is this a good sign?

[revivedjcy]

Just need some advice on this situation...

Last week, my coworker came into work at the clinic, and since there weren't anyone coming in, we just shot the breeze and chatted pretty much the entire time. Previously, she had given me some strange vibes and had initiated some kino.

As she was about to leave work, she rubbed my arm and said goodbye. Since I was helping someone, I just asked her to wait up so that I could walk her to her car. She said yes enthusiastically. I walked her to her car and chatted along the way, and I thought to myself, maybe I should ask her out for a drink. Before I could say anything, she said that we should get together sometimes to grab a drink. That surprised the hell out of me, and I was speechless for some time, and before I recovered, she drove off already. I think I said sure to her offer, but I never got the chance to set the time and date. Did I blow it? And is she interested or was it just a friendly thing to ask people to grab a drink?

 

[Jariel]

If you like her you should go for the drink regardless and you will find out if she's interested.

 

[Pancho84]

I cant believe you are asking this question.. what do you want her to give you a gift certificate to take her out.. WAKE UPPPP hellooooooooo knock knooooock.. lol
she wants you... and you should find a good way to ask her out SOON

 

[revivedjcy]

Thanks for the wake up call Pancho84. I guess now the tough part is finding a way to ask her out...

 

[johnny_chase]

AHHHHHHHHHH! DUDE! Stop using your brain right now! well, at least right after you finish reading this! You havent done anything to blow it! she's interested in you! She has already let you know she's interested

Just ask, no tell her, one day at the beggining of the day "today, we are going to xxx, to get some drinks and relax after a long day of work together"

boom. work it from there

 

[Pancho84]

here you go
find out where the nearest comedy club is at. Make some reservations. Make sure its a good comedy club, better yet an IMPROV club, one where the comedy is made on the spot, its improvised they are the best. Go up to her and tell her:

Hey I think I'm gonna take you on that offer to catch a drink.... but.... even better, I know of a great comedy club and I would like you to come check it out with me. Show starts at XX on friday...

when you say that dont say ANYTHING ELSE, JUST LOOK AT HER AND SMILE.... dont say anything like "what do you say" or "how does that sound?" NONE OF THAT.
Thou shall be pleasantly surprised..

I promise she'll say yes... and if for some reason she cant on that specific night and if shes interested and not so shy, she'll offer a better time for you two to go out.... make sure you find out all the performance times so maybe the other performances fall within her schedule but make sure they fall within yours too.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Originally posted by Pancho84
I cant believe you are asking this question.. what do you want her to give you a gift certificate to take her out.. WAKE UPPPP hellooooooooo knock knooooock.. lol
she wants you... and you should find a good way to ask her out SOON

LoL. Man, haven't we all been there at one time or another? You should read up the thread on the most obvious sign that was missed. Not only should you read it, you should enter this one.

You don't even have to ask her out. If you run into her at work enough, you can just hang out like you did, and make sure you make her confortable in the personal zone. No need to set up a big date or plan too much. If you make her seek you out a little, it will drive her crazy, and you can take advantage.

Next time this comes up or when you both are free at the end of the day, just tell her, "let's go to XYZ bar" "lets go to get coffee", it really doesn't matter where or when, what matters is that you are getting closer and making her yearn for you.

 

[revivedjcy]

"You don't even have to ask her out. If you run into her at work enough, you can just hang out like you did, and make sure you make her confortable in the personal zone. No need to set up a big date or plan too much. If you make her seek you out a little, it will drive her crazy, and you can take advantage."


I am a bit of a novice at this... But is it a good idea not to ask her out soon in order for her to yearn a bit more? I mean she has dropped several hints in the past wanting to go out for some drinks, but I just remained cool about it until now. But I see some merits in that idea.

But the comedy club thing does sound like a great idea! Thanx Pancho84