its been 10 years, but im back PLZ HELP

[italianboy2009]

I was here YEARS ago and read up for months. really tapped into my game and my life has been great since. this is the absolute best site around! Unfortently, i recenty met this girl at the gym and this has really stumped me. Now i know many of you are going to have trouble not laughing at some of the particulars here, but trust me i know the game and have become lost in this.

story line and ill keep it brief

asked a 39 year old women out at the gym in may, got her #. shes unbelievebly HOT and doesnt look her age, much like me at 36.
she has a 9 year old daughter and has just moved out of her husbands house and has her own place while they file for divorce.

so we go out, take a couple weeks off. we do this, until july and she blows me off for a date. so of course, i cut her off and dont answer her texts and calls for a couple weeks. then i pick up and we basically start again. sex etc, but no commitments.

recently, in late august i meet her daughter and im things are progressing into a more exclusive relationship, although this is not discussed.

now about 1 month ago, we talked and agreed that we both had strong feelings, the L word was used, maybe impulsively on my part but by both of us. we agreed we would not see other people.

NOW...here the issues...since that day a month ago, my text messages now go unanswered for sometimes 3/4 of a day. she spends much time coming over late at night, after shes partied with her friends. which didnt bother me before, but obviously my feeling are stronger than hers, at least a little.

now last week, she went out with friends, came over at midnight and no sex...shes on her period. she wakes up at 7am and rolls out. i wake up and i say, where are you going its saturday lets chill. she says shes going to the gym.i text her at 10am, say have a great day..and no reply until she calls at 4pm. i asked her if she even got the text and she says sorry and that she will see be by tonight after her night out. she calls at 2am and says she wont make it blah blah.

so i tell her util shes ready to step up to the plate and stop screwing around, im done. tell her call me when ur ready, and maybe ill be around. 3 days go by we dont see each other.

now yesterday she said she wants to talk face 2 face. i said, im home come by. she comes by and says this:

you touch me in all the right places, say all the right things, do everything right. this is not yoru fauklt at all. ive been in a crappy marriage for 10 years and i dont want to answer to anyone. im scared that im falling in love with you to fast..etc. then she starts kissing me and she tells me she loves me blah blah... we kiss for about 10 minutes and bcz my daughter was home, we called that a night.

When she left it was like 6pm. at 10pm she text me saying sweet dreams baby". and i replied u 2.

this morning she text me, have a great day..and i replied u 2 .

now at like 4pm she text me /'just wanted u to know im thinking about you". to which i DID NOT reply....YET

I REALLY like this woman, and i know there are MANY things that go against my better judgement, including her current divorce, but w have great chemistry and my PROBLEM IS...i dont know what the heck to do now..do i not nswer all these text to show her im fine without her. do i reject her asking me out if that happens? what do u guys thinks. i cant tell if shes being sincere or if she wants me to be here for her in case her world falls apart LOL. i dont need to get all busted up! thx MAKE NO MISTAKE, I DO WANT TO BE WITH HER i just dont want to blow her off to much so that she just says byebye, im trying to make her check her feelings a little..HELP!

 

[J Roc]

you are just her rebound guy. she just got out of a bad marriage and although she may like you alot she isnt ready to be committed to anyone right now. she just wants to have fun and get her freak on. best believe she is f*cking other people.

 

[Infamous_Wolf]

Seems like you've been handling the situation pretty alright to this point. yeah, you had a couple slip ups, but the important thing is you didn't forget you have a pair of balls between your legs. You showed you were a man by taking the lead in the relationship by forcing her hand. Don't doubt yourself now buddy. keep the communication on your terms, you really don't have to respond to what she says. there is no rule written anywhere that you *must* respond when you are spoken to. it is your choice. just remember that you're the one wearing the pants here. she should be thinking "I am so lucky to have this man. he could be having anyone else right now, but he is with me, and i'll do anything to keep it that." Stay cool and good luck pal.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

I was here YEARS ago and read up for months. really tapped into my game and my life has been great since. this is the absolute best site around! Unfortently, i recenty met this girl at the gym and this has really stumped me. Now i know many of you are going to have trouble not laughing at some of the particulars here, but trust me i know the game and have become lost in this.

Not laughing at you, just getting ready to verbally b-itch slap you.....but don't take it the wrong way, its tough love.

asked a 39 year old women out at the gym in may, got her #. shes unbelievebly HOT and doesnt look her age, much like me at 36.
she has a 9 year old daughter and has just moved out of her husbands house and has her own place while they file for divorce.

Knowing what she's going through, this would make her a fuvk buddy at best in my book....

so we go out, take a couple weeks off. we do this, until july and she blows me off for a date. so of course, i cut her off and dont answer her texts and calls for a couple weeks. then i pick up and we basically start again. sex etc, but no commitments.

This was your chance to escape unscathed.....but instead you walked back into the lion's den asking for punishment....

recently, in late august i meet her daughter and im things are progressing into a more exclusive relationship, although this is not discussed.

Badddddddd News!!!!

now about 1 month ago, we talked and agreed that we both had strong feelings, the L word was used, maybe impulsively on my part but by both of us. we agreed we would not see other people.

Using the L word after a few months?? Are you sure you learned anything from this site?? Also its clear as day to me that the lack of women in your life has elevated this woman's standing in your eyes dramatically....

NOW...here the issues...since that day a month ago, my text messages now go unanswered for sometimes 3/4 of a day. she spends much time coming over late at night, after shes partied with her friends. which didnt bother me before, but obviously my feeling are stronger than hers, at least a little.

Big deal if she doesn't answer your text right away? Your 36, with a child to care for, a job to maintain and you should have other hobbies keeping you busy. As long as she's responding don't sweat it.. And don't think for one second that she's simply going out to dance and have a few drinks. She's going out to meet guys..

now last week, she went out with friends, came over at midnight and no sex...shes on her period. she wakes up at 7am and rolls out. i wake up and i say, where are you going its saturday lets chill. she says shes going to the gym.i text her at 10am, say have a great day..and no reply until she calls at 4pm. i asked her if she even got the text and she says sorry and that she will see be by tonight after her night out. she calls at 2am and says she wont make it blah blah.

Didn't know your place was a hotel.... Where she can come have a warm bed to sleep in with the guy she SUPPOSEDLY loves, not fuvk him after a long night of partying and then bounce first thing in the morning..... She's s-hittting on you and your tolerating it... Why would you ask her if she got your text? Of course she did, your acting like a chump, and it shouldn't have been a surprise to you that she didn't come over that night

so i tell her util shes ready to step up to the plate and stop screwing around, im done. tell her call me when ur ready, and maybe ill be around. 3 days go by we dont see each other.

First time you've manned up in this entire situation. However I would've taken it one step further and just completely CUT CONTACT with this woman, she's carrying more baggage than an airport security terminal...

you touch me in all the right places, say all the right things, do everything right. this is not yoru fauklt at all. ive been in a crappy marriage for 10 years and i dont want to answer to anyone. im scared that im falling in love with you to fast..etc. then she starts kissing me and she tells me she loves me blah blah... we kiss for about 10 minutes and bcz my daughter was home, we called that a night.

Again I'll ask the question....What exactly did you "learn" from this site? Her words mean NOTHING, only thing that matters is her actions! With all due respect to your daughter, a woman will fuvk a guy in the middle of a war if she wants to......so don't use the daughter card unless it was YOU who didn't want to fuvk her that night.


When she left it was like 6pm. at 10pm she text me saying sweet dreams baby". and i replied u 2.

this morning she text me, have a great day..and i replied u 2 .

now at like 4pm she text me /'just wanted u to know im thinking about you". to which i DID NOT reply....YET

Words...everyone speaks them.....and it doesn't mean $$$$hit!!

I REALLY like this woman, and i know there are MANY things that go against my better judgement, including her current divorce, but w have great chemistry

Chump mentality... your trying to super glue a house together that was destroyed in a tornado. That little voice in the back of your head is screaming at you, turn off the mute button... Your the next sucker in line if you keep falling for this chick..

and my PROBLEM IS...i dont know what the heck to do now..do i not nswer all these text to show her im fine without her. do i reject her asking me out if that happens? what do u guys thinks. i cant tell if shes being sincere or if she wants me to be here for her in case her world falls apart LOL.

First off all start cutting contact. Don't answer her texts right away, sometimes don't answer at all. Secondly start going out and meeting new women. You clearly have no one else within your radar, which has made this woman seem like the hottest piece ever in your mind.... How can you not see that she's USING YOU???? Your her comfort guy,the guy she lays in bed with and shows affection to, then she gets to go out at night and fuvk the men that treat her as the submissive crazy woman that she is.... I hope your not paying for her $hit or buying her gifts...funny how most guys leave that part out when they tell their story...

i dont need to get all busted up! thx MAKE NO MISTAKE, I DO WANT TO BE WITH HER i just dont want to blow her off to much so that she just says byebye, im trying to make her check her feelings a little..HELP!

Here's the problem aside from the million and one red flags she's showing you. You like her A LOT more than she likes you. Thus she has all the power, all the aces and all the control in this "relationship." You have major one-itis and have emotionally handed your ballz over to her on a silver platter. She will continue to feast on them until you fully realize that you are Captain Save a Head-case and nothing more. Make no mistake about it, this will end very badly for you if you continue down this dark path...

PIMP