It turned upside down.. just like that.

[European-DJ]

Hi Guys..

What the hell just happened? ...
This girl i have been seeing, have had the biggest IL ever for the last 3 months, but lately, it have changed completly, her IL went down, my went skyhigh...

Atm i am afraid she could drop the " i dont wanna see you anymore " at anytime...

The reason i have been thinking this, is that the last 2 time we see each other, i was in a ****ty mood, getting into a verbal fight - without any reason really ..

I am really desperate, and i am wondering if i should take contact to her, to set up an oppoinment later, just too get her into a better mood...

The thought of her dumping me on the spot, is really killing me, and i wouldn't want that to happen..

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Soo, any advice guys?

- and should i ask her to see me later, or not?

 

[Groovy]

What i am worried about is your mood. Too many people think that mood is not physical at all. You are feeling like crap probably because of something you are doing unhealthy. You maybe have low testosterone or something, causing you to not be confident, or happy. That way how can you pick up girls?
What I want is for you to open your eyes. You said it yourself- you got into a argument for no reason.

So start by identifying the ROOT of your problem... what could possibly be causing your bad mood?

 

[st_99]

, her IL went down, my went skyhigh...

funny how that happens

but to your point, she probably has her eyes on another guy. all you can
do is not care but judging by your post, that doesn't seem possible.

 

[Deep Dish]

You should preemptively dump her before she dumps you. Thee who dumps first has the upper hand, suffers the least emotional damage, and if you're doing beta things then a good dump, alpha in nature, can spark the flames of attraction. She might not return, she might return, but she will not return if she dumps you. It's always better to end things earlier than later because you have less emotionally invested than if things ended another three or six months from now.

 

[SoSuaveDude]

Sounds like a potential other guy is on her mind. any details arriving up to her point of declined interest? I will say that you can't be scared to lose any girl. Your fear of losing her, and your change of mood could be exuding desperateness to her which is undoubtedly a turn-off. Also, you will be dumped very soon

 

[gaspipe]

She senses your desperation/jealousy/insecurity which is a major turnoff.
Id just cut her loose and disappear. If she has the slightest interest she may wonder whats up and try to contact you. If she does you have to lose the beta frame of desperation you were exhibiting and obtain one of a secure alpha male if you want to establish the upper hand in the relationship.

 

[European-DJ]

I must admit, this advice is very well given - yet something i was completly aware of.
- I tend to be great at analysing other peoples issues, but when it comes to my own, then the problem appear!..

About the Testosterone.. How can i naturally boost this?
- and i think the reason is within my unhealthy eating, and perhaps low testosterone

 

[DonGorgon]

its over move on now before you get hurt..

 

[floydb25]

You haven't given enough details. Did you start coming on strong, and she started pulling away - after she came on strong initially? This isn't uncommon. Or did she realize the person she envisioned you as being not match up to who you really were? Also common. Infatuation is intense and blinding. She could be addicted to the chase.

Typically, those who come on strong, show extreme interest, talk about the future, etc, end up losing interest just as quickly - especially once interest is returned, or the infatuation wears off. This is why you do NOT come on strong, and start spilling your heart out too soon.

Always remember: feelings can change at any time. You can't control this. What you CAN do is protect yourself, and be prepared for it. Never be afraid to walk away, or fear the other person doing the same thing. It's going to happen whether you like it or not. The worst thing you can do is try to win her over, and become a doormat. The best thing you can do is reciprocate her lack of interest. Don't give more when she gives less.

 

[Atom Smasher]

The tell-tale is the word you used... "desperate".

That is a relationship killer. Right now you are owned. You are slave to the dynamic. You are living with an ambient sense of dread, and that's no way for a man to live.

Just back off and continue to develop yourself. If you don't all-out dump her, at least withdraw from her drastically. Turn the tables and make her be the one who is guessing. The woman must always be the one guessing, NEVER the other way around.