Its been a year and a bit

[NotoriousGRK]

BACKGROUND (Long):

I met this girl back in 2010 and I can confide to you that I began having strong feelings for her. Over time various red flags appeared which I ignored. In the mean time I listened to a person who seemed to have my best interests at heart told me to chase after she began ignoring my calls and suddnely acting cold around me.

To keep it brief (even though its alot, better than a whole heap of detailed stories right?)and to the point the red flags (or observations) were:

The first time we went out, at a nightclub, she got really drunk grabbed my you-know-what. She started wiggling her hips at me, she got low and as she got up her tit brushed against my you know what. We sat down at the booths she started "bouncing" as if she was doing a cowgirl. I make a move "she says dont touch me" (?????). I walk her home she cries and tells me how people bring her pain. I get her home she locks me out, time was 4:00am.

Messages me saying thanks for taking her home and was upset that I didnt reply back "because I wanted something" her words. We went out again to a karaoke place, she gets up and walks out and then comes back. She said that she went to see her bf. I asked her as to why she didnt tell me> She said I didnt ask. Her friend who she brought with at the karaoke place. Said to me that she has a bf in her mind, whatever that met. Later one she loses it because the road marking on the road where of particular colour (just dont ask). When we got to the restaurant at some point she says :"I need alcohol"
She didnt let me touch her nor did she want me getting close to her. I put my arm around her and she took it off. She refused to sit next to me on the train since she wanted "space". While changing to another train she was on the phone to someone, God only knows who. While her friend just gazes deep into my eyes (!!!). I felt confused.

Another time, she goes out to a nightclub and in the morning on facebook she had a status update "*something* *something* I'm so high" and there are like 5 different guys commenting on her update and she says to one guy "I miss you"

She didnt say happy new year nor did she invite me to her bday party and she even told me over the phone that she can have any guy she wants.

In January she said to me that my parents raised me differently and of course I let her have it! The tone in her voice was disgusting!

I did NC for 2 months then this older dude told me to chase her, its the traditional way. Me, at time, being a little foolhardy I done just that. She would be pissy, cold, would not acknowledge me, not look at me in the eyes, putted etc. I had enough of the chasing stuff when one day she walked away from me while she was working at the coffee shop. I walked over to get my order she looks back storms right over to me, I asked with a smile "whats the matter?". She done a "hmf" and shrugged her shoulders. I said f*** you and walked off. She was shocked and maybe she was teary.


Recently:

I ignored her for a year and I walk into the hair salon were she and the other girl that cuts my hair works (the same one that came to karaoke). For a year I avoided her since they had another shop nearby and I would go to that one to avoid her, since it closed, I go to their other one. I walk in the girl that cuts my hair and the other one were in the corner talking. The girl that cuts my hair waived and I waved back. I think I saw that one wave to me but I didnt even notice nor did I want to. While getting my hair cut she ( drunker nightclubber) would talk in this really disgusting tone of voice in her language. Her and the girl that was cutting her hair and another guy that worked there had this brief discussion where the guy asked her something pointed to me and then he pointed at her and back to me. She said something in their language and the only words I made out were "half way" and "Kevin"

I joked to myself on teh inside "oh so Kevin put his **** half way into her and she told him if he wanted all the way in he must get her free tix to the nightclubs for a year or he can forget about it"

She was was also red the whole time and I refused to acknowledge her (for what I think are obvious reasons)

Now if you could, I know what I did in the past was not the best thing to do from what I know recently. Either than that what do you guys say?

PS: No, I have no interest in patching things up (just letting you know ahead of time here)

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

She sounds like a waste of skin and the typical stuck up type of girl that you would find in Toronto.

What is she so proud of? You work in high finance girl? You rolling in millions girl? You start your own company from scratch and became one of the most successful in your industry girl? What do you do that makes you so fuvking special? Oh what? You work in a hair salon and you have a vagina? :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

I don't know what you're asking about. Totally ignore her and forget that you met her. Whenever you see her, just treat her like a stranger. She is a waste of skin and time.

 

[NotoriousGRK]

One time I wanted to walk her home after work (while I was chasing, yeesh)

her response "when you get a car, you can take me home"

I wanted to see what you guys think...

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I think she's bipolar and manic depressive. Although she comes off as a narcissist, I actually don't think that she is one. It is a side effect of having those two conditions at once if that makes any sense.

 

[NewAndImproved]

What ever happened to standards???

Girl sounds crazy and bad to be around.

Had a good night a few years back with a 9. A sexy rich girl but down to earth too. She seemed pretty awesome at the time, besides my later finding her in the bathroom with her friends on snorting coke. And that was just the beginning.

A few meet ups and warning signs later and I tapped out. Don't care how hot she was.

Where are your standards?

 

[Skalioppe]

As someone interested in psychological disorders and a person who has had relationships with women with them, I can practically guarantee this girl is Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Manic Depressive and probably has some deep routed abuse history. I'd bet she also some chemical dependence of sort, alcohol, pills whatever. She is so self absorbed, attention seeking and fvcked up that she should have siren accompanying her and her deranged slvt behaviour. The weird thing is, they are precisely the reasons why you really like her, why other men do. In her armoury of talents is the ultimate seductress, she knows how to tease c0ck and that's why she has lots of male acolytes massaging her ego. She's probably fvcked most of them and that combination of fascinating weirdness, seduction wh0re and a superb beyond words fvck (she'll be great in bed guarantee it) is a ****tail most of them (including you) can't resist. She'll give each hope at times, to keep them orbiting and worshipping her (her ego needs it SO bad) and she'll treat each one like sh1t too to let them know they aren't worthy. It's the style of the ultimate female game player - Alpha b1tch, men can't resist it.

If you hadn't have NC'd the b1tch she would have driven you mental (I know this, I've been there with a woman exactly the same) - I bet good money on it - but you probably still carry a flame for her, even now, because she's so different. My advice save yourself, carry on pretending she's dead to you, she's poison, black widow, heart breaker.

 

[NotoriousGRK]

What ever happened to standards???

Girl sounds crazy and bad to be around.

Had a good night a few years back with a 9. A sexy rich girl but down to earth too. She seemed pretty awesome at the time, besides my later finding her in the bathroom with her friends on snorting coke. And that was just the beginning.

A few meet ups and warning signs later and I tapped out. Don't care how hot she was.

Where are your standards?

While I appreciate that you took the time to respond and express your thoughts on the matter there is something that I will point out. I mentioned in my original post that I knew it was not the best thing to do and you completely disregarded that. I wonder if you are looking for an argument.

 

[NotoriousGRK]

As someone interested in psychological disorders and a person who has had relationships with women with them, I can practically guarantee this girl is Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Manic Depressive and probably has some deep routed abuse history. I'd bet she also some chemical dependence of sort, alcohol, pills whatever. She is so self absorbed, attention seeking and fvcked up that she should have siren accompanying her and her deranged slvt behaviour. The weird thing is, they are precisely the reasons why you really like her, why other men do. In her armoury of talents is the ultimate seductress, she knows how to tease c0ck and that's why she has lots of male acolytes massaging her ego. She's probably fvcked most of them and that combination of fascinating weirdness, seduction wh0re and a superb beyond words fvck (she'll be great in bed guarantee it) is a ****tail most of them (including you) can't resist. She'll give each hope at times, to keep them orbiting and worshipping her (her ego needs it SO bad) and she'll treat each one like sh1t too to let them know they aren't worthy. It's the style of the ultimate female game player - Alpha b1tch, men can't resist it.

If you hadn't have NC'd the b1tch she would have driven you mental (I know this, I've been there with a woman exactly the same) - I bet good money on it - but you probably still carry a flame for her, even now, because she's so different. My advice save yourself, carry on pretending she's dead to you, she's poison, black widow, heart breaker.

Skalioppe, I have no flame for her in the sense of romantic passion. In 2010 - 2011 you would of been right on. There was a flame, there was some seductiveness and compulsion that I felt. Since November 2011 it all changed with that "fvck you" which I feel was building up for quite some time.

It was the better choice to get away from her and avoid her as long as practical. I done some research on the matter of NPD and abusive women and if kept going longer, according to what those experts/psychologists wrote, it might have done permanent psychological damage.

Maybe she is on her way to becoming a prostitute. Some girls get sucked in the 'clublife' get given free tix and coke/pills then later they get them to work as prostitutes. Looks like that stuff was not 'free'. One of those round the mill kind of things, aka old wives tales, etc.

@TillTheEndOfTime

I thought as much when I began investigating/researching about abusive relationships and abusive women. I originally thought she was bi polar then NPD and even to schizophrenic.

@Mauser96

Tell me about it. And I said it straight out in an instant. Of course my close friend said that "it made me worse than her for saying that and next time just walk off". While I have agreed with my close friend in the past I disagree with him on that one and he knows it already.