Is this a crazy way to run your marriage?

azanon

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2006 called...., they want their article back :)

Someone's posted that article before at least once. I'm too lazy to find the existing thread on it. It was a good article though.
 

Jeffst1980

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The article makes some good points, but the writer sounds like a real arrogant a$$hole. I had to read this paragraph twice:

"Last Christmas, my wife threw me out after discovering I'd been cheating on her. On the night we got back together, I made strong, passionate love to her. Unfaithful as I'd been, I was not going to let her have me over a barrel for the rest of our marriage. I needed to keep a sense of self and not allow her to mire me in guilt and a desperate quest of forgiveness.

I needed to let her know what she would be missing if we broke up for ever. I gave her a manful bravura performance that night, and at the height of her passion, I asked her: 'Who's the boss?'"

---WTF was that??


Check out this link:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=456237&in_page_id=1879

Looks like she divorced him after all. To quote her:

"Our marriage was, on reflection, a very modern one. I am 14 years older than him. When we met I was earning a huge salary as the editor of a glossy magazine and owned my home after 20 years on the property ladder; he was an intern on a local radio station."

How can he be the dominant one when she's giving him an allowance?
 

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this article is like listening to George Bush talk about energy efficiency while at the same time being in the back pocket of the oil companies.

while 99% of what this guy says makes sense, ultimately he's a total hypocrite. he trashes women but then talks about how he basically acts like a woman - he cheats on his woman, dominates her 'whos the boss', etc.

being a man wh*re is NOT the same as being a man. the ONLY reason this guy thinks being a man wh*re is the same as being a man is that he compares himself to weak little beta males.

real men are true to their word and don't sacrifice their principles. they dont have to 'cheat' to let a woman know that they won't be pushed around. they don't need a 'back up woman' to keep their woman in line. these are the tactics that WOMEN use to keep men in line.

but the general point of not letting a woman push you around is good. the authors means for doing so are horrible and make him just as pathetic as the beta males he criticizes.

moreover, his wife staying with him after he cheated, and even admitting that he's 'the boss' means two things:

1) she a silly little woman who has no idea what she wants and has little self respect.
2) while he thinks he's gained the upper hand on her, check back with them in 5-10 years. i guarantee that he's living in hell.

when you screw someone over, they may act like its all forgive and forget, because they, for whatever the reason, aren't strong enough to live life without you. but in the long term, don't fool yourself, at some point in life there will be a period where they have the upper hand, where they feel strong enough to make you pay, and suddenly they will turn on you and make you pay for past transgressions.

so while this article has some good points, ultimately at its core its very misguided.
 

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Great article.

I especially liked this quote

Rather than pander to them, they simply watch them drift by like so many clouds on the horizon. They don't get entangled in a woman's feelings and listen to her prattling on and on until she's talked herself out. Such strong and stoic men are exactly what women need to anchor themselves amid the chaos of their emotions.
Sums up my thoughts about how women attach themselves to a man, and how a man MUST be a rock, and carry much of the strength for both of them. And this is all regardless of what women SAY they want. Every woman needs an anchor.
 
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