Is this a test, or she's being real?? Plz help me

Lostwithoutacost

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This situation, i dont know what to do, and to let you guys view this as first hand as possible, i will write as detailed as i can.

There's this girl i met for half a year now from a friend of a friend of mine. We mostly meet on msn, and when we talk we talked for hours, literally hours, and almost always with webcams on too so we see eachother. The first thing she does when she wakes up is msn with me, and probably won't leave until she has to go somehwere or has to sleep at night. Whenever she has free time, it's msn with me.

We go out usually once a week, just hanging out or for movies. But the problem is, when we hang out there's usually one of her friends there as well. You can't get that "Alone with Her" feeling. We admitted that we like eachother a lot about two months ago, but we still haven't gone on an official date. But when we hang out, even with her friends, she likes to be close to me, or maybe start some slight body contacts with me on the arms or legs, similar to kino, and i do the same back. But the problem is, she does that to some of her closest male friends as well that she've known for three years.

Just two weeks ago we watched kingdom of heaven, with one of her friends as well. She sat in the middle between her friend and i. I fought with her for the arm rest in the seat to increase tension, she gave up in frustrations and put her arm on top of mine instead to use it as the arm rest i took from her. During the middle of the movie she leaned her seat close to me, and i did the same until our heads r quite close, then she put her head on my shoulder. But her friend looked our way and she quickly sat up straight again, because she doesn't want her friends to know this attraction between us.

About her history now, she's those gentle, fun loving but also humerous type, don't like ****y guys. She had some very obsessive crushes though, she has crushes on guys easily. Some of her best friends r guys as well, so it's not abnormal being a guy and be her best friend.

Just yesterday on the phone, she told me that she likes me because im funny, nice and there's just something about me but she couldn't really explain it.

This fri we r suppose to be watching star wars without her friends, just us two, probably our first unofficial date. Because we didn't call it a date, but it's the first time we hang out without anyone else, just us two.

But then just now she told me some of her friends want to see it too, and they may come. I asked her, why would u want friends to come to our date. She said, it's not really a date though....

I said to her, then would u like this to be a date? She answered, not really. Then she explained how she doesnt really feel me as a potential bf now, but just a close or best friend. She hasn't felt like that to me for some time now. I asked her, then why did you put your head on my shoulder in the movie, she said because her head was tired, and my shoulder felt comfortable.

I asked her, then what about the stuff you said on the phone about me, that you like me a lot because im nice and funny and there's just something about me. She answered she didn't know what else to say so she lied a bit. And now she only wants me as a cloes or best friend now, and she doesn't like me as a potential bf like before.

Please, tell me, is this a test of somekind, or she's being real.
 

Porky

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you waited too long. move on.
 

Roobs

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Hit On Her freinds, or Just other chiks when shes around....Either she'll get jealous fast and compete with the other Chicks for u....or if she has no interest at all in you, she wont really mind, but then the other chicks will try and compete with her for you......

Think about it.. win win....
 

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I agree with Roobs. Quit being available to her. If she messages you on msn, leave without saying anything or just simply say "g2g, ttyl" If she asks you to go watch a movie, say that you have other plans or that you're going to see it just with your buds or something. Hit on her friends, tell her that you think she'd make a good friend too. That'll get her wondering and scared maybe that she'll lose her chances with you. Once you get in that "friend" stage it is hard to get out. I have done it though and am with this girl presently. It can be done, you just need the right formula. If you really like this girl, then next time you are with her, then get her alone and you gotta make your move. Show her what she could be missing out on. You need to get that spark going though before it's too late.
 
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