1.Doesnt matter when you call.
2.Doesnt matter where u go.
3.Refer to 1 and 2.
Holding hands is fine as long as you transition, holding hands to hugging to kissing to making out to foreplay to sex. You can do these as slow as u want, spread them out, try all at one time, w/e doesnt matter. Just relax bro your there to have fun with her.