Ive been working out longer then him, but he can lift more then me

[hb]

I've been working out for 5 months, almost everyday, pretty serious, my bench has gone from 95 to 195 since.................... Then today one of my friends came to the gym with me, this kid doesnt work out at all, he has an amazing metabolizm also. He eats mcdonalds everyday and he is still amazingly cut up, he doesnt really work out much compared to me, I am about 5'10 i weight 180, he is about 6'1 and weighs around 185-190, so he is not buff at all. Today we did chest, we basically worked out together and did the same weight. Everytime i basically tried my max, i would get 2 reps in, he would get about 5 or 6. This was in just about every chest excersice........... incline, decline, dumbells, flat bench................ WHAT THE FVCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[true|hockey]

Originally posted by hb
I've been working out for 5 months, almost everyday, pretty serious, my bench has gone from 95 to 195 since.................... Then today one of my friends came to the gym with me, this kid doesnt work out at all, he has an amazing metabolizm also. He eats mcdonalds everyday and he is still amazingly cut up, he doesnt really work out much compared to me, I am about 5'10 i weight 180, he is about 6'1 and weighs around 185-190, so he is not buff at all. Today we did chest, we basically worked out together and did the same weight. Everytime i basically tried my max, i would get 2 reps in, he would get about 5 or 6. This was in just about every chest excersice........... incline, decline, dumbells, flat bench................ WHAT THE FVCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Its obvious that you have not been lifting too long either. All the beginners incorrectly guage their weight lifting ability to how much they can bench. There are many things that are indicative of your work out : what is your split like? what is your diet like, how much sleep do you get?

Weight training is not about his gains, or lifts, its about your lifts..more spacifically your change. If what you posted was true ( 95 to 195), than that is pretty damn good. I sincerely doubt your friend increased his bench by a factor of two, that said, I sincerely doubt you have either.

in short, don't let what he can bench get to you. and most importantly, don't lie to yourself. Its pointless to stack on the weights, and do 1 or two half ass reps with a spotter lifting the barbell.

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

Accept reality. Some people are naturally stronger then others.

What might take you 5 years to do, might take somebody else a few months.

That' life.

Don't worry about what you bench and what you can't bench.

I always love the guys that come in, put on the most weight they can, do a couple of reps of bench presses with a spotters help, then take a 30 minute break.

They come back, put on more weight, do a couple more reps with help, scream, then brag that they are "THE MAN!" and then their workout is over.

Dont' become like one of these guys or girls for that matter.

Develop your whole body. Chest, shoulders, back, arms, legs, traps, etc.

Don't be too consumed with how much you lift compared to somebody else.

Be consumed with what you eat, when you rest, and how your gains are developing.

 

[*new*]

plus it not advisable to train yourself every single day.
It is counter productive

 

[Brak86]

hb....didnt it ever occur to u that he might be trying to show off? If u tried hard enough, you could probably do the same weight as him, but ure doing the right thing by not lifting too much. If he keeps doing that...he will injure ureself. heavy lifting does not always equal strength. This sjhould be motivation to work hardder (but dont overdo it)!

 

[hb]

ive thought about what u said brak, when he benches he uses a load of his lower back to get that weight up, BUT i hate the fact that in his mind he feels that he is stronger then me. I'll give it to the boy he is ripped and i am no where near as ripped as he is, but wtf hes stronger then me too? no ****en way................ i thought about that too, maybe he can bench more then me but if i box him, who will have more strength?
but i guess we'll never find out cause im not gonna express my anger/"jelousy" in that way.

 

[semag]

ever think about the fact that the two of you weigh about the same, but he's much more ripped?? Sounds like he's naturally bigger than you are, and people like that are going to be stronger.

There's a buddy of mine that is taking a break from the gym right now, because of some pinched nerve stuff. But, I know, if he goes back for a month, he'll start below me in that month, and pass me up in a couple weeks, and keep going. The guy just gets massive super fast...

 

[~UnDisputed~]

Originally posted by Brak86
hb....didnt it ever occur to u that he might be trying to show off? If u tried hard enough, you could probably do the same weight as him, but ure doing the right thing by not lifting too much. If he keeps doing that...he will injure ureself. heavy lifting does not always equal strength. This sjhould be motivation to work hardder (but dont overdo it)!

showing off has nothing to do with it...

there are guys out there who can afford to be lazy and still make it...

you need to focus on what your doing. if your max is 195. you need to be repping between 135-150 3x a week. youll bust past your plateau in no time.

youve only been lifting five months that isnt a substancial amount of time. give yourself time. get at least 9 hours of sleep, supplement properly, and DONT OVERTRAIN. you shouldnt train everyday like new said its counter productive.

some guys a naturally stronger. thats why guys like you need to work 10x harder for what they want, because it aint coming from anywhere else... dont be jealous and keep a positive mind set

 

[Brak86]

Originally posted by hb
ive thought about what u said brak, when he benches he uses a load of his lower back to get that weight up, BUT i hate the fact that in his mind he feels that he is stronger then me. I'll give it to the boy he is ripped and i am no where near as ripped as he is, but wtf hes stronger then me too? no ****en way................ i thought about that too, maybe he can bench more then me but if i box him, who will have more strength?
but i guess we'll never find out cause im not gonna express my anger/"jelousy" in that way.

HB...i had the EXACT same feeling as u. My good friend...who didnt even try....was gaining up on me. Then i got injured and he got stronger than me. I was so jealous beacuse lifting is my passion...and he was excelling at something that he doesnt care about, and i am knowledgable and concerned about lifting. I just gotta get that out of ure head. Trying to lift as much as him will just cause injury..which will lead to even more disaster. Trust me, i felt the exact same as u, thats why i have good advice about this specific topic . Eventually, he will either a)get injured b)plateau or c)lose interest....there is no way that an undisciplined guy like him can increase weight forever.

 

[hb]

he weighs about the same but he is taller. I have fat on my body, he doesnt.................... and like u guys said, i put my heart into this sh!T, i bust my ass for a nice body and i want to get ripped, that is my biggest goal.............. yet this is seemingly difficult for me........... while this kid is born with it.............
it makes me so fvcken mad.............. but the thing is, im trying very hard and i am noticing a difference, so what i need now is a way to get bigger faster................. without using roids

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

Take things slowly.

Don't have the attitude of "I WANNA GET HUGE and RIPPED FAST."

Because for the majority of people,that leads to serious injury or burnout. Either way it's not a good thing.

Don't let little things bother you.

There will always be somebody better then you and there will always be somebody worse.

So what if your friends could care less about fitness, yet he's ten times stronger then you. Just work really hard and stick with it.

Dont get jealous or angry. That will lead to serious problems for you.

I had a friend when i was younger who was a little chubby and basicaly had never exercised but was strong as hell.

Me and another buddy played every sport, exercised, were in shape and one day we went down into my fathers gym and low and behold, this Non_exercising Guy lifted like 3 times more then us. Hell he lifted three times more then most people 10 years older then him at that time.

BUt he never stuck to anything , so he never worked out. BUt if he did, he probably could become huge without that much effort.

There are those people who are naturally and genetically strong.

But when something comes easy, sometimes it's not always a good thing.

There are many people who are naturally gifted in sports, fitness, intelligence, looks, or whatever it is, and they don't have to put forth that much effort to do anything.

Some of these people do become great at what they do.

But some of these people go nuts or quit the first time something is difficult. THey never had to work hard for anything in their lives, so the older they get, the harder it will be when something comes up that requires lots of long hours and hard work.

There are plenty of people in the world who "COULD"A BEEN CONTENDERS."

If you stick with it and make fitness and exercising a lifestyle and a committment for life, you won't have to deal with "I COULD"a BEEN WHATEVER..."

Because as long as you work your harderst and try your best, there's nothing you need to be jealous, angry or ashamed about.

There will always be somebody who is better then you. Thats life.

But as the Rocky movies once described,

"he might be stronger, taller, and more fit then you, but aint noboy got YOUR HEART."

Stick with it and dont get pissed at little things.

Life is too long and too short to get pissed over small things that you have no control over.

Make it work for you. Work harder and smarter.

maybe you'll never be stronger then your friend, but by working harder and smarter, you could go from lifting 195 to 295 in time.

ANd that, in itself, is an accomplishment, no matter what anybody else says or does.

 

[FlyGuy]

Its just a difference in genetics. Plus I'd bet money that this guy was cheating on his form and wasn't really able to lift what he did with proper form. I see guys doing that ALL THE TIME and I have to laugh because really the only thing they work out when they do this is their ego

Like others have said, that's just life. I was born extremely underweight and have always been small. I have to eat a STRICT diet and bust my ass to make any kind of progress while other guys can make gains without any kind of disciplined effort. You can only work with what you have, so focus on your own progress - which by the way is awesome so far! The numbers are only there to feed your ego.