Is she trying to turn the tables on me?

[BrockLee74]

This woman has been chasing me for a while now. I have acted aloof and indifferent. 3 weeks ago I finally displayed interest with a kiss. She got all sweaty, red in the face and smiley. But she also got tongue tied. At first I thought she was either embarrassed and/or uncomfortable, but she continued to touch and kiss me through the night.

I get a text the next day telling me how great it was to see me. She had some stuff to do and would call me. I told her that would be great.

A week and a half passes. No contact. I get an email from her saying she and her parents went to their house in Florida. She will be back in a couple days and will call me.

Another week and a half passes. Today I get a call from her. She apologized for taking so long. I said that is fine, no worries. But she insisted on explaining. She gave me a bunch of excuses.

We move on to other topics, she suggested we work out a time to hang out. I tell her that will be great and to let me know what her schedule is. At the end of the call she says "Look, I am sorry I didn't call. I am terrible about calling. Maybe you can call me from now on."

So I now wonder, is she trying to switch things around, have me chase her? Was this really a game waiting to see when/if I would call?

 

[Justin Time]

Pretty much sounds like what it is. It's hard to tell since you are the one expressing what happened with your ideals already embedded, but she might think you weren't getting the message. She wants you to want her as much as she wants you.

 

[Purefilth]

This woman has been chasing me for a while now. I have acted aloof and indifferent. 3 weeks ago I finally displayed interest with a kiss. She got all sweaty, red in the face and smiley. But she also got tongue tied. At first I thought she was either embarrassed and/or uncomfortable, but she continued to touch and kiss me through the night.

I get a text the next day telling me how great it was to see me. She had some stuff to do and would call me. I told her that would be great.

A week and a half passes. No contact. I get an email from her saying she and her parents went to their house in Florida. She will be back in a couple days and will call me.

Another week and a half passes. Today I get a call from her. She apologized for taking so long. I said that is fine, no worries. But she insisted on explaining. She gave me a bunch of excuses.

We move on to other topics, she suggested we work out a time to hang out. I tell her that will be great and to let me know what her schedule is. At the end of the call she says "Look, I am sorry I didn't call. I am terrible about calling. Maybe you can call me from now on."

So I now wonder, is she trying to switch things around, have me chase her? Was this really a game waiting to see when/if I would call?

She wants to be chased - thats fine, you do the calling. Only call when you need to though, dont do the 1hr before bed calls.

If her IL drops, then you'll have a chance to worry about calls.

Just carry on,ask her out, date her , take her to bed. Dont go outsmarting yourself and overanalysing.

 

[Jay kay]

It's really hard to tell whether she is telling the truth or trying to get you to chase her. There is no real indication, but whatever you do...don't make a big deal out of it. Give her a call, chat for a minute and then arrange to meet up with her again. If she makes excuses then don't waste your time waiting for her to apologies or call you again. SOLUTION: Go out and meet other women, expand your social circle of friends, that means make friends with the hottest girls in the bar, "yes be there friend" but let them know you seeking other women to I do this a lot when I go out, chat to girls like i would with my buddies and then invite them out to join us for a drink at the weekend. Do this with enough girls and it will be easy to hook up with their friends. I've gone on a bunch of dates using this method alone. Best of luck bro!

 

[BrockLee74]

I never had a chance! We had very few moments alone that night we last saw each other. I took advantage of them the best I could. When she says "I will call you", I take that as "Don't call me, I will call you." So I waited. After the first week and a half I assumed she lost interest and I felt the momentum was gone.

 

[Sandow]

You are way too compromising. She wants you to teach her a lesson and have your way with her. That's why she keeps apologizing, she trying to get that aggression out of you. If you continue to be soft, she'll seek it from someone else.

 

[jeffreylebowski]

Yeah man I think she just wants you to sack up and ask her out on a firm date. I don't know about teaching her a lesson or anything...but I think she does want you to man up and get her out just take the lead. When she says she wants to work out a time to get together, don't ask what her schedule is. Say you're free on x date or y date this next week.

Aloof and indifference worked well...she's shown interest. Now you have to do something about it. Chicks want you to show some interest.

In any case, the only thing to do is to ask her out...she balks or whatever...then next and you can stop spinning your wheels.

If she wasn't interested, she wouldn't bother apologizing and insisting on explaining.

 

[Trump]

This woman has been chasing me for a while now. I have acted aloof and indifferent.

Hate those words. Is aloof and indifferent sexy? Or is it better strike while the iron is hot?

3 weeks ago I finally displayed interest with a kiss. She got all sweaty, red in the face and smiley. But she also got tongue tied. At first I thought she was either embarrassed and/or uncomfortable, but she continued to touch and kiss me through the night.

I get a text the next day telling me how great it was to see me. She had some stuff to do and would call me. I told her that would be great.

Mistake bro. She shows that 'great' to her boyfriend to get him to buy her things. That 'great' means you are waiting for her call and she is starting to make your head spin.

A week and a half passes. No contact. I get an email from her saying she and her parents went to their house in Florida. She will be back in a couple days and will call me.

Bro she is already playing you and you didn't even respond. You have to call her on not calling you. Otherwise you are not paying attention.

Another week and a half passes. Today I get a call from her. She apologized for taking so long. I said that is fine, no worries. But she insisted on explaining. She gave me a bunch of excuses.


We move on to other topics, she suggested we work out a time to hang out. I tell her that will be great and to let me know what her schedule is. At the end of the call she says "Look, I am sorry I didn't call. I am terrible about calling. Maybe you can call me from now on."

So I now wonder, is she trying to switch things around, have me chase her? Was this really a game waiting to see when/if I would call?

Lol, what a girl. I would have said "maybe I can, but that would be mean you don't like me and Im a good ego fix. It would be less effort for you to pick up a phone than come up with all this literature explaining why you can't."

Next!

 

[Tomthebomb]

The whole fax that she was "chasing you" in the first place is pretty disturbing, it puts her in the male aggressive role and you in the submissive feminine one. It worked out ok I guess but this female obviously doesn't want to be the man in the relationship anymore ( and now it consists of two women. )

If a women does something you don't like, ie not calling when she said she would then this is a GOOD thing, it is a perfect early chance to establish boundaries. Pussies act aloof and indifferent when their boundaries are crossed, whereas men punish so it doesn't happen again, and tell her what she should do differently, and next time be the man in relationship from the beginning.

For now just stop being a prick to this poor girl who just wants your c.o.c.k inside her.

 

[VladPatton]

She did say she is bad at calling, so whether or not she wants you to chase her still is up in the air. Doesn't matter, just ask her out. It really is simple. You gotta strip it down to the core, to what really matters: are you going out with this chick? Are you having a fun time? Are you physically together? That's pretty much it. You can over-analyze things 1 million times, but that still won't get you near her panties. Just contact her with a purpose, and that is to set up a date.

If she büllṣhits you that she is busy, can't meet, her cat is sick, or her MeeMaw has the flu, then she doesn't wanna make things happen and you Next her. Get down to basics, it'll save you a ton of emotional stress as well as time. Good luck.

 

[Purefilth]

Not sure if she wants to be chased per say. Maybe our definitions simply differ. I've been around this place too long that "chase" kind of takes a negative connotation. I will say she definitely wants OP to grab his balls and ask her out on a FIRM date instead of saying "OK tell me when you're free." This is kiddie speak for "I am too shy to ask you out right now even though you are actually calling me, writing me emails, and getting nervous around me."

She has shown OBVIOUS signs of interest and comes back every time NC is initiated. Interest interest interest. Ask her out for cryin' out loud <---- not sure if that qualifies technically as being the "chaser."

Couldnt think of a better adjective - but you got my meaning.

She wants you to take lead is probably a better way to word it.