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It is AMAZING How Good I Am at Talking Online...Here's an example...

Pecker

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I talked to this girl online. It turned out she lives 5 minutes from my home town, so of course after trading pics (she's damn hot) and talking online, we trade phone numbers.

She plays games on the phone, kind of breaks my balls and I say "why do I want to talk to someone who insists on being insulting" and she says "you know you love it." My response is to hang up.

Two days later I called her, and mentioned that we should meet up and talk in person. She responded with an "I'll have to get back to you on that." So ever since I've been talking to her as practice online, not caring which way it goes.

Here is a conversation I just finished with her:

(blah blah blah, we talk about IQs and stuff...)

Her: Well I'm hot. At least I have one thing going for me.

Me: So'm I. AND smart.

Her: Psh, I'm hotter than you.

Me: Well you have better tits i'll give you that.

Her: You're such an *******.

Me: You love it.

Her: Actually it really turns me off...okay, see, you're really bad at this flirtation thing.

Me: you think i'm FLIRTING with you?

Me: god, i flirt wtih clean drug free nice girls

Me: girl-next-door girls

Me: :)

Her: the girl next door always has a secret

Me: yeah and you give em all away within 3 minutes

Her: rather be upfront with a person and know what you're dealing with before actually getting to know them

Her: saves you a lot of time

Me: no, your strategy is to see if someone will like you despite all your dark secrets, almost like you're hoping they don't.

Me: someone with self respect would expect others to like them as if it were a natural occurence

Her: thank you dr. freud. but, my "dark secrets" is just about every day of my life, and it's not something you can hide easliy.

Her: nor do i care

Me: mmk. i'm not picking you apart just making observations.

Me: i'm watching hair surgery

Her: pretty ****ing negative observations

Me: well

Me: ...

Me: you're free to make some about me

Me: see how much they bother me

Her: i'm really not in the mood to be a *****, so im going to
decline

Me: ok i was thinking how this conversation kinda got ugly

Me: so let's be nice :)

Her: you start

Me: ok. are you looking forward to your senior year of highschool>

Her: yes actually

Me: thats cool

Me: i'm lookin forward to sophomore college

Me: did i tell you about my living situation?

Her: yes

Me: yeh i like

Me: i just want to party again already

Me: i've been sitting here

Me: my party muscle has been atrophying

Her: lol

Me: there we go :)

Me: ok now you

Her: uh....so...what other muscles have been atrophying? heh


Me: none

Me: are you insinuating something?

Her: maybe...

Me: oh, i see.

Me: are we obsessed with the naughty thoughts?

Her: no

Me: damn

Her: why are you?

Me: hey that wasn't a nice thing by the way

Her: it wasn't mean.

Me: it actually implied genital inactivity, a semi-insult.

Her: it did not imply genital inactivity specifically

Her: you just assumed.

Me: no.

Her: wonder whats on your mind

Me: i infered correctly.

Me: i knew you'd respond that way though

Me: well played

Her: checkmate.

Me: not quite.

Her: oh really?

Me: really.

Her: menacing.

Me: yess.

Me: that's me.

Her: doubtful

Me: well doubt all you want

Me: hey why don't we just get some boxing gloves on and go at it?

Me: wouldn't that be more efficient?

Me: less brainwork

Her: right train of thought, wrong physical activity

Me: i see

Me: well i thought *******s turned you off

Her: not that im making sexual innuendo

Me: well what were you making?

Her: a cake

Me: uh huh.

Me: that was a big flub on your part

Her: *******s turn me off because i fell for one....hard.

Me: you broke character

Her: oh shush

Me: well now we're getting somewhere.

Me: LOL

Me: i don't think i'm a real *******, whatever that means. i'm just
not always nice.

Her: yeah, you really are no good to me talking.

Her: you should just be underneath me

Me: lol well you prevented that early on

Me: so who's to blame?

Her: did i?

Me: sure did

Her: how so?

Me: i'm not going to explain yourself to you. you always resent that.

Me: but you know you did, and that you'd have to swallow some pride to undo that

Her: i tend to be good at swallowing pride.

Her: i tend to have a lot of practice

Me: ok

Me: i haven't seen you do it

Her: well i dont know what pride id have to swallow

Me: maybe you're a little scared?

Her: or just confused

Me: well i got that a long time ago

Her: thanks.

Me: you should smoke pot and talk to me more often

Me: it's really fun :)

Her: oh i hate you

Me: LOL

Her: god do i hate you

Me: i've heard it before. i don't really think you hate me.

Me: girls who like me always say they hate me and that i'm mean

Her: girls that like you?

Me: yep

Her: hahahahaha

Me: :)

Me: its simple pattern recognition

Her: i tend to defy steriotypes.

Me: that's good. except my observations aren't stereotypes

Her: that hardly prooves that i'm going to follow the pattern

Me: i know, but put it this way. if i listened to everything you said and actualyl took it seriously, the world would deteriorate and i'd shoot myself in the head

Her: lol

Her: damn.....ive got nothing to say to that

Me: you're just pretty contradictory

Her: am i?

Me: but most girls are and don't know it. would you agree?

Her: yes

Me: so youre basically telling me not to listen to you

Me: ...without a grain of salt anyway

Her: pretty much

Her: but you still have to think im hot.

Me: mmmk thanks for the advice :)

Her: its in the rules

Me: have you read my rulebook

Me: i dont think so

Her: im sorry...but it states right here "you must think im hot"

Her: oh look. there. see?

Me: the rules for what?

Her: life

Me: i used to think you were pretty cute but i don't know. now you're just really difficult.

Me: i dont like having to struggle every time

Her: ive been really stressed

Me: so you would have been more agreeable at a different time in your life.

Her: most likely

Me: well that's interesting.

Me: but you're probably always stressed

Her: not really

Me: that's good. my first quarter of next year is gonna be all literature courses...fun fun...with no grades, simply credits. so i'll have no stress for awhile

Me: just partying.

Her: lol lucky

Me: Oh well, I'm gonna go walk dog.
(10 minutes goes by)

Her: I'm going to go to bed. You can call me if you want to talk

Me: number again?

Her: (digits)

Me: k. nothing stops you from calling me you know

Her: riiiight...with the phone number you didn't give me

Me: I gave it to you.

Her: lost it

Me: Well now....should I give you the house line or the cell....hmmmmm....

Her: oh jezus

Me: (gives cell number)

Her: Is that an invitation to call?

Me: It's permission

Her: I don't call unless you ask

Me: YOu dn't call if you simply want to?

Her: not people like you

Her: people i'm really close to, yes.

Her: and you don't want to call me, either. why do i want to call someone who doesn't want to call me?

Me: did i say i didn't want to call?

Her: Well you haven't.

Me: I was thinking TOMORROW sis

Her: oh...lol

I was on the verge of saying SO MANY afc things in this conversation, but with a little time and no nippies and sexy lips to distract me, I think I did quite well in regaining control of this conversation. Here's a practical question for you:

Do you think pausing and thinking about what my response will be (in person) would be an effective way to transmit my talent for talking online into real-life interactions. I know a guy who has long pauses before his responses, and it kind of instills a sense of suspense as to what he's going to say. He is clearly not stupid because what he says is always intelligent.

....and there you have it. sorry for the long post.
 

Oscar Wilde

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Didn't read any of that crap (don't expect anyone else to either btw).

Your question was about speaking slowly and deliberately - yes, this works great if you demonstrate that you don't say stupid stuff and think about what you say. Think about that guy you mentioned, works for him, right?
 

squirrels

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A short pause, maybe. Long pauses in conversation, especially a LOT of them, can be awkward. On chat, people EXPECT a delay, so it's easier to type something, rethink it, and then retype it before sending it. In real life, it most likely wouldn't've gone that smoothly...you would've probably dropped a couple "kick-self-in-the-head lines".

If not, you're pretty smooth.
 

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*blank stare*
 

Metaphor

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It's pretty good but I was expecting to be stunned due to the assertion made in this threads topic.
 
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For get the haters...It's funny how women say they hate that kinda ****y ass*ed personality but end of falling for it every time like iggy posted recently.
 

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Well your "amazing" skill would be great if people took laptops on dates with a wireless internet connection.
 

Oscar Wilde

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Originally posted by Player_Supreme
For get the haters...
Bro, that aint hatin', it's just calling it as we see it, big diff.

btw, aside from your childish BS w/ Stargeek (who's just as bad if not worse) I like your perspective in general.

I'm really not into being that much of a pimp myself, actually happy to settle w/ 1 girl at a time :) You ever consider it?

I know a guy who's in the early 3 figures (he hits anything that moves). He gets laid a lot, but finds it impossible to have any kinda relationship (cos the girls all know the score).

Osc.
 

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I thought he did some pretty good work with her. I have the same situation as he does, I can talk to girls online and C&F/neghit the hell out of them and have them constantly laughing but I'm not nearly as good in person.
 

ZeeOwl

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Originally posted by Drex
I thought he did some pretty good work with her. I have the same situation as he does, I can talk to girls online and C&F/neghit the hell out of them and have them constantly laughing but I'm not nearly as good in person.
It's much easier to do it online. You can think before you type. And you don't have the pressure of the girl looking at you. I can do C&F without breaking a sweat on IM, and I can get any girl with a personality and a sense of humour huffing and begging for more. Just starting to feel comfotable with doing it live, which is a lot harder.
 
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