It happens to the best of us... (cheating)

[Infern0]

Mate of mine, he's what i'd consider a natural, fortunate with his genetics (6'2", 200lb, model face) always keeps himself looking sharp, he is the kind of guy who makes the clothes he's wearing looks good. He's got plenty of charisma, and girls LOVE him. Seriously pickup is easy for him, he will stad in a club and 8/10's will approach HIM.

He never learned game, he just get's by with what he's got naturally. He's a decent bloke too, not really arrogant at all, would lend you money, will take you out for a beer if you need cheering up etc.

Anyway, he'd been in a relationship with this girl for 9 months who wasn't even that good looking, and guess what, he just found out she's been cheating with this short fat guy.

He blocked her on everything, dumped all her belongings on her front door and was hooking up with girls off tinder by the weekend.

Point is though, it can happen to anyone!

 

[yungballa]

Good point, I say. Personally, I would never try to stop a girl from cheating. In my opinion, when a girl is losing interest just let her. So YES, I would let her cheat, I would let her lose interest and I wouldn't try to salvage anything. Why?

Because the relationship is already done dead and over with if she's losing interest. If it was me, I'd take the hint and just drop the girl and keep going with life. She lost interest for a reason. Why save it? Her losing interest just goes to show you that everything that was just going well has now gone to sh1t, so just leave it and let it rot.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

Because monogamy is boring and not natural.Only reason men cheat less its because they lack options.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

Because monogamy is boring and not natural.Only reason men cheat less its because they lack options.

HAHAHA this is so true, and so damn funny.

Of course WE all know monogamy is at the very least, dull. But then this topic has been debated extensively on SS.

Good point though JTA.

 

[BrainDamage92]

a friend of mine, a girl, is a huge robot when it comes to people, she always says the newest trend is handsome guys to have ugly girlfriends because supposedly that kept them in check

also she claims you should get a GF from a small city if youre in a big one, couse she will be more humble, to which I call BS aswell

this post proves my point that shes a fool, but I wont send it to her couse sosuave omerta

also just carve this inside your brain - EVERY woman is a cheater, some of the men dont do it couse were more santimental and easy to control (at least the majority), but anyway, if I put my hand on my heart, I havent had a GF to whom I havent cheated on. This is like one of the few things men and women have in common - they cheat. The more "value" you have in the girls eyes, the less she will cheat, she may even keep her **** in check for a time and in reverse. Its all about the masks we wear and how well we wear them.

Just stop looking for "signs that she is a cheater", she is, and love women as a whole ;] hit and run hit and run hit and run is the best tactic if you dont want children yet

 

[DragonBlood]

So basically, all woman are cheaters, and given the opportunity we would also cheat. Monogamy is something beaten into us from an early age, but for most people it does appear an unnatural and "coping" state. Perhaps cheatings negative connotation is overstated, especially among people under 30. Both sexs seem to silently be in the same boat (more partners is better).

I like this confession video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jKSdFRwZ5c as it suggests the lack of enthusiasm for a relationship isnt just limited to wanting better partners, but actually not wanting a serious relationship at all. (MGTOW alert).

Maybe we take the topic of cheating too seriously because of all the shame, expectations and ultimately broken promises that come with monogamy. I have no interest in monogamy at this point and just prefer to date two woman at the same time. The promise of monogamy reminds me of the "no fap challenge". Where guys ignore their bodies basic behavior to become more sexually aggressive, and feel shamed after the fact if they fail the challenge I use to take the loss of value so personally, but now Im not so sure.

I like your point BrainD that your value will make her cheat less but nothing will stop her from cheating if she feels like it. Men are very sentimental about their partners, myself included, but I think its hard not to view a woman as "special" when you find one that doesnt reject your advances compared to the fairy land of abundance girls live in.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Personally I dont find the cheating wrong because she "breaks a promise", I find the cheating annoying cause someone else is putting his c0ck insinde the woman that I have to spend time and effort into to do the same.

If we were talking about a fvck buddy with no commitment or time spent on, I wouldnt give much of a fvck what she does.

The cheating is about doing a lot of boring and annoying things just to have someone else and get the same for free, add to it the ego factor of course where she is basically saying that in order to have X you have to do Y while that other guy just needs to be there.

So why being cheated bother us is about ego and resourches.

 

[zekko]

Anyway, he'd been in a relationship with this girl for 9 months who wasn't even that good looking, and guess what, he just found out she's been cheating with this short fat guy.

This just shows that it isn't all about hypergamy.

Women will get bored with a guy and go for something else just because it's a novelty - something shiny, new, and different. The new guy doesn't have to be better in any way. Women often make a lateral move, or even a downward move, just for the novelty.

 

[BrainDamage92]

Personally I dont find the cheating wrong because she "breaks a promise", I find the cheating annoying cause someone else is putting his c0ck insinde the woman that I have to spend time and effort into to do the same.

If we were talking about a fvck buddy with no commitment or time spent on, I wouldnt give much of a fvck what she does.

The cheating is about doing a lot of boring and annoying things just to have someone else and get the same for free, add to it the ego factor of course where she is basically saying that in order to have X you have to do Y while that other guy just needs to be there.

So why being cheated bother us is about ego and resourches.

nah man you dont get the same, like when girls cheat with you, youre a toy, while her man is her man, which kinda hurts, but doesnt matter had sex

if her man had to put alot of effort in getting her to bed the first time, or he cant get as much sex, affection or whatever from her as he wants he put his money on the wrong card ;]

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

I believe most men are in LTR or marriage because of fear and thats why they are unhappy.Being alone is very scary thats first, second it makes you look like a 'looser' so they prefer managed discomfort from lonely freedom.

And regarding cheating ... I watched couples online where they show how they make sex live.No matter how hot was the girl the guy was bored or couldnt get erection.If you make something like 1000 times and its like what ... 1 year of sex it loses the thrill and novelty, some need some extreme fetish like public sex to get excited at all.The sex sucked big time, mechanic, total lack of passion, lack of skill, lack of motivation that's average sex in LTR/marriage after some time.It burns out like everything.It takes a lot of -effort- and -passion- to keep it burning and most wont do it.

It well known fact people get bored with everything, so bashing people for cheating is STUPID - its bashing people for being people.

Novelty > hotness

 

[Emotionist]

Mate of mine, he's what i'd consider a natural, fortunate with his genetics (6'2", 200lb, model face) always keeps himself looking sharp, he is the kind of guy who makes the clothes he's wearing looks good. He's got plenty of charisma, and girls LOVE him. Seriously pickup is easy for him, he will stad in a club and 8/10's will approach HIM.

He never learned game, he just get's by with what he's got naturally. He's a decent bloke too, not really arrogant at all, would lend you money, will take you out for a beer if you need cheering up etc.

Anyway, he'd been in a relationship with this girl for 9 months who wasn't even that good looking, and guess what, he just found out she's been cheating with this short fat guy.

He blocked her on everything, dumped all her belongings on her front door and was hooking up with girls off tinder by the weekend.

Point is though, it can happen to anyone!

Yep, correct. Bump.

I have to add that guys like your described buddy get approached often by those girls, who want a challenge with the possibility pulling off teeth of such a presentable, admirable man. He should act more manly, without being influenced too much by the obviously shown attraction towards him. Why? He does know he is the price. So he is allowing himself to test and scan. Everyone, with real charm (if he has it, beside his won genetic lottery). Good woman are happy to be tested from a cool man in my experience. She knows, he testing her leads to more and more growing attraction IN HIM AND HER because his and her quality will be found out step by step naturally. Her feminity can flow what is a nice side effect. She will appriciate it! If no attraction flows with that manly behaviour, dump this gal and she will appriciate it TOO! Evolution can be dumb!

Also, a natural in my understanding is mostly able to recognize possible headaces the first times he meets them. I can not see this ability in your post/friend...

I know myself lots of admirable guys. Looks tell us often mistakenly this man must be a Top Gun. Very often, girls use these dudes to demonstrate others their power and importance. They are used. It has nothing to do with liking each other or being in a mature relation. With some little tests, a MAN would know better! It is just evolution and sexual attraction what drives women doing that. Besides, woman will know very quik if Top Gun is a looser. Top Gun who falls into that trap, is a looks-like Top Gun with no idea. If he just ****s her, he has an IDEA :crackup:

So, he knowing he is the price anyway, the found out cheat should be meaningless to him. He has other, better options. If he is surprised about it, and maybe still in love with her, she won something from him thats not worth fighting for. The gathered knowledge that he is not a man. So cheating helps sometimes to develop internal. :rockon:

If he has this ability described though, he acted just plain stupid. One more reason for him to be happy that its over and he can finally concentrate to better himself :cheer: You could give your friend also a butt-kick. It helps!