Apologies for the length of the post, I'm a man of details. 
I've had 4 dates in the last 3 months with this plate I'm spinning. I approached her at a festival, discovered that we have a friend in common (good friend of hers, just an acquaintaince of mine), hit it off quite well and her IL was going through the roof. She gave me her contact details without me really asking for it.
First date, "one thing led to another", and we were going at it until 5am when she had to get home to get ready for work. Second date, we went for a marathon that night and another one after we got up until nearly 5pm the next day. She's obsessed with the gym (similar to me with fitness training) & has a fantastic body & energy to match. Third date was a simple dinner then a stroll in the park on a week night after work, heavy makeout session & she said how much fun she's having when she's with me.
The fourth date was where the "fun" began. Between the 3rd & the 4th dates, she moved out of her parents' place and is now living with her female cousin & two girl friends. She was really busy with that, and I was going on holiday, so we didn't catch up for a month. When I got back, I arranged a date in her new area, which has some really good restaurants I want to check out. She still sounded very enthusiastic, but before the date happened, I noticed some not very good signs. I can't remember all of them, but the main one was that she rescheduled her two main gym nights to be on the same ones that have the regular activities I'm going to that she said she'd love to join (& I've invited her to join one of those two clubs). That's fine with me, since I can use the time to spin other plates or collect more, but that action said to me that her IL had dropped.
I went on the 4th date which went well, and we were heading back to her place (I checked out in advance with her and thought that her housemates wouldn't be there) after some heavy make-out in the park, with me expecting a good romp. When we got there, her housemates were home (hmm) and invited us along to a picnic. She's never met any of my friends and I wasn't too keen to meet hers that soon, but I went with it anyway and they were cool with me. However, she appeared cold (relatively to what she was before) all of a sudden & spent most of the time looking away from me. She never properly introduced me to others, just said I'm "a friend". In my experience, girls who had high IL in me were very enthusiastic when they introduced me to their friends. I thought maybe she was shy or whatever, so I just chilled with her housemates & their boyfriends (they were all in a relationship). We left together as she had to work, and as soon as we were a little further away from those people, she was holding hands and all that. WTF? My gut told me that something's up.
During the next month, I asked her out again 3 times, she rejected all of them saying that she's busy, with no counter-offer. By then I believed that her IL had really dropped and maybe she found a better offer elsewhere. Cool, so I dropped her priority on my list and focused on other plates. I ignored her on V-Day and went out with another plate instead. I thought that she'd have something lined up but on V-Day while I was at work, I noticed that she updated her Facebook status a number of times, complaining how busy she is working & saving up to go to Japan (in 6~12 months - I knew this and so never thought of her as a potential relationship). She's still complaining about how busy she is now. That to me meant that she had nothing on for V-Day and was probably quite pissed off.
Her behaviour from the 4th date onwards is very much like the ones playing hard to get, in my experience, but I'm wondering why she's doing it this late? Usually those game playing chicks would do it while withholding sex, but this one isn't really in a position to do that. My guess is that her girl friends are advising her to do this, likely without knowing that we had slept together a few times.
Anyway it doesn't really matter what the hell she's up to as I still have other plates and have acquired some potentials since then, so I'm kept busy and haven't contacted her for 2 weeks, but I'm curious to know why she's changed so quickly. I do like her body & energy in the bedroom but I can get over it.
I've had 4 dates in the last 3 months with this plate I'm spinning. I approached her at a festival, discovered that we have a friend in common (good friend of hers, just an acquaintaince of mine), hit it off quite well and her IL was going through the roof. She gave me her contact details without me really asking for it.
First date, "one thing led to another", and we were going at it until 5am when she had to get home to get ready for work. Second date, we went for a marathon that night and another one after we got up until nearly 5pm the next day. She's obsessed with the gym (similar to me with fitness training) & has a fantastic body & energy to match. Third date was a simple dinner then a stroll in the park on a week night after work, heavy makeout session & she said how much fun she's having when she's with me.
The fourth date was where the "fun" began. Between the 3rd & the 4th dates, she moved out of her parents' place and is now living with her female cousin & two girl friends. She was really busy with that, and I was going on holiday, so we didn't catch up for a month. When I got back, I arranged a date in her new area, which has some really good restaurants I want to check out. She still sounded very enthusiastic, but before the date happened, I noticed some not very good signs. I can't remember all of them, but the main one was that she rescheduled her two main gym nights to be on the same ones that have the regular activities I'm going to that she said she'd love to join (& I've invited her to join one of those two clubs). That's fine with me, since I can use the time to spin other plates or collect more, but that action said to me that her IL had dropped.
I went on the 4th date which went well, and we were heading back to her place (I checked out in advance with her and thought that her housemates wouldn't be there) after some heavy make-out in the park, with me expecting a good romp. When we got there, her housemates were home (hmm) and invited us along to a picnic. She's never met any of my friends and I wasn't too keen to meet hers that soon, but I went with it anyway and they were cool with me. However, she appeared cold (relatively to what she was before) all of a sudden & spent most of the time looking away from me. She never properly introduced me to others, just said I'm "a friend". In my experience, girls who had high IL in me were very enthusiastic when they introduced me to their friends. I thought maybe she was shy or whatever, so I just chilled with her housemates & their boyfriends (they were all in a relationship). We left together as she had to work, and as soon as we were a little further away from those people, she was holding hands and all that. WTF? My gut told me that something's up.
During the next month, I asked her out again 3 times, she rejected all of them saying that she's busy, with no counter-offer. By then I believed that her IL had really dropped and maybe she found a better offer elsewhere. Cool, so I dropped her priority on my list and focused on other plates. I ignored her on V-Day and went out with another plate instead. I thought that she'd have something lined up but on V-Day while I was at work, I noticed that she updated her Facebook status a number of times, complaining how busy she is working & saving up to go to Japan (in 6~12 months - I knew this and so never thought of her as a potential relationship). She's still complaining about how busy she is now. That to me meant that she had nothing on for V-Day and was probably quite pissed off.
Her behaviour from the 4th date onwards is very much like the ones playing hard to get, in my experience, but I'm wondering why she's doing it this late? Usually those game playing chicks would do it while withholding sex, but this one isn't really in a position to do that. My guess is that her girl friends are advising her to do this, likely without knowing that we had slept together a few times.
Anyway it doesn't really matter what the hell she's up to as I still have other plates and have acquired some potentials since then, so I'm kept busy and haven't contacted her for 2 weeks, but I'm curious to know why she's changed so quickly. I do like her body & energy in the bedroom but I can get over it.
