go to college without any strings from here. A LTDR is hard to keep. We both fell in love and we hurt ourselves in the end when we knew it was coming. It hurt me emotionally. She was my first love I guess. I didn't really love any of the other girls I've gone out with

Now I'm single again. School started today and I want to move on but I feel like I lost my ability to be the Don Juan I use to be. Like I forgot. I've been wussified or something by her. I've read the bible but I lost my nerve and confidence. And I was totally nervous around these girls at school. I feel like a newbie again dammit! I want to know something too, since school started should wait awhile before asking for number and build rapport or start going for them now. dumb question I know, just answer it please? Also, anybody got words of encouragement for me so I can feel like myself again. I feel really down for some reason. This is the only place I have to turn to for advice.

 

[Stratocaster]

Damnit man, I know just how you feel.

I dated a girl last year for 5 months, I was a sophomore and she was a junior. Everything was great, we had so many good memories together. I already had an AFC relationship and was hopelessly AFC'd after it, but that was freshman year, and I wanted to make sure it didn't happen again throughout this relationship.

Well, 2 weeks ago, she broke up wit hme. I was kind of expecting it. Things hadn't been going to swell. She said she was super busy (which she is) and thought it best to break up. I was cool with it, and through the rest of the summer, I was great. Now school started 3 days ago. She is in two of my classes. We are still on good terms and we talk every now and then.

I am a wreck after I talk to her. It brings back all of the good memories we had. Its a feeling you described. You hopelessly miss her. I know that we're broken up and thats for the better, but I just can't shake this feeling.

What makes it worse is that she has always been a girl that hides her emotions. I, unfortunately, seem to wear my heart on my sleeve. I am slipping back into a depression that I just got out of before I met her last year.

I'm going to talk with my therapist. (She deals with these breakup things all the time, so she knows what to do) I will let you know what she suggests when I see her.

 

[MacdaddyJr]

please do. This girl I dated use to drive me home and we would hangout at lunch most of the time when I wasn't with my bros. I really missed her. We had a great summer. But she probably is really busy at college and has forgotten me. She said she'd call me a week ago. Well, it wouldn't suprise me that she's already moved on. F**k! I just don't know how to be myself anymore. Tomorrow, I'm gonna try real hard. Still, tell me what this therapist says. Sounds interesting. I'm not really pissing and moaning only about my girl being gone and all. I just want to be a don juan again dammit. I feel like such an AFC. I need someone to kick my ass and get me going again.

 

[AC/DC]

You know, I've been single for about a year. I've been growing and changing and becoming increasingly confident. I enjoy my own company and like to lose myself in my thoughts. I always reitiareated to myself I was a one-man-army.

Now, I have a girlfriend, and I feel great around her. But if the time ever comes when we need to split up again, I KNOW that I am still a one-man-army and don't need anyone more than necessary.

I am an army of one.

 

[drixsa]

hmm i like the sound of that..."The DrIx Platoon kicks some Iraqi ass. and lets throw those damn french and germans in there with em

 

[Bjon]

Ok. I felt this same way too. I think it is a part of becoming a DJ. I think everyone feels this way one time or another. What i did was just take kinda a little break and stopped thinking about it for a little while. Went and hung out with my buds. Then i came back i just put all my effort into it and everything fell into place. I was back to feeling great. So i guess you could try taking a break and stop thinking about it for like 2 weeks or so. I don't know. It worked for me, i don't know if it'll work for you.