Is this a sign of interest

[TheGambino]

Yo bro's

I went to the gym, had to fix something about an payment to with the lady behind the desk. Saw her before but never showed interested or chatted for to long. Anyway she helped me out, she did stuff she didn't have to do to fix the payment problem, she could refuse me that day and wait untill I paid my month fee. When she checked my details she found out I live in the same nearby village as her. She says ''thats so weird I never saw you there''

Anyway I went training and she laughed a couple of times. At the end of the training I was waiting for my friend to pick me up (he borrowed my car in the meantime). She passed with her car, stopped and asked me if I needed ride home. I refused and she said '' are you sure!?'' and I refused again.

HB8, very in shape, I like her.

(Yes I spin plates, yes im outcome independant)

 

[marmel75]

Stop wasting time looking for signs of interest and go for what you want. The only true indicator of interest is if she ends up naked in your bed.

Why didn't you get her number and/or invite her out on the spot? It gets old reading about dudes that have opportunities they refuse to take advantage of.

 

[Serenity]

I don't think it's interest signs. She helped you out because it's her job. She offered to give you a ride because she knows you're going the same way and saw you just waiting there. I think she was just being nice and confident.

 

[dustmuffin]

Just ask her out. Then you will know.

 

[KingBeef]

I don't think it's interest signs. She helped you out because it's her job. She offered to give you a ride because she knows you're going the same way and saw you just waiting there. I think she was just being nice and confident.

That is a possibility but young women (in general) are not going to go out of their way to be nice and offer you a ride as a stranger unless they have some attraction to you...but again, you didn't seize the opportunity right then and there to know for sure.

This situation sounds like a carbon copy of our classic "most obvious missed opportunity" thread.

Your gut did or should've told you something. You wouldn't be posting here if it didn't. But if your still interested by all means ask her out. Don't leave any lingering doubts.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

I don't think a girl is offering to give a ride home to someone she isn't at least somewhat interested in.

Should have taken her up on it though, it would have built up some momentum for you in her eyes and you could have gotten a chance to know her and talk to her, pretty much an insta-date The fact you rejected her twice probably wasn't good either haha.

 

[Yewki]

Yo bro's

I went to the gym, had to fix something about an payment to with the lady behind the desk. Saw her before but never showed interested or chatted for to long. Anyway she helped me out, she did stuff she didn't have to do to fix the payment problem, she could refuse me that day and wait untill I paid my month fee. When she checked my details she found out I live in the same nearby village as her. She says ''thats so weird I never saw you there''

Anyway I went training and she laughed a couple of times. At the end of the training I was waiting for my friend to pick me up (he borrowed my car in the meantime). She passed with her car, stopped and asked me if I needed ride home. I refused and she said '' are you sure!?'' and I refused again.

HB8, very in shape, I like her.

(Yes I spin plates, yes im outcome independant)

Wow. OP not only did you fail to make a move, you also wouldn't even give her the chance to do it for you. You rejected her offer to give you a ride? Twice??

And now you're here asking, "Was she interested?"

Holy sh*t.

From her perspective you're either gay or not interested.

 

[marmel75]

Wow. OP not only did you fail to make a move, you also wouldn't even give her the chance to do it for you. You rejected her offer to give you a ride? Twice??

And now you're here asking, "Was she interested?"

Holy sh*t.

From her perspective you're either gay or not interested.

Amazing isn't it? This is what happens when you are not prepared at all times.

 

[phil2015]

Heres my two cents worth.....

"Was it a sign of interest?"

We shall never know....could've been, may not have been...point is you didn't follow through

Next time, accept the lift, then offer her to come in for a smoothie/water/protein shake/orange juice...... If she'd have accepted that then you'd have known for sure...

I cannot help but think you could have closed this straight away

 

[Serenity]

That is a possibility but young women (in general) are not going to go out of their way to be nice and offer you a ride as a stranger unless they have some attraction to you...but again, you didn't seize the opportunity right then and there to know for sure.

This situation sounds like a carbon copy of our classic "most obvious missed opportunity" thread.

Your gut did or should've told you something. You wouldn't be posting here if it didn't. But if your still interested by all means ask her out. Don't leave any lingering doubts.

Some women are just nice without putting anything special into it. I'll agree they're rare, but they do exist. You're right that generally women don't do it, but not every woman do like most others. Based on OP's description I don't find anything to indicate attraction, just a girl being cool.

I too could offer a ride to someone of the opposite sex that I just met who I know is going the same place, if they seemed ok. Without that meaning anything romantic or sexual.

 

[marmel75]

Some women are just nice without putting anything special into it. I'll agree they're rare, but they do exist. You're right that generally women don't do it, but not every woman do like most others. Based on OP's description I don't find anything to indicate attraction, just a girl being cool.

I too could offer a ride to someone of the opposite sex that I just met who I know is going the same place, if they seemed ok. Without that meaning anything romantic or sexual.

The point is all we are doing is speculating when OP had the chance to actually find out. He was not prepared and got caught with his pants down. Or in this case, pants up.

Either way, May have been, May not have been. Instead of him wondering and us going back and forth speculating, he should have followed through on a possible lead until he found out if it would be a productive one.

 

[TheGambino]

Ty for the feedback. I see her every saturday at the gym. Ill follow up

 

[Alvafe]

well if the only reason a girl would offer you a ride is if she is interested, damn I have alot of girls who are interested in me

but serious he could in some way to salvage it and just ask her out, wondering on past chances wil jsut drive you mad, learn from it and

 

[Yewki]

Ty for the feedback. I see her every saturday at the gym. Ill follow up

If a girl insists that you get in the van... f*ck what your parents taught you, get in the van

 

[guru1000]

I personally never think about/analyze their interest in me. I focus solely on MY desire for them.

Yup. If more men cared only about their own interest rather than protecting their fragile ego--and acted shamelessly in their interest--they would be swimming in pvzzy.

DJ wisdom comes in knowing when to pursue--and--when to let go (as it is a lost cause or in an effort to reopen at a later time) .

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Some women are just nice without putting anything special into it. I'll agree they're rare, but they do exist. You're right that generally women don't do it, but not every woman do like most others. Based on OP's description I don't find anything to indicate attraction, just a girl being cool.

Actually I have female friends that have their own good jobs and they are actually pretty "nice".

I too could offer a ride to someone of the opposite sex that I just met who I know is going the same place, if they seemed ok. Without that meaning anything romantic or sexual.[/QUOTE]

I personally never think about/analyze their interest in me. I focus solely on MY desire for them.

It's a lot better if they have a stronger desire for you than you them. I guess your just concerned if your phucking them and that's sign enough that things are ok.

 

[Serenity]

One thing is for sure. Interpreting every goddamn little thing is a b!tch, what happened to the carefree attitude of just seeing how it goes down. That good old outcome independence, thinking it's gonna be fine no matter what happens.

 

[marmel75]

I personally never think about/analyze their interest in me. I focus solely on MY desire for them.

Exactly the way it should be...always assume they are interested until they show you they are not.

 

[marmel75]

One thing is for sure. Interpreting every goddamn little thing is a b!tch, what happened to the carefree attitude of just seeing how it goes down. That good old outcome independence, thinking it's gonna be fine no matter what happens.

People are so scared of rejection and their precious ego's being bruised, they won't make a move until they've triple and quadruple checked to make sure a girl has 95% sure interest in them

 

[Serenity]

People are so scared of rejection and their precious ego's being bruised, they won't make a move until they've triple and quadruple checked to make sure a girl has 95% sure interest in them

It seems people on this board has forgotten the old wisdom in the DJ bible and Book of Pook. When it comes to women safety is a poison (within reason) and risk is the cure. They've forgotten the goal of being egoless, to not let sh!t like rejection define them.

What the fvck is this sh!t about holding back? It's women ffs, not sharks. They'll say no and that's about it, not bite our fvcking heads off. It's ridicoulous that so called men act like they're dealing with sharks instead of cute girls. Even women have more balls, they haven't gained more balls, some men just seem to have lost theirs.

By the time a man figures out a womans interest level it's likely too late, she's tired of waiting for an idiot without balls. Their attraction increases as the man engages in any activity with her, it decreases as long as he doesn't because he's wasting his fvcking time thinking (doing absolutely nothing).