Is this a sh*t test?

[bridgetoofar]

My girlfriend of 7 months threw a temper tantrum in the car on our way to get lunch and study. I asked her what was bothering her. She said I was annoying her by disagreeing with things she said. She pouted the whole time, so I said "You don't seem very happy. Should I just take you home?" She said yes, so I dropped her ass off and said, "Let me know when you want to be nice to me again."

It's been 2 days now, and we haven't talked.

I just plan on waiting for her to reach out to me. Am I being unreasonable? How do you handle these situations? Is this just her testing me? We've never had any really big arguments before.

 

[051AV]

There was something you did long before this little episode she displayed this has been brewing up for a while, how old are you two? Just let her stew on it, I wouldn't contact her, if you've haven't had any big arguments she feels things are going too smoothly so she's starting some drama. If she wants you she will come crawling back if she doesn't she wasn't for you.

 

[bridgetoofar]

That's my plan. And I think she gets testy like this when she feels like things are going well.

She does have a tough exam coming up, and I think the holidays are stressing her out too. But I feel disrespected when she won't communicate her feelings with me, especially if she's upset.

 

[051AV]

That's my plan. And I think she gets testy like this when she feels like things are going well.

She does have a tough exam coming up, and I think the holidays are stressing her out too. But I feel disrespected when she won't communicate her feelings with me, especially if she's upset.

Must be a Scorpio woman lol, all you can do is let her come to you.

 

[bridgetoofar]

Do women usually do this kind of thing?

 

[sazc]

That's my plan. And I think she gets testy like this when she feels like things are going well.

She does have a tough exam coming up, and I think the holidays are stressing her out too. But I feel disrespected when she won't communicate her feelings with me, especially if she's upset.

Agreed, let her stew. You are one thousand percent correct in your standard for needing adult communication from her. She will keep pulling this on you if she doesn't learn how to identify what's really going on with her, figure out what she needs from you, and then ASK for that from you.

Of she can't get it together and learn how to adult, moving on might be a good call.

 

[bridgetoofar]

On one hand, I feel bad just dropping her off and leaving her like that. But on the other hand, it's not much fun for me to be around her if she's going to be pissy and not talk about what's bothering her. We've been in a relationship for a while now, so I feel like this might be the first real power play she's making. If she doesn't reach out to me after a few days, what do you all think I should do?

 

[narcissist]

Do not contact her. At all. Even if it is a week. She will come back.

 

[DamnSon]

Is she spiteful? I'd always be worried when the no contact and distance starts..like "ah **** this guy then he doesn't care about me let me see what this other dude is about who's been talking me up making me feel special"

 

[Roober]

Sounds like you may not have approached it right. Whatever happened that day was not the issue, it was something else. Sometimes you have to dig it out of them and that it what they want... At this point, you can only do it when she re-initiates...

 

[dude99]

My girlfriend of 7 months threw a temper tantrum in the car on our way to get lunch and study. I asked her what was bothering her. She said I was annoying her by disagreeing with things she said. She pouted the whole time, so I said "You don't seem very happy. Should I just take you home?" She said yes, so I dropped her ass off and said, "Let me know when you want to be nice to me again."

It's been 2 days now, and we haven't talked.

I just plan on waiting for her to reach out to me. Am I being unreasonable? How do you handle these situations? Is this just her testing me? We've never had any really big arguments before.

Her interest is falling.

When chicks start to lose interest, you suddenly become annoying. They suddenly become moody. That and they can only be on their best behaviour for so long. 7 months what you are actually witnessing is the real her come out. This behaviour will become more common.

You handled it perfectly. Do not put up with the bull**** behaviour. Dtop her off at home and soft next her until she smartens up.

If this doesn't fix it then dump her. She has taken the mask off.