I've come to the point where I expect women to f##king me over.

[SamTheHobit]

The past couple of years I've been with a couple of women and everyone of them has ****ed me over by either massive disrespect or cheating.

The worst part is I'm not sure if it's me or them.

I'm actually tired of it, and these days I make no effort to approach women at all, because hey!, they're just gonna a fvck me over anyway.

So yeah it really sucks to be in this situation.

 

[Moroder]

So you have been fücked over multiple times. But guess what. Many guys get fücked over their entire life, and they either never notice it or never act up against it. You did notice and stopped approaching. Sounds perfect to me.
Now take your time to find out what bothers you. Try to attack, resolve or come to terms with the crap you'll encounter. Once you're at it, begin to set out for your new life. Read many different books. Try many new things. Talk to many different people, don't be afraid to ask older men (yes, 50+, 60+) for thoughts. Explore and expand, and come back to women when you feel you're ready.

 

[RangerMIke]

First it's always you. You're not managing your relationships properly. They cheated on you that's too bad but you were not paying attention to the warning signs. You should never allow yourself to become emotionally invested in women that are not gone over you. You are either not showing up properly or you are not screening out women properly.

Remember you can control this sh!t. Control is a male strength characteristic... it comes naturally to you. You just have to have the strength to use it. It's hard.. I date women all the time that I really start to develop feelings for... we're all human. But if I get a sense that she is a flake or has a bad attitude I dump her. It's easier to be the dumper than the dumped.

Don't give up. Take a break if that's what you want and work on self improvement, not a bad idea in your mental state. If you are really hating on women... you'll be like a dead stinking animal. The only women you will attract are buzzards and scavengers, just like something run over in the street.

 

[Poon King]

First it's always you. You're not managing your relationships properly. They cheated on you that's too bad but you were not paying attention to the warning signs. You should never allow yourself to become emotionally invested in women that are not gone over you. You are either not showing up properly or you are not screening out women properly.

Remember you can control this sh!t. Control is a male strength characteristic... it comes naturally to you. You just have to have the strength to use it. It's hard.. I date women all the time that I really start to develop feelings for... we're all human. But if I get a sense that she is a flake or has a bad attitude I dump her. It's easier to be the dumper than the dumped.

Don't give up. Take a break if that's what you want and work on self improvement, not a bad idea in your mental state. If you are really hating on women... you'll be like a dead stinking animal. The only women you will attract are buzzards and scavengers, just like something run over in the street.

I'm gonna have to go ahead and disagree with you here. The whole idea that everything that goes wrong in a relationship is "the man's fault" is total BS. This is what women want you to think.

The reality is.. women are fully self-aware and they engage in bad/mean/disrespectful behavior while being fully aware of it. Instead of blaming the victim.. why don't we blame the ass-hole?

Getting back to the OP... I can somewhat relate. Whenever I meet a nice girl I don't even take it seriously.. because I assume at some point her niceness will fade and she will become the usual judgmental, finicky, particular and fickle female that seems to be the norm. And I'm usually right.

There is nothing you can do with your personality to control how a woman treats you. Your only power is to be better than her other options. That's really it.

 

[Desdinova]

When you're getting to this point, that's when you need to take a break from dating and just enjoy your own life. Get your mind and energy back to the things that are important. And no, pu55y is not important.

The last two GFs I've had were huge disappointments. I've been single since the end of October and it's doing me a world of good. I also think it's odd how I'm not even thinking about being lonely. It just isn't occurring to me.

 

[Poon King]

When you're getting to this point, that's when you need to take a break from dating and just enjoy your own life. Get your mind and energy back to the things that are important. And no, pu55y is not important.

The last two GFs I've had were huge disappointments. I've been single since the end of October and it's doing me a world of good. I also think it's odd how I'm not even thinking about being lonely. It just isn't occurring to me.

Agree.

The best girlfriends are those with similar goals and priorities who also share your world view. This is really the only way to connect on a deeper level. I find most women don't share my world view though.. so finding a girlfriend worth a sh!t has been hard.

Women's priorities also change over time. My best and longest relationship was with a girl I met in college who was almost like the female version of me. It was a very stress free and low drama relationship. But of course, women can never be consistent and later in the relationship her priorities and world view changed dramatically. So the relationship went down the toilet.

This is why we men need to stop blaming ourselves for everything. We are usually the more consistent ones. Women enter relationships with us knowing who we are and what we are about. Then later they decide they want something different. This is not our fault.

 

[logicallefty]

I am not often middle of the road on much of anything, but in this case that's where I fall.

- OP, it was not your fault initially because you were probably brought up as a positive thinking man who had faith in women and humanity and couldn't possibly fathom the idea of women behaving in the way that they do. And even when you started to see it with your own eyes, you still failed to believe it in the begging because that would mean your positive mindset about women and people was being torn down like the Berlin Wall right before your eyes. (this was ME until about age 36-37, but I didn't really FULLY get it beyond a shadow of a doubt until 40. I was 95% there until my very last breakup when I really hit the full 100).

- But, OP, NOW that you know that what you are seeing IS true and IS happening right before your eyes, and you have us your community of brothers right here on SS to tell you like it is. Now, from this point on, it WILL be your fault if you let another woman crumple your frame to the point where booting her out of your life is any kind of a problem.

Welcome to our side of the wall. "It's better here"

 

[princess_124]

The past couple of years I've been with a couple of women and everyone of them has ****ed me over by either massive disrespect or cheating.

The worst part is I'm not sure if it's me or them.

I'm actually tired of it, and these days I make no effort to approach women at all, because hey!, they're just gonna a fvck me over anyway.

So yeah it really sucks to be in this situation.

If I got a dollar for everytime someone cussed on this forum, I'd be a millionaire by now

 

[logicallefty]

i dont know about millionaire, but definitely an ugly stripper.

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[LiveYourDream]

The worst part is I'm not sure if it's me or them.

Specifically, what DO you actually know?
Specifically, what do you NOT know?

 

[RangerMIke]

I'm gonna have to go ahead and disagree with you here. The whole idea that everything that goes wrong in a relationship is "the man's fault" is total BS. This is what women want you to think.

If you end up with a flakey crazy chick and you let her break your heart it is YOUR FVCKING fault. What women thinK? I'll tell you what they think.. they think that sh!t just happens. It doesn't just happen. There are signs that pop up. If you haven't been dating for too long and you get too emotionally attached, before the woman does, it is your fault. MEN can control this stuff... you just have to be willing to do it. If you are in a LTR with a women that is falling out of love with you then you need to be aware of what is happening.

The reality is.. women are fully self-aware and they engage in bad/mean/disrespectful behavior while being fully aware of it. Instead of blaming the victim.. why don't we blame the ass-hole?

And if you put up with that sh!t and FAIL to dump he it is YOUR FAULT.

Getting back to the OP... I can somewhat relate. Whenever I meet a nice girl I don't even take it seriously.. because I assume at some point her niceness will fade and she will become the usual judgmental, finicky, particular and fickle female that seems to be the norm. And I'm usually right.

Truth. This is how a man behaves. I don't care how nice and sweet your girl is, ALL have the potential to drive a steak into your heart.

There is nothing you can do with your personality to control how a woman treats you. Your only power is to be better than her other options. That's really it.

Be better than her other options or realize what is happening and walk away or dump them before they can do it to you.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Women aren't the little angels society raised you to think. Just don't get in a relationship and be willing to walk away at any given time.

 

[SamTheHobit]

When you're getting to this point, that's when you need to take a break from dating and just enjoy your own life. Get your mind and energy back to the things that are important. And no, pu55y is not important.

The last two GFs I've had were huge disappointments. I've been single since the end of October and it's doing me a world of good. I also think it's odd how I'm not even thinking about being lonely. It just isn't occurring to me.

I think that's what I'm going to do.

I need to get my life together, I think I'm on a dangerous path at the moment.

I don't even think my unhappiness is because of being ****ed over by women but something else.

I just need to get away or something idk