Is she playing a game?

[Floydispink01]

Hello Fellow SoSuavers,

I would like some advice please.

I’ve met a girl recently who is a 9/10 looks wise - Nice girl. Pay’s her way. Good sense of humour.

We’ve met up three times in the last month and I’ve taken her back to her place each time and we’ve had sex on each occasion. Both in the Night and the morning. Given her a good time in the bedroom so to speak. Enough to make her scream each time.

She does things for me also – makes breakfast, goes to the shops etc. So Far So good.

Last seen her last week. She initated some contact since and we have been texting back and forth. Nothing Major. No declaration of love or any soppy nonsense like that.

Now all of a sudden she has stopped messaging me. I haven’t double texted her or anything.

How do I proceed guys - Leave her be and next her…..or send her another message? I obviously like her but certainly don’t want to chase her. We live in different states - an hour apart by the way.

Thanks in advance.

 

[grayclif]

I would wait for her to contact me. In the meantime spin plates.

 

[Tictac]

If the last message was from you to her, especially if you have messaged her two or more times, wait to hear from her, forever if necessary.

Meantime, develop and exploit your options.

 

[RangerMIke]

I would wait for her to contact me. In the meantime spin plates.

This... don't worry about it. It's probibly a test, you contact her and you fail. She obviously likes you, she could just be busy... happens all the time. But I would like to know, what was the last thing you texted her?

 

[dustmuffin]

Its long distance....dont make a relationship out of it unless one of you is willing to move in say 6 months. It should be her not you.

 

[Bingo-Player]

ok first off you need to understand that you are NOT the only man in her life

girls are expert plate spinners and they are even better at making you feel like your the only guy that they suck d1ck like a pornstar for

most average - good looking women have around 8 plates on the go and then another 20 orbiters constanlty circling them when you arent giving her any attention

so in answer to your question , no shes no playing games shes playing THE GAME

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

She's got another man. Like someone once said your princess is in another castle. This is why you always have options. Don't text her just mess with other girls until she gets her mind right.

 

[Yewki]

I’ve met a girl recently who is a 9/10 looks wise

Take the rose tinted glasses off for a sec. Real talk? The reason she is going cold, and you even give a sh*t, is because you think she's a 9/10. When you start chasing another girl, this one will drop a few points.

Alright, glasses back on. Sit back and enjoy the show. It's going to be over soon.

 

[pyros]

1 she's not a 9.
2 she's more interested in another guy, or her pet died.
3 give her a call if you want. If she doesnt pick it up or doesnt text you, forget about her cause she's forgotten about you.

 

[Floydispink01]

Update.

The girl I mentioned replied back to me after a few days. I Played it nonchalantly the whole team. Teasing etc. gave her space.

Pinged a few messages back and forth then asked her out again. She agreed. Told her the time and place and never heard back from her for 4 days right up until the day of the date.

I thought fvck it. I let her go in my head and never messaged her. 2 hours before the time scheduled she said she will be there.

Met up, had fun. Made her laugh. Took her back to her place and fvcked her again.

Moral of the story - always let them go. Don't reactive to their 'silence' or bvll**** games.......and be playful of course when they do respond.

 

[Yewki]

Update.

The girl I mentioned replied back to me after a few days. I Played it nonchalantly the whole team. Teasing etc. gave her space.

Pinged a few messages back and forth then asked her out again. She agreed. Told her the time and place and never heard back from her for 4 days right up until the day of the date.

I thought fvck it. I let her go in my head and never messaged her. 2 hours before the time scheduled she said she will be there.

Met up, had fun. Made her laugh. Took her back to her place and fvcked her again.

Moral of the story - always let them go. Don't reactive to their 'silence' or bvll**** games.......and be playful of course when they do respond.

Based on what you wrote I'm guessing the text conversation for the date went something like this?
You: We should go out again
Her: Sure
You: Ok meet me at X place at Y time
No response for 4 days

I'm sure I'll get flamed for saying this, but I would have blown her off. Even knowing 100% that I'd get sex if I just went, I still wouldn't. Her loss. Personally, I'm not thirsty for sex at all. When a girl acts like her time is more important, I lose respect and interest. Even if I wasn't doing anything I would have responded, "Oh I didn't think you could make it, you didn't get back to me. I've made other plans and won't be able to go sadly." She'd either schedule the next date or she just wouldn't hear from me again.

 

[Berom]

@Floydispink01 - I think you lost your frame there in the beginning by doubting yourself, but I've got to hand it to you - you fixed it by putting yourself back in the center of things.

I hope people see that the OP didn't give up by saying "Oh well, if she wants to fvck me, it'll happen." (And it did. Right on!)

What happened was he lost his frame (it happens sometimes) but then he took control of it. When you begin to doubt yourself, you lost your frame and you aren't thinking correctly. Come back to the light.

OP - congrats, not on getting fvcked again, but learning the more important lesson through this situation.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Hello Fellow SoSuavers,

I’ve met a girl recently who is a 9/10 looks wise -

Where's the picture as proof?

Now all of a sudden she has stopped messaging me. I haven’t double texted her or anything.

How do I proceed guys - Leave her be and next her…..or send her another message? I obviously like her but certainly don’t want to chase her. We live in different states - an hour apart by the way.

You proceed by getting another chick.

 

[marmel75]

Hello Fellow SoSuavers,

I would like some advice please.

I’ve met a girl recently who is a 9/10 looks wise - Nice girl. Pay’s her way. Good sense of humour.

We’ve met up three times in the last month and I’ve taken her back to her place each time and we’ve had sex on each occasion. Both in the Night and the morning. Given her a good time in the bedroom so to speak. Enough to make her scream each time.

She does things for me also – makes breakfast, goes to the shops etc. So Far So good.

Last seen her last week. She initated some contact since and we have been texting back and forth. Nothing Major. No declaration of love or any soppy nonsense like that.

Now all of a sudden she has stopped messaging me. I haven’t double texted her or anything.

How do I proceed guys - Leave her be and next her…..or send her another message? I obviously like her but certainly don’t want to chase her. We live in different states - an hour apart by the way.

Thanks in advance.

Stop spending the night with women who aren't your girlfriend

 

[pyros]

She behaved the way she behaved because you're not her #1 man in her life.

I've had enough second class behaviour from women already, and as someone above said, I am not thirsty for sex and if I am I just jerk off and after that I see things more clear.

You got the sex. Good for you. But I would have not probably gone out with her again unless she had shown more interest. You know, I dont want to spend my time with a girl that just sees me as 'meh'.

 

[Floydispink01]

I appreciate the responses guys.

I realize that whether I'm her #1 man in her life or even her #10 man is irrelevant and beyond my control.

The only thing I can control is my emotions and how I behave with patience and acting within my frame. I've met her 4 times and had fun and success for myself each time. Some of you guys say you wouldn't of met up. Thats fair enough. I disagree however - I was heading to the bar anyway and I don't think you should pass up opportunities. Sex is better than jerking off.

If she ever wants to detach herself from me and walk away so be it. That's the pleasing thing for me. I could of handled it either way. Lesson learnt.

I'm heading out tomorrow night to meet new girls so it's a win win for me. Keep on truckin.

 

[Floydispink01]

Update -

Hey guys, it's been a while since I last posted.

Anyways, here's how it's gone. So after meeting this girl - I asked her out again. She said she was busy on the specific day I asked (a week ago) as it was coming up to holidays and she was going back to her hometown up state to see her family. No problem. It's holidays and she should carry out family obligations.

She then told me that she wanted to see me after Xmas and we should arrange a meet up as she was likely to come back early.

I was pretty cool about it the whole time and said its fine. A week has gone by and I told her that I was available on a particular day and have tickets for a gig and she should join me.

She has now told me a few days later that she has decided to stay in her hometown til new year. No counter offer - Just asking how my holidays have been.

I responded - no prob's, enjoy your holidays.

I'm pretty disappointed to be honest but hey ho. I know I should give her some leeway as it's obviously family time and perhaps I should of waited till the new year but I get the impression that she's not too interested.

I've showed my female friend the convo's we've had and she says I'm too cold towards her - like I'm only using her for secks. I actually really like her but apparently 'I'm not showing any real interest in her - im playing games with her with my delayed responses and she's mirroring it'.

Maybe that's true - not once have I complimented her or told her I like her.

I've asked her out twice in succession so what more can I do. I won't be asking her out again. Im thinking that If she like's me then she will reach out to me in the future.

I've met two girls in the mean time on dates but they weren't up too much.

Anyways, spin more plates.