Is there something wrong with me?

[neobrood]

Some stuff I learned from this site are:

- Not to be attatched to woman too much... or else you risk getting played.
- Not to praise and compliment her too much
- Not to call her up every single day
- To keep options open. Keep saying "hi" and keep flirting with other women... so as to have lesser risk of being attatched to her...
- Learn to be confident in talking to strangers
- Its not what you say but how you say it
- You are the prize. You arent supposed to bow to the woman. You are the alpha male.
- Be ****y and funny...
- and many other things i mustve forgot to mention... ... ...
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But... I think I'm heading down a path in where I'm starting to learn NOT TO LOVE.

I swear... These days, I've been getting less and less attatched to even my own family members.

After meeting different kinds of women, how come I think they're all BORING and TYPICAL and not on my standards? I'm the prize to be won eh? Everyone just target practice for my "dj skills" eh?

How come all of a sudden when I'm puttin up a DJ attitude... Being ****y and funny and all... Why is it that everyone seems to like me? Huh? Suddenly I'm the star of the show. Suddenly women are liking me...

But when the show is over... "Why?!? Wtf are those people?!? If I swear that if I met them 6 months ago, they woulda not have liked me!!! Omg... why is it that when I changed my attitude, she got more friendly to me and keeps on sticking on my a$$?!? But before I put up all this DJ attitude, why was she avoiding me like the plague?!? Will nobody ever like me for WHAT I REALLY AM?!? So how will I have my revenge? Be a player? Play with the emotions of women just as I've been played by one before?!? Use and manipulate people so I get what I want?!?"


***Just some piece of thought I wanna share. I'm all alone in my room right now... kinda feeling depressed. Wtf... I'm faced with a new kind of depression?!? Before, I used to get depressed about why the hell do people dont like me?!? Now, I'm havin another problem... I wanna find out who would really like me for what I really am....

 

[RedZone122]

holy SHlT dude - you hit the nail right on the head! I'm in the same situation... I honestly have lost passion for so many people now - it's like everyone's secretly inferior to me and I'm the only one that knows it - its almost like the Matrix when Neo is shown what the world REALLY is, and he has no idea what to make of it - PLEASE someone show me what to do with myself!

 

[WaterTiger]

You haven't "lost passion for people", you've stopped worrying about what they think. You've stopped worrying "Oh God, do they like me?". This is a GOOD thing! Don't let it freak you out.

Now when you meet a new person, instead of jumping through hoops to make them be your pal, now you are sitting back and thinking..."Is this a person I want to hang out with?"

You are becoming objective and selective. You probably ARE a little superior to most others you meet because they don't have the same mindset. Your confidence is growing and people are noticing.

You're becoming DJ's! Get used to it.

 

[RedZone122]

Bump - More People should read this / give input

 

[NewMan]

It's probably because the real you is boring....

You put the DJ attitude on = confidence.

i.e. You r going to live your life - you don't care what everyone else thinks - your your own man.

That's a DJ - you do your thing for yourself not for someone else.


The reason why people like you, is because they are unhappy with themselves. They want to be like you - they want the DJ mindset. The I'm happy - I'm cool - I'm going somewhere.

They don't get it - so they want to be close to it.

You see all the AFC's who hang onto the hot chicks - because they want a hot chick - they are so depserate to be close to these hotties they will ANYTHING....

Well the DJ minset is, that you don't need these girls to live life and enjoy. You don't need anyone.

That what hot chicks lack - they are (generally) so wrapped up in their own vanity and looks, that they are shallow - they are searching for happiness to. They see the confidence and happiness in you and your attitude and they are attracted to that.

 

[smooth666]

Originally posted by neobrood
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But... I think I'm heading down a path in where I'm starting to learn NOT TO LOVE.

I swear... These days, I've been getting less and less attatched to even my own family members.

After meeting different kinds of women, how come I think they're all BORING and TYPICAL and not on my standards? I'm the prize to be won eh? Everyone just target practice for my "dj skills" eh?

Will nobody ever like me for WHAT I REALLY AM?!? So how will I have my revenge? Be a player? Play with the emotions of women just as I've been played by one before?!? Use and manipulate people so I get what I want?!?"[/i]

I wanna find out who would really like me for what I really am.... [/B]

I think this is one of the most important thoughts I heard in a while on this board.

It was a "paradigm shift" (Steven Covey) for me to realize that the same people treat you like **** (when you are depressed or an AFC) or like a god (when you feel great or confident).
It is not your problem that people suplicate to you when you are confident and pull **** on you when you feel depressed. It is their problem. Is one of the very sad aspects of human psychology. Most people do not act but react to your state of mind. Do not feel angry with people and seek revenge, it is just human nature.

Further i think that confidence has to do with distance. You can only be really confident if you have a little distance to yourself,others and what is happening to you. As such if you are confident you are slightly more cold-hearted than if you get emotionally involved in everything. You do better with people if you keep a little distance. With close friends and family members you do not need this distance and you should feel more warmth automatically.