Originally posted by RedGTP
Thanks for the replies everyone. Jack and Rollo, I agree with you but....
Unfortunately, I have not had sex with her since she's way too conservative. I know this causes a bonding issue and moves towards the LJBF zone which is why I've had to take it slowly with her using kino so I can "break her" down. (Her last BF was gay. I wonder if she goes out with them so there would be no sex involved. It's also her ethnic background which makes her conservative.)
There was a 3 week gap between date#5 and date#6 since she actually visited NY for a week during her current job shutdown period and I was sick another week. My theory is during that gap she was probably waiting for a job response and didn't want to get any closer to me, but since she didn't get a response, she had a date#6 with me and we got closer on this date. She seemed very happy to see me, more so on this date than any other.
On date#6 she talked about applying to other jobs, but in the Boston area. Then 4 days later this stupid phone thing came up so she probably got excited again. She's talked about "future events" with me so I'm thinking that if she blows this interview I doubt she'd apply again in NY. My fear is that she won't blow it, then what?
IMO if you're 34 and successfully employed, then you should be settled in life by now and not looking to apply for jobs and keep starting life over and over again. I mean geez, if you keep moving around like that, when are you gonna start to want to be with someone... at 50? LOL. I know 6 dates is nothing compared to a year but it's going somewhere, why blow it on some stupid job? By the time she settles in she'll be like 36. I'm pretty sure just like everyone else, she'd eventually move back here cuz everyone always comes back, then she'll be 39 and breaking up with the new guy she'd be seeing in NY cuz why would he move and then say buh bye to having kids. Aaaaahhh! LOL.
BINGO! Your first paragraph speaks VOLUMES!!! If you havent fukked her by date six, you are in the hated and dreaded "LJBF" Zone. Women love to have platonic male friends. It's like having a boyfriend, but without having to get naked for him, perform fellatio, and allow him to climax in her vagina and anal canal! See, she gets all the benefits of male companionship without having to put out. Why you are bothering to pursue a sexually frigid/uninterested woman is beyond me, but then again, lots of men on this website seem to really dig the "LJBF" zone.
"Her last boyfriend was gay" Wow. Talking about some issues. This woman is either terrified of sex, or is one of these weird women who is into homosexual "Fem-Boys" she loves to hang around gay men, and fall in love with them, as she knows that she wont have to worry about anything entering her vagina with a gay man. He doesnt want to remove her thong, he wants to borrow it!
Sorry, I dont buy the Ethnic Background bull$hit. I have fukked women of many different religions, while not married to them, and their legs wrapped around my torso, and pulled me in closer as they reached orgasm, regardless of ethnicity.
A three week gap between dates 5 and 6. ***NEWSFLASH!*** This woman isnt into you. There will be no relationship.
You can start over at life at any age. There is no set law that says you MUST be established at the age she is at. Oh, sure it's nice, but she may be bored with her job/profession, and may be seeking a little adventure. Good for her.
But thats career wise. As far as the dating scene, it sounds to me like she could care the fukk less about the biological clock. At this point, she probably doesnt want to bother with a screaming baby, s****ting all over the place, watery, green baby crap, and screaming at 4am sick with colic, when she can be partying in NYC at the same time with her gay friends! But, at 39-40, her options as far as landing a mate are indeed getting more limited. She cannot really afford to be super picky IF SHE WANTS A MATE. Sounds to me like she hasnt the slightest fukking interest in a bonafide boyfriend, when she has gay men friends, and platonic guys like you, and a Shaquille O-Neal sized black toy at home with 5 speeds to fullfill her "other needs"
