It's Crunch time, i HAVE to do something tomorrow

[JonDuan]

Ok long story short there's this girl at my school (year below so she's probably 16) that i think is interested, seen her looking directly at me on several occasions and like at none of my friends so how obvious is that?

she must be :crazy: for me or something lol.... it's ridiculous for me to say that this has been going on for like..... 3 - 4 weeks and i have done NOTHING - ive made excuses for me not being bothered to approach girls / i'm not bothered to deal with any more younger girls cos i think they ll be immature (i ve had some... bad experiences with younger girls)

but yeah it's crunch time, had enough of inaction and i HAVE to do something right? i've already had at least 3 clear cut chances to just go and talk but haven't taken em so i'm thinking this is it, she's driving me crazy in terms of me not knowing her intentions.... if she really likes me or not so i have to find out

but yeah if i do say something, will be with my impression of her wanting me bad.... lol she's alright looking, tall and slim with a pretty face and often with her friends sitting down in the common so WHAT SHOULD I SAY?

I ve thought of some things like..... hi i see you looking at me a lot...? is something on my face or just tell her to come walk with me or just saying hi... but yeah i MUST do something, enough is enough

 

[thedoc]

You know, I don't want to repeat what everyone else says but I've been realizing this more and more from experience. It almost doesn't matter what you say, it matters HOW you say it.

I asked basically the same thing as you a few months ago and here's the answer:

WHAT YOU SAY IS 10% OF WHAT SHE PERCEIVES.
WHO YOU ARE WHEN YOU SAY IT CONVEYS THE OTHER 90%.

Are you speaking in a relatively low and confident tone? Are you standing up straight? Do you have good posture? Are you smiling at the appropriate times?

Or are you an insecure little boy who she will just laugh at?

30 seconds is more than enough

I've answered this question over and over. I don't even feel like typing out the whole generic convo. Go look at some of my past posts. You'll find examples of how i number close. Simplest **** ever.

Remember: When you're walking up to her, she's thinking about how you walk, basically how you present yourself. When you open your mouth, she's looking at your lips and fantasizing. Assuming she's attracted to you...Otherwise, she has a pre-determined no in her mind...A slight amount of physical attraction IS necessary. When you begin to talk, she's not thinking about what you're saying. She's thinking about how she's going to respond and if you're trying to get her number.

Just one more thing, don't come up with a planned out conversation. It will hinder your confidence to begin the approach because right before your approach, your plan is most likely going to seem irrelevant; and if you do approach, it most likely will be irrelevant and will seem canned. You just need to practice going with the flow and the most important thing is to treat this as practice; don't worry if you screw up, there are tons of other girls and this is just one of them.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Don't plan what she's going to say, but you should plan routines for you to use.
Funny stories, c&f lines to possible responses she might give you, if you know a lot about a topic that appeals to High School girls, talk about that, etc.

Draw attention to the obvious but unspoken.

"Hey. I've noticed you can't take your eyes off me, you should get out more often."
"Hey. I always see you looking at me, but I don't want a woman who only likes me for my looks."

You could just say "Hey what's up, I'm 'JonDuan,'" or use a celebrities name/a funny name, then start into a conversation.

This sets a flirty/playful dynamic. Remember, flirting is playing, therefore you must flirt to play the game and not be friendzoned.

WARNING - There is a HIGH possibility that your interaction could be interrupted by her friends (you are in High School after all.)
If it does, just say "Well aren't you going to introduce me to your friends?" (It actually doesn't matter if she knows your name or not!)

But whatever you do, "Hi I see you looking at me a lot," and "Is there something on my face?" are HORRIBLE things to say, because they make you seem completely oblivious.

Why oblivious? SHE'S STARING YOU DOWN.
That's like her saying "Hey sexy, come over here and give me some attention."
PLAY with this, because you know she's attracted and you don't know if you like her yet so YOU have ALL the power.