I got this tip from a guy about my age and this is about the smartest thing I have ever heard him say, "I dosn't matter if you want to get laid, and if you do it's the girls idea and it is because she wanted it at the time" and think about it is so true. They have it, we want it, they know it, but they also want it. So when you are chillin with a girl you want, put out thoughts of having sex because they will only fill you mind with that and not how you could be presenting yourself as someone who deserves it. And let them chase you : ) forget everything about persuing, be the pursued but make yourself avaliable to be purseued because you still need to initiate.