It's billed as the new way for despairing daters to find a partner.

[BadBoy89]

Would you wear the green ring that tells the world you're single and looking for love?

Would you wear the green ring that says you're looking for love?

According to recent research from dating app Inner Circle, three in four single people in the UK would prefer to meet a future partner in real life. Could the Pear ring be the answer?

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Created by a British dating company, with the intention of coaxing internet daters to approach potential partners in real life, the Pear Ring costs £19.99 and is described as 'the opposite of an engagement ring'.

The question is, do single people — particularly women — really want to wear a piece of jewellery that broadcasts their lack of relationship to the whole world, with all the associated judgments this may bring? Would it leave us feeling empowered — or just plain desperate?

At 35, I've been single for most of my life and have been swiping on the apps for the past decade.

I don't mind being single, but it no longer feels like an exciting adventure in which you never know what — or who — might be round the corner. Finding that most of my friends are now coupled up has been slightly alarming, too. Am I really the last single girl at the party?

I wore it to the wedding of a family friend. My sister's husband was the only person to ask, peering closer to read the minuscule writing: 'What's a pear ring?'

I explained and he mock-shouted: 'Come on fellas, she's over here!' Cringing, I felt embarrassed — and very glad that nobody heard him. It occurred to me that perhaps the privacy of the dating apps was preferable after all . . . It's all very well wanting to be chatted up, but did I want every-one there to instantly see me as some tragic figure desperate for a man?

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Thoughts?

 

[Solomon]

I see it flopping

I think the next big thing with OLD will be some sort of AI dating app, maybe an app where you can go on an instant date with someone who is near your vicinity something new

 

[pipeman84]

I read the article when it first appeared and found the idea ridiculous ... just a bunch of guys out to make a buck (better said, a £ in this case) ... it's their 3rd entrepreneurial attempt if I remember correctly.

From the male perspective, it's pointless because that ring doesn't actually tell you anything about her ... oh yeah, she's single, what the heck does that mean nowadays? If a guy fancies her, it's enough that she sends an IOI and he'll approach. That's a much more powerful and easy to read invitation than a green ring which firstly it's easy to overlook and secondly not know its supposed meaning.

From the female perspective, it's ridiculous because it can attract unwanted attention and can make it harder to get rid of guys she's not interested in and can't easily take No for an answer.

 

[Smooth_texter]

Would you wear the green ring that tells the world you're single and looking for love?

Would you wear the green ring that says you're looking for love?

According to recent research from dating app Inner Circle, three in four single people in the UK would prefer to meet a future partner in real life. Could the Pear ring be the answer?

www.dailymail.co.uk

Created by a British dating company, with the intention of coaxing internet daters to approach potential partners in real life, the Pear Ring costs £19.99 and is described as 'the opposite of an engagement ring'.

The question is, do single people — particularly women — really want to wear a piece of jewellery that broadcasts their lack of relationship to the whole world, with all the associated judgments this may bring? Would it leave us feeling empowered — or just plain desperate?

At 35, I've been single for most of my life and have been swiping on the apps for the past decade.

I don't mind being single, but it no longer feels like an exciting adventure in which you never know what — or who — might be round the corner. Finding that most of my friends are now coupled up has been slightly alarming, too. Am I really the last single girl at the party?

I wore it to the wedding of a family friend. My sister's husband was the only person to ask, peering closer to read the minuscule writing: 'What's a pear ring?'

I explained and he mock-shouted: 'Come on fellas, she's over here!' Cringing, I felt embarrassed — and very glad that nobody heard him. It occurred to me that perhaps the privacy of the dating apps was preferable after all . . . It's all very well wanting to be chatted up, but did I want every-one there to instantly see me as some tragic figure desperate for a man?

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Thoughts?

@pipeman84 has given a good answer.

Regarding this specific example - if a woman has been on OLD for 10 years, her pair bonding abilities were destroyed long ago. The problem with such women lies within their decision making abilities, not the potential to attract new single men.

My personal approach is to not deal with women for whom I know that have been using OLD for years.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Signalling your availability has been done for eons, you don't need a flag.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Class case of over engineering a solution

The types of people who would sign up to this are the ones that are already perpetually on dating apps and have been for years

No women under 30 would want to be seen dead with some cringey ring signalling to the world how desperate she is

It will be corporate style masculine women in their mid- late 30's and 40's who have little to no value left in the dating market but still have extremely high expectations

And it will be men who are terrible at cold approach and taking social cues so need a marker to go and do it

its a dumb idea

Also if I saw a woman wearing one of these rings I would assume she's desperate and has been trawling dating apps for years

Instant turn off

 

[SW15]

It's a nice idea but it will fail to work in the real world.

If enough women wear it, it would help me in choosing who to approach in typical daygame settings. Those rings would cut down on too many approaches I've had while doing daygame sessions where the conversation fizzles out in 30 seconds or less. I suspect a lot of those women I'm approaching already have boyfriends and aren't seeking new penis. As a result, they aren't interested in meaningful conversations. I think some women not in relationships are unwilling to engage in approaches with me because they aren't interested. I think the sentence of women with boyfriends is more applicable in my approaches.

About 10-12 years ago, I started to notice that mid to late 1980s born Millennial women were worse at sending IOI signals as compared to what I was seeing in 2005-2006 when the earliest of Millennials were reaching the market (I am an early Millennial myself). I think this trend continued with the 1990s born Millennials and now into Gen Z. Social cues are becoming a fading art.

I don't see this impacting nightlife venue approaching as showing up to a nightlife venue is enough of a signal of interest in new penis. With that said, there are still women with boyfriends who show up to nightlife venues.

There have been times where I didn't approach a woman because I saw her wedding ring. I was fine with that. It saved me time on the approach.

I don't think this ends up becoming a factor in the real world because most women won't want to wear the rings. There won't be a cool factor ever associated with it and a lot of women like to do what is cool. This is why Meetup.com groups, structured singles events, and speed dating have always been disasters. The desirable women aren't bothered to attend those things in the real world and the most desirable women won't be wearing the green rings.