Is this messed up when the girl you're dating does this???

[Fadero]

I just had a graduation party and during the party, the girl I'm dating suddenly gets a phone call from her cousin (girl) and gets invited to go out clubbing for Saturday night. She said its going to be her cousin and two other girls only.

Regardless of who else is going, I feel that its messed up that she couldn't even stay longer than 2 hours at my college graduation party which comes one time in my lifetime. She said she will make it up to me with a day of our own to spend together and that I should just enjoy this evening with my family.

I want opinions here, if you guys were in my shoes. How would you feel? Was this messed up of her cutting out early to go clubbing? Or am I overreacting here? Lay it on me.

 

[3rdeye]

yeah dude thats no good at all.. she should be happy for you an you milestone day. an be with you for it. yeah an clubbing can happen any other night..but... the question is.
how long ahve you been goin out with this girl.. or r u just seeing her? im not sure on your situation, but that depends on how well you know her can make a big differnce.
let me know then maybe ill have a better answer.
peace

 

[Hot Ice]

Yeah, if you are in LTR with her, that was a b*tch deed to be done to you. That's not quite okay.
Why wouldn't she invite the other girls to your party instead? (in case the were a Party)

 

[marqZAL]

If she wanted to be with you...she would have fvcked your brains out for your graduation gift....so maybe she aint the one...dont be pissed...but dont invest emotions either..

 

[squirrels]

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I can see where she would be uncomfortable if it was just you, her, and your family. If it was a no-fun, tense situation, then maybe I can understand where she's coming from.

But then there's two ways you can take it. If you don't really care, or if she's just a short-term girl, just let it roll off your back...but maybe YOU can have other plans next time SHE wants to do something with YOU.

If you've been together for a while, or it really bugs you that she wasn't there for you, maybe you should consider the possibility of finding someone who WILL enjoy being with you and CAN dedicate the time.

If you feel you're being disrespected, don't tolerate it.

That's my 0.02...not that it's worth that much to anyone else.

 

[Fadero]

Let me clarify our relationship. We dated when we first met, was on & off for a duration of 2 years, but finally decided to get back together for good in a serious relationship just a month ago. We've known each other for 2.5 years and have been super close ever since. So its not like she feels uncomfortable around me or anything.

I'm outraged that she couldn't be with me on this special day. I know if I really cared for someone, I would totally be there for them during their grad party, regardless if I didn't really know a majority of the people there. The important fact is that I would be there for that special person.

Fact of the matter too, is that she was even late arriving to the party in the first place..and it seemed like she had no intentions on staying long because she was always attentive about her cel phone ringing with calls. I just felt as if her being at my party was not on her priority list for the day and that she had other "distractions" of being elsewhere. You know that vibe? You can tell they really wanna be somewhere else and they are whatevers with everything going on and quite fidgetty, until they get to leave. Yeah, thats what I was sensing from her.

After she left, she called me again when she was on her way to meet up with her friends to check in and let me know she was on her way to the club. She's going to call me again when she gets home from the club.

 

[Fadero]

I care. I'm not going to let her think what she did is ok with me. Part of living my life is putting a girl I care about in check. And I think that goes for all Don Juans here. You don't let girls walk all over you if you want the relationship to last.

 

[Pancho]

On and off for two years?

I hate these kinds of comments.....if something pulls you apart ONCE, then i dont think its worth going through it again. There is nothing more annoying than people who break up and get back together, then whine when something goes wrong again. If a chick leaves me once, its over. No excuses.

Its up to you...if you can live with the chick disrespecting you, then go right ahead. But she doesnt seem overly worth it to me.

Pancho

 

[tamales]

I agree with what everyone else says. Especially, the part about it being on and off and still trying to make it work. When an egg breaks it's broken forever.

Move On! I wouldn't waste one more minute. That was horrible. I would never do that to a bf. She should have been in a sexy little outfit, a big smile on her face and hell, I say been there before to help set up and afterwards to clean up...WTF?

But I do say, that when you speak to her next.. don't get all pissy and mad and yell and all. Keep your cool. i.e."you know what X, this isn't really going to work out." Don't go into the relationship and talk about what went wrong. Just end it. And you don't have to give her any explanation. SHe'll know and she doesn't deserve anymore of your time or to feel that you still dig her.

Good luck. Let us know what happened. Sorry she was such a **** but I hope you had a great party and congrats!

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Tried talking to her about it?


I get the feeling something must've been wrong. People don't usually do this sorta stuff unless they're total tossers.

Tell her you were pissed, but say it calmly (without doing any Jerry Springer stuff). She'll explain. If she can't, then she either has issues, or isn't worth it.

 

[gt95ab]

I have one word for you......... Priorities! And this girl definitely told you wear her priorities lie, and I don't think it is you. Sorry, bud, but I might think about moving on, but then again, thats just my 0.02 as well.

The ethical DJ - gt95ab

 

[rbd]

that's a red flag man. At the very least I'd say she's immature and not very empathic.

Robby

 

[Kwah]

Personally I dont really think is was that big of deal, but then again I dont take things like that very seriously. To me events mean nothing next to the persons feelings towards you, hence if you think shes not being fair, talk to her about it. Make sure you are the reasonable one at the very least and for gods sake dont get mad at her while talking to her.

Personally I would let it slide, but I'm the most laid back person I've ever met.