It's not erectile disfuction i don't think...

[returningchamp]

So, my FB was over on saturday, we were laughing and playing and about to have $ex (we were both naked and i was rock hard)...

She said something that threw me off though; i don't even remember what it was - but it was something like "hurry up and put it in me... i need it (which isn't bad).... why are you always so into foreplay?" - it was something along those lines and we had done a total of about 30 seconds of kissing... since when is that foreplay? lol..... either way - it threw me off, and i suddenly lost my hardness...

no biggies, sometimes this happens. so she gives me head... i get hard, and as soon as i switch positions from her doing that to a position to enter her - i get limp again... im like wtf????

we continued this pattern (sometimes with me getting inside her for 30-60 seconds before going limp) for a good 50 minutes!!!!

finally, i was like "it's just not happening today"

she left, and 10 minutes later, i get very hard!!!

all throughout the next few days - i constantly see if i can get myself hard.... no problems EVER!

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yesturday, she came over. we're chatting, and i KEEP HAVING TO USE THE BATHROOM AND AM NERVOUS! of course i don't want to repeat the other day, so of course that's all im focusing on.... when i play with myself to test it out... i have good feeling, and begin to get hard.... GREAT!

so we finally get into it, and what happens? i go in the opposite direction of hard. it literally looks as little as a babies! (and im not small).... not only that - i have NO FEELING in it... im panicing...

now.... she gives me heard again... and it works...
i put it in and feel like im going to bust right away... i don't want to do that s i fight it... this in return... makes me limp again! this is while im in her!!!
head again.... and it feels good....
i bend her in doggie position and pound as fast and hard as i can.... i *** in about 30 seconds... i didn't want to lose the hardness....

needless to say - she didn't get anything out of that...

"no big deal" she says, "you've given me enough over the months. just glad you got yours."

she's an FB - and i highly doubt she'll stick around like a GF would while i sort this out!

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now im in my freaking head!
i don't understand how she can get me hard with her mouth, but once i put it in or if i try to get myself hard - EPIC FAIL!
and when it's not time to perform - i have no issue getting hard... there was literally 2 times last night where i was rock hard without touching myself, just in flirting with her... but once the pants have to come off - it's gone...

this is performance anxiety perhaps?

i read that with ED - you can't get hard by yourself... or even with head...

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notes:
- she gets really REALLY wet (even more so when we're doing tons of "foreplay" trying to get me hard), which doesn't help things out because when im numb and can barely feel anything - that's not a good thing... but in 12 months of us doing this - it's never been an issue and is something i have liked.
- i stopped running about 6 months ago, and am beginning to get tired just walking up stairs. not sure if this could impact my blood flow or whatever it is that makes me go numb.

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what are some things i can do to help this?

 

[detroitnative]

maybe you're just not attracted to her anymore.... try another girl and see

i do know that legit erectile dysfunction is often connected to high blood pressure though... might want to get that checked out at some free place.

 

[returningchamp]

maybe you're just not attracted to her anymore.... try another girl and see

I have one other girl at the moment who i can see. But why risk it happening with her too? lol.... I am definitely attracted to her still.

and yeah, maybe i'll go to the local rx and see if i can get my blood pressure taken.... i eat pretty healthy though...

i have to learn how to meditate or something... i have spent 6 hours today looking up info on this, only to realize that's only making things worse...

im actually considering going to see a prostitute tonight... im sure they're used to dealing with these problems and have tricks lol

 

[Ease]

Its all in the head champ.

My times for busting vary wildly.

GF gives me head for 20 minutes and i cant get off, another time we have sex and il last 30 seconds.

Relax and get your confidence back.

 

[2crudedudes]

Man, I've had this issue a few times (twice with one night stands , and a number of times with my ex while we were still fvcking). I could have written your post word for word.

I have no problem getting morning wood. I have no problem jerkin it. I have no problem while getting head. I have no problem doing it doggy style (but bust in 30 seconds ha!)

I think its anxiety. What she said that threw you off (the too much foreplay part) seems to have made you self-conscious, and the next time she came over you felt inadequate because of your previous difficulty, so you felt under pressure which made you lose your erection.

I had it happen to me a few times with my ex, and sometimes those previous times would come to mind while in the middle of boning (or I'd try to not bust and lose it) and make me think too much.

I've found that a little alcohol during sex relaxes me and helps me not think too much. In fact, it seems like tequila in particular gives me some good erections.

I wanna get to the point where I don't need to drink to feel comfortable, but I think there's some underlying feeling of inadequacy that's giving me these problems. This might be whats happening to you.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Tell the doctor that you can never get it up and must have ED. He will either give you a sample or write a small rx for viagra. Get a pill cutter, too. The next time the fb comes over, dissolve 1/4 of 1 pill under your tongue about 15 minutes before sex and not after a heavy meal.

Viagra is stupid to use as prescribed unless you are 90 years old. It's $20 per pill, which is absurdly expensive. But that quarter of a pill is only $5 worth, and it will get you over your anxiety so that you probably never have to use it again. Save the rest for when you are just too drunk to fvck. They work for that, too. Never take a whole pill. Half a pill is the maximum dose.

 

[2crudedudes]

fvck! I just had this happen to me this Friday. I tried to be as relaxed as possible, I tried to focus on the girl for the longest time, but in the end I just couldn't get it up. This is really frustrating me (which in turn isn't helping at all). Its really doing a number on my confidence, and makes me not wanna approach any more for fear of further disappointment.

Of course, over the next couple of days I woke up with very solid hardons. :cuss:

What the fvck.

 

[Hockey Playa]

hit the gym

 

[Colossus]

Sounds psychological. ED is physiological and has different causes. If you can get hard with head or jerking off, your d1ck works fine.

Hit the gym regularly.

 

[JustLurk]

Tell the doctor that you can never get it up and must have ED. He will either give you a sample or write a small rx for viagra. Get a pill cutter, too. The next time the fb comes over, dissolve 1/4 of 1 pill under your tongue about 15 minutes before sex and not after a heavy meal.

Viagra is stupid to use as prescribed unless you are 90 years old. It's $20 per pill, which is absurdly expensive. But that quarter of a pill is only $5 worth, and it will get you over your anxiety so that you probably never have to use it again. Save the rest for when you are just too drunk to fvck. They work for that, too. Never take a whole pill. Half a pill is the maximum dose.

The whole pill will make a normal d1ck explode. maybe she's too loose.

 

[Furyguy]

I once had a mental block similar to this. Over came it by
A) Stopped watching porn, entirely
b) Started taking a testosterone supplement (Alpha Male). (Though I would probably recommend a Zinc supplement rather than straight T.)

I did these for a couple months and have never had the problem since.

Now with much additional practice I have the problem that when I hold back from ejaculating too many times I go limp. Also when I make my girl *** a couple times she gets too wet and loose for it to really feel like anything for me, and I go limp soon after. Got to fix that now, too...